I'm confused with this person, if things had worked out, she wouldn't

May 2, 2011 10:17am CST
be in the situation she's in now. Back when we moved to the house, there was a blind woman who was looking for a place to share. She never found anything, but opted to move to an apartment on her own somewhere. She judged us poorly when there was a mixup when we were supposed to meet her, and that closed the door on her having a place to live. She tried to find a place, but her disability was proving to be a denial point for all landlords. She's partially blind and can't do stairs safely. No one wanted to rent to her, they all feared that she would fall and then sue them for it. We had offered her 2 rooms in our house, she would have taken them if she had known there was going to be an issue with landlords. The other day, she posted to people on a discussion board that she was living in a hotel with no internet access or phone access. She managed to borrow a connection I guess to post that. So now, she's trying again to find a suitable place to live, and there's no one catering to her needs. Again, people are too afraid to deal with her. If she had moved in with us, she would still have a roof over her head. We're not judgmental of people with disabilities, in fact, we would have welcomed her with no problems at all. But her biggest concern was the pets. Since she can't see well, she wouldn't know if they were in the way or not, and didn't want to trip on them. I feel helpless in a way, we could have helped her, but she refused and now has no one to blame but herself. I wish her the best and will be following the discussions to see what the end result of this issue is.
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5 responses
@GardenGerty (105303)
• United States
2 May 11
She probably would have gotten along much better than the roommate you have, but I can understand what she is expressing about the pets. I believe the pets would be sensitive to her disability and would have learned to stay out of her way. Is it possible she would reconsider when you get the bum out of your house? You could put bells on the cats, also, to help.
• Canada
2 May 11
I don't think she would, simply being, the area is not the right one for her. She wants to be closer to downtown, and we're too far out for her. She would have been better, at least she would have bathed, not smoked, or made a mess either, so it would have been far better for us.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
5 May 11
I'm a little confused. Did you offer her a place and she turned it down or did she not meet with you? It seems that landlords can be very picky with people with disabilities, especially if they are afraid of being sued. Does this lady not like pets? I don't recall how many you had, but it seems like she could have become used to the situation and animals do tend to be able to stay out from underfoot most of the time. Can you contact her again and make an offer of your room again? Or are you not interested in doing so after your last roommate? Have a great day!!!
@anklesmash (1416)
3 May 11
You should feel good that you offered to help her and it was her choice to turn you down.I suppose you could offer it her again but remember you have no obligation to her and it was her choice not to tkae your offer of help. I wish her and you all the best.
• United States
2 May 11
Yes you have a good attitude about the situation, and you should know in your heart that you did all that you could do for her. I would just pray for her that things work out for her. I wish you both the best of luck
@shrijsr (577)
• Bangalore, India
2 May 11
Hello kris! I feel good that you still have your concerns for her even after she turned you down! Nice attitude! Here in this place, as you said, there's no one other than her who is to be blamed! If at all she found it difficult to handle the pets, still she could have been with you for time being and then she could have started her search! Atleast she would have a roof under which she could live for sometime! Now things are gone, we certainly can't help other than wishing her good! Try to convince her again once that you could still give her place for a while at least until she finds a place for herself! Such people will have their own insecure feelings and we need to understand that and be a little supportive! tell her that you will take special care about the pets until she stays so that she would be comfortable enough to live in! Cheers! Good luck for you and that lady!