Did you also feel i BACK STABBED my friend
By vikrantrox
@vikrantrox (220)
India
April 29, 2011 10:21am CST
Actually my friend was playing with a girl despite of he been married and a father of a 6 year old daughter. He works in a call center and at a good post. He usually interacts with beautiful girls and there once he met a girl. He fell in love with him and since then he kept saying her lies about his life. Recently that girl got to know that he was married on which my friend defended himself saying, that he is not happy with her wife.
Once my friend and that girl had a fight, and she called me. I said all truth about my friend to that girl so that she stays away from him. He lies about this education degrees, about his salary, about his financial status and everything. SO once i told that girl, she got shocked and broke up with my friend. Recently my friend came to know that it was me who said his all truth to his girlfriend and because of me they broke up. I lost my friend as he is not talking to me since that day.
Did i ditched my friend? or i saved life of a girl? I dont know what i did, but i am guilty of something. What do you think about this? what should i do now?
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8 responses
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
30 Apr 11
You know what vikrantrox, that so called friend isn't a friend at all! No friend would put another friend in that position. SHE called you, you didn't call her, SHE called you! She asked about this so called friend and you told her the truth which is much more than this so called friend could do. Shame on this friend! He's not a friend! He's a lying, cheating, no count dirt bag! How dare he do this to this poor girl not to mention HIS WIFE! You ought to tell his wife what he had done so she can do something BETTER with her life instead of staying with this dirt bag who obviously doesn't love her.
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@vikrantrox (220)
• India
30 Apr 11
I haven't told all this to his wife yet because i dint want to create one more mess for that family. They have done love marriage and now i cant see them split up. His wife is damn sweet and good girl. She doesn't deserve to be a single mother at age of 26.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
30 Apr 11
You say his wife is a sweet and good girl and doesn't deserve to be single at age 26. I say that's all the more reason to tell her because SHE doesn't deserve a jerk of a husband that she has. She deserves someone who won't cheat on her and lie. She deserves someone who will love her for who she is and not stray to other women. He could be made to pay child support for his children because HE is in the wrong.
@vikrantrox (220)
• India
30 Apr 11
I know she deserves much more and better than what she has now. But because of love marriage, her family has abandoned her and now she has no place to run and go. So i havent told anything to her yet.
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@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 11
Hello vikrantrox... :)
im agree with what you have done by telling the truth about your friend to the girl... in one side, your friend will hate you and treat you as an enemies cos you “betrayed” him... but the other side, you saved the girl’s life and your friend’s marriage... if the girl never know the truth until now, maybe the love affair is still continue... and perhaps your friend and the girl already sleep together, and the worst case is the girl get pregnant without knowing the truth... and that can hurt both side, the girl and your friend’s wife... it’s good that you stopped the affair before it’s too late... just imagine what will happen to your friend’s daughter if she found out that her father betrayed her mother and got divorce... you save a little girl’s future from being a broken home child..
two thumbs up for you... :)
d(^_^)b
good day... :)
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@vikrantrox (220)
• India
30 Apr 11
I know that by my this truth, i save my friends marriage and his daughters future, but what went wrong is that girl is still in relation with my friend even after knowing all this. She was upset after listening the truth, but still accepted him. Now what has happened is that my friend has turned enemy to me, and still the relation is going on, and his wife and daughter are in danger.
@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
1 May 11
Oh no!
i thought that the girl left your friend after she knew about the truth... what an useless girl... she knew the truth and keep the relationship and trying to break your friend’s marriage too?
if your friend and the girl keep the affair, then i think you should go and tell your friend’s wife about the truth before it is too late...
poor wife that she had to go through this... :’(
@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
1 May 11
Oh no!
i thought that the girl left your friend after she knew about the truth... what an useless girl... she knew the truth and keep the relationship and trying to break your friend’s marriage too?
if your friend and the girl keep the affair, then i think you should go and tell your friend’s wife about the truth before it is too late...
poor wife that she had to go through this... :’(
@cheatedaphrodite (810)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
Thumbs up for saving an innocent girl, I appreciate you for that. Honestly, you should not be guilty of anything because you did something right. You did not make the situation worse but you also helped both your friend and that girl. You helped that girl not to be a victim of a crooked minded man and you also helped your friend to learn his mistakes. If you feel guilty for loosing your friend well don't be because he is not worth to be your friend. It was not you who lost a friend rather it was him who loses you. And why would you be friends with that kind of man. If I were you, I would not bother myself to be friends with him if he thinks you betrayed him for just telling the truth. I just hope his wife will not find out about this thing, for sure he will be more into trouble.
Well, great move..Keep it up.. Don't bother to talk to him, let him make the first move to talk to you. If he would say sorry to you then accept it but if he would still blame you then let go of your friendship. He does not deserve a true friend like you.
Have a great day!
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@vikrantrox (220)
• India
30 Apr 11
Well things got little tensed in meanwhile. He off-course has stopped talking to me and neither reply to my emails also. Actually we where childhood friends and he feels that i took the advantage of him. As we were childhood friends, he always use to share things with only me and no one else, now when his GF got to know about his truth, he came to know that it must be only me. He has threatened me that he will engage into fight with me if he sees me. Unfortunately we are neighbors. I am out of my state for job purpose since last 10 months.
I know i should not be guilty and i saved a girl, but my efforts got wasted, as that girl even after knowing the truth, is with him today. She went into depression, cursed herself a lot to be with him, but finally dont know what happened, but they both are together again, and my friends wife and her daughter are yet unaware of all this.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Apr 11
You are guilty of being a caring and kind individual. The way I see it, it could have been your sister being hurt by this cheater. So do not feel guilty at all, suppose it was you, yes a man being cheated on, would you not want to know also?
As for the friend, he is the one that has the issue because isn't he forgetting that he was the one cheating and lying. This type of friend who needs an enemy. lol
@marcmm (1804)
• Malaysia
2 May 11
Good job my friend. That is what all of us should do if we encounter the same problem.
You not just help the girl but you your so-called friend family as well. How many family have broken because of cheating? Too many and this has to stopped. you sure do your part there.
@vikrantrox (220)
• India
2 May 11
Thanks marcmm. I feel good that i did something courageous. I wish all turns out to be well as for now, its not.
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@kalithedestroyer (71)
• United States
29 Apr 11
You did the right thing, and that's what counts. Yes you backstabbed him, but it was a necessity to help out that girl. Your friend is a jerk, and you're better off without him as your friend.
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@shaggin (71662)
• United States
29 Apr 11
I think that you did the right thing. The girl called asking you for the truth and you did not lie to her you gave her the truth. You shouldnt have to cover and lie for your friend. Your friend should not be married and having a girlfriend at the same time. If he isnt happy with his wife they should split up. It is sad that your friend is not speaking to you now but if he is going to be that way maybe his friendship isnt worth that much anyway.
@vikrantrox (220)
• India
30 Apr 11
I saved, yet i didnt saved anyone. Its like i jumped into fire saving someone, and i got burnt. He is happy with his wife and for only that reason a kid is there on this earth, unhappy people cant manage to stay together happily with a kid. He was just lying to his GF so that he can stay together. As far as i have sensed, he is in deeply love with the other girl also. He was not flirting around with her or was just for some x purposes, but yet, he is married and a father. That made me take that step.
I am happy you all feel i did right. but how should i made my friend realize that i did it for him.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Apr 11
Your friend doesn't really sound like a good person. Maybe he was lying to you about things too. I don't think you did anything wrong, but you should also have realized that it might mean then friendship was over.
