When you have a girlfriend, girls flirt with you

@yoniarnon (1081)
Israel
April 27, 2011 7:24am CST
How could it be that when you are a single no girl wanna look at you? But when you have a girlfriend suddenly a lot of girl try hitting on you, girls flirting with you and wanna know if you are a single. It is look like girls "smells" that you are in a relationship.. For the girls - do you have such a radar? For the boys - do you feel the same? Am i just imagine? :)
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26 responses
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
1 Jul 11
First, it's possible that girls feel safer around you, knowing you have someone, and are not trying to make a relationship with them. Second, there are some women that feel the need to prove themselves, by showing off to someone who has a girlfriend. There's some sick thing that happens where they say to themselves "I'm better than that girl over there" And to prove that, they flirt with you, to see if you'll be interested, thus proving they are better than the girl you have. The worse part is, if you didn't have a girl friend, they would have no interest in you at all. (assuming this is the reason) Third, sometimes you are a different person when you have a girlfriend, than when you do not. I've met guys that acted, and behaved in a way that made them seem desperate. No girl, or guy for that matter, is attracted to 'desperate'. You may have been coming across that way, even if you didn't mean to. You may have changed in a way that you haven't even noticed, which is attractive.
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@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
i think men becomes sexier if they have girlfriends or in an intimate relationship with another girl. I dont know why but i have observed that women flirt with a guy especially if they know that he is taken.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
27 Apr 11
Actually i feel the opposite, when i have a girlfriend i dress less sexy than usually cause i don't need to look better to catch a girl :) But sometimes my girl buying me some nice sexy clothes
• China
28 Apr 11
yoniarnon ,you are a decent boy,i think the man often response to flirt in the circumstance of having a relationship is despised.
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
i think they become sexier in the sense that other girls would consider this man as someone who can protect them or someone who is boyfriend material since a girl has chosen her to be her boyfriend. But yoniarnon still has a point, not dressing nice because he is already taken :)
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
What do you mean radar, friend. It is what you feel or that is a literal words of radar...?
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
27 Apr 11
I mean only Literal it is like they know you are taken and they want you to.. i didn't mean that they actually have a real girlfriend radar :)
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
What I know about literal radar is that one used by the Navy and telecommunication industry... Okay, thanks for answering my question, friend. I appreciate it so much!
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
28 Apr 11
Yes, some girls likes challenge. They tend to like man who are attached because it means those men are attractive, or someone good. It does not matter if one is good looking or not, so long they are attached, it means something. It's more like a psychology thing, playing on the mind of women. It's a sense of security we are looking for, as well as some says, jealousy.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
28 Apr 11
Yes, so it is like the old famous sentence: "All the good guys are attached or they are gays" :)
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@SIMPLYD (79652)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
I guess, having a gf adds to the appeal of a boy. That's why some girls likes chase after them. But if i am a girl, i would not do that. If i know that the boy has already a gf, i would avoid liking anymore.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
28 Apr 11
I agree with you and do the same, but with girls, if i am single and i see a girl that i know she has a boyfriend i step away and sure don't try to hit on her..
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
As a woman, I know my limitation but for girls, I think they are the ones who would flirt. There is a huge difference between a woman and a girl. A woman is mature enough to understand things and a girl is the one who thinks she can just have anything she wants no matter what.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
28 Apr 11
I am totally agree with you, These days youngsters think they can rule the world and that they can get every thing they want, so i guess it is the same with girls and relationships
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Hahah well am a girl, my bf told me that already, we don't have radar, or something but if a girl is descent she will not flirt, we just look on to you and see all the things what is good on you, at first it is just only an admiration it is not flirting. Some guys misunderstand this kinda situation that if a girl looks to a guy then a guy feels that she likes him. sorry to tell that but i hope that is not what happening, happy mylotting
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
28 Apr 11
No, i am just talking in general. And i know when a girl flirt, i don't mean to say only by looking. It happened to me that a girl i study with ask me if i wanna go out with her and i told her i have a girlfriend, but it didn't happened to me when i was single.. :)
@ashuaaaaa (785)
• Germany
27 Apr 11
ha ha ha...very interesting observation. i am amused that somebody else also noticed it. the main reason i guess can be that once u have gf other girls feel that u r capable.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
27 Apr 11
I am happy i succeed to amused you :) I think guys with girlfriend act more cool that other guys..
• United States
27 Apr 11
Hmm I have heard this before amongst some people I know. I can't say for sure if it has happened to me because I am in a committed relationship and normally I don't flirt with others. But I had heard this before, maybe it is the way one carries themselves during a relationship, like standing tall and confidence that has other notice and feel interested. This kind of makes sense because when one is really happy and very confident maybe it shows to others and others like that.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
27 Apr 11
Agree with you and you are probably right and the boy look happy and other girls wanna be with him cause of this, i think boys with girlfriend act more cool around girls than boys without girlfriends..
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
on the other hand, for me it's the other way around. i was more interested with a girl who is already in a relationship, lol! it's true, when i was younger, i was really into flirting with girls who are in a relationship even with the married ones. it was more of a challenge of some ego-type conquest.
• China
28 Apr 11
i am sorry to be so rude to ask why spend so much attention on other's girls or boys since they choose others not you,just for fun or challenge i think?well then where is true love at all?your girl or boy deserve more of your care and attention,don't waste time on others just for you don't have them...
• Australia
27 Apr 11
Hi yoniarnon.. This is such an interesting topic for discussion. Jealousy could be the prime factor for such behaviour by girls. Being a girl myself i should be reacting this way too but i am bit shy in nature, so i don't care whatever is happening around. But yes, after getting married i get so jealous even if my hubby looks at some alien girl or talks to her. I think such behaviour is reasonable. But i am not sure about girls trying to hit on men already in a relationship.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
27 Apr 11
Girls are jealous most of the time, but guys are jealous to.. They don't always know, they try hit on you but than you tell her that you have a girlfriend already..
• United States
27 Apr 11
That's a funny question but so true isn't it??? Girls are so jealous and when a guy becomes "taken". Often times the chick feels as though she missed out.... Are these current friends or just in general?
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
27 Apr 11
Yes, it is correct, it is may be ironic law, When you have some thing you get more of it.. :)
@owstalaga (4553)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
well it's not so much as a radar... it's just that when a guy has a girlfriend, it usually means that they are "safe" with the guy and thus will be friendly with the guy because he should not fall for her whatever she does and that she knows they will just be friends. Sometimes it's not really flirting per se. =)
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Girls and Guys are the same..... Everyone wants what someone else has..... Hey going on my second divorce because someone wanted what I had..... I always said anyone can have my sloppy seconds and if they can get them away from me it is not mine to have
@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
28 Apr 11
When you have a girlfriend, you feel confident. Girls pick up on that. When you are single, you feel down and no girl wants to deal with you.
• United States
28 Apr 11
lol I know what you mean, Its like what they say some people will even go to the extent of wearing a fake wedding ring to make them look more, well I don't know what they are going for I personally think its a dumb idea. I have been in your situation, I mean I was on a date, The girl I was with was sitting in the movie theater while these 2 beautiful girls walked past me and started flirting with me I just smiled back at them and that was it though. Lol maybe they do have some kinda radar... lol
@piya84 (2591)
• India
28 Apr 11
I think its because men feel safe secure and confident when they are in relationship.That i dont need you attitude can do wonders. This applies to women as well.
@taski24 (214)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
Maybe, just maybe, girls love the challenge, too. Maybe, just maybe, it's part of the survival instinct. To try to be ahead of the pack. To earn the love of the alpha male (let's assume you're the alpha male). My advice, my friend, take them as they come. Why? Because offer is good while supplies last.
@cikers (18)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
Yes! you are just that lucky guy. be careful because a lots of temptation are along the way as you are saying. Honest and sincere to your love one is the best policy if you are me. Good luck :)
@cikers (18)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
yes, you are just that lucky. temptation is always there when you expect it the less, be honest and sincere to your love one is the best policy here. Good luck