hatred... overcome it, people!

@tammy27 (1247)
Philippines
May 1, 2011 10:17am CST
was there ever a point in your life that you hated yourself? whether physical issues, actions that you have done, decisions that you have made... for me, yes. i hated myself for being so insecure at some point. it was that time when all i want is to be the best, i was so hard on my self, and later on i realized that i was so busy thinking how others think about me and being so busy making a perfect girl in me, i totally messed up. i messed up my attitude, and my life. what about you mylotters, anything you guys can share about this?
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@free_man (7337)
• United States
2 May 11
Hi Tammy and welcome to my lot. There are times I believe that all of us have felt like we wasn't good enough. But one thing we all need to remember is that God made us the way we are because God loves us just the way we are. And after all humans have a way of making people get down on themselves because they don't realize that we are what God wanted us and who can say that God didn't do a great job. Some people only feel better when they make others feel rotten about themselves. God made you just the way you are and loves you for who you are. So who cares what humans think as long as God loves us then who can speak against God? God loves you Tammy you are prefect in Gods eyes and that is all that should matter!
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
2 May 11
thanks for your words free_man. very true those statements are. thanks for sharing them, happy mylotting. :)
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@free_man (7337)
• United States
5 May 11
Hi Tammy. I speak what I feel. When you feel like you aren't so special you should go listen to this man he will teach you Gods word and will show you how to tell that God made you just like HE wanted you to be. And you are prefect in the way that God created you my friend. Your always welcome. Happy my lotting to you too. http://www.shepherdschapel.com/index.htm
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
2 May 11
Yes, I did that any years ago, thinking how would others see me before doing something which resulted in me not doing anything well. Then I tried to shrug of whatever people would say of my action, as long as I got what I want without hurting others. It helps.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
2 May 11
true, shrugging it off really does help. when i was at that time it took me about 2 years to realize that im being very stupid and all. my life turned into a mess instead of a picture perfect one that i've been dreaming. good thing im far from that past now. :)
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
3 May 11
Yes, that was exactly what I thought back then. I convinced myself that people had many other things to do so why did they stare at me? Okay, even when people did stare at me, it would be for a short time cause they would have something else that caught their attentions. So, I just shrugged it off and moved on from then.
• Philippines
2 May 11
As you can see, hatred in yourself is developed when you try to please every people that is around you. So you should always try to give importance to yourself so that to avoid hatred. And once you have overcome your hatred to your self, it is also easy to overcome hatred to other people.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
2 May 11
very well said, atprudente.. thanks for sharing your thoughts, happy mylotting.. :)
@toniganzon (53187)
• Philippines
2 May 11
I once hated myself in college for pleasing others too much and like you yes i was more concerned of what they have to say rather than what i really think of myself. Now i just don't care what others think of me as long as i'm not hurting anybody, i do what i want, i wear the clothes that i like, i listen to music that i think is cool without minding other people's opinion about me. So i feel much more comfortable with myself now and even better. The most important thing is i have more confidence in myself right now that it shines through and people really appreciate me better now than before.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
2 May 11
well thanks good to hear. :) it's really true, that we feel more comfortable if we just mind our own business, and be ourselves rather than worry about what others will say and think. we just cant please everybody, but even if many people think im weird or something, i just think that at some place in this world im so so sure there's at least someone who'd appreciate me. haha
@Jlyn10 (10900)
• Malaysia
2 May 11
I wouldn't say that I hate myself for the things that I did or didn't do. I think 'regret' would be the right word for it. Sometimes we all do make mistakes in life, but still I wouldn't want to hate myself for it. I would feel sorry for the mistakes that I have done and hope that I would do better the next time.
@celticeagle (119147)
• Boise, Idaho
2 May 11
There were some times in my life that I certainly could have done things differently or better or even more intently. I always lived on the edge enjoying life to the fullest. But I don't look back and feel badly. If I did wrong anyone I go and talk to them and see how they recall it and work it out.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
1 May 11
Hatred is a very powerful emotion, i believe that we all have the ability to overcome it. hate does not have to be what controls us.