If You Have Had Children do You Get 'Phantom Symptoms' for the REST OF YOUR LIFE

United States
May 1, 2011 2:13am CST
I am so annoyed. I've had three beautiful children that I love very much and I would not trade the joy of having them for anything. Strangely enough I had wonderful pregnancies, even when stuff went wrong, it was still a really good experience for me because I knew I was bring a life into this world. For the most part I was extremely drugged for my labor and deliveries so all I can really say about those is that I was laying there thinking I looked like a punk rocker with all the bracelets and I am told I tried to get my ex to climb up in the bed with me... but like I said, I was really drugged. But, the annoying thing for me now is that my youngest is 3 years old and I'm getting pregnancy symptoms... but I have taken about 10 pregnancy tests in the past 2 months and they all showed up negative so now I'm about ready to scream. Baby dreams (check), sensitivity to smell (check), Swollen feet (check), Cramps (check), heartburn (check)... I haven't had a period yet either... And anyhow, these symptoms I'm having are mostly stuff that you have later in the pregnancy anyhow, so if I was it would show on a pee stick. I've had phantom symptoms before. After my second daughter I went for two years feeling kicks and flutters in my stomach before I got pregnant again. Then it stopped until my son was old enough in there to start doing it. Even now every once in awhile I get that feeling too. But it hasn't popped up in awhile. I've heard other mom's say pregnancy and childbirth changed their bodies but never have I heard anyone else complain about this and the one way most women change... I'm all in tacked down there. So, is this my personal body change I have to go through because my lady parts bounced right back? Or what? Has anyone else had this problem and does it ever go away? I wouldn't mind feeling pregnant if I actually had something to show for it. That's all part of the beauty of pregnancy. I just don't want to feel pregnant if I'm not actually pregnant!
4 responses
1 May 11
I've never had anything like this! But ever since having my daughter 19 months ago, I always SWEAR I can feel a baby kicking in my stomach! It's usually a muscle twitch or spasm (not food or gas moving through me), and it feels just like a kick... I never have had any of the other symptoms though. Except for the dreaming, the other symptoms all could be signs of something relatively serious... you may want to go to the doctor and get it checked out...
• United States
2 May 11
The dreaming thing is weird. For awhile there I would have a baby dream and then someone in my boyfriend's family would end up pregnant. It was driving me nuts. So, these past few times I've just been crossing my fingers hoping someone else doesn't end up pregnant. Lol I know I need to go to the doctor... if nothing else the head doctor. Maybe I have that mental condition where your body thinks it's pregnant over a sense of loss that I might be feeling. Lol... it's not funny... but laughing makes it a little easier to stomach.
@pastigger (618)
• United States
3 May 11
I say go to the doctor also. There is a chance that it would not show up on a pee stick sometimes a blood test has to be done. I have had the kicking feeling and it freaks me out as I know that I am not pregnant. It does not help that I lost stomach muscle (didn't know I actually had any) so I could pass as a little pregnant. It could be something that may need treated. I have PCOS so I have hormone issues anyway and that I know can lead to some of the problems that I have. I had the smell a few weeks back I have a friend that is pregnant and it is like I was picking up her symptoms. The swollen feet could really be a sign of something else. If possible I would go and be checked out there could easily be something else going on.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
3 May 11
Wow this is new to me. I have never heard of this. All I can think of is hormones..so I too would just check with your doctor. Good luck to ya..sounds very, very frustrating.
• United States
1 May 11
I haven't really heard of anything like that. If you are really concerned about it I would go to the doctor. Sometimes the HCG hormone doesn't show up in your urine. Your doctor could do an ultrasound or a blood test to confirm you are not pregnant. I hope this helps. Best of luck