I dont want to be judged

United States
May 7, 2011 4:40pm CST
I love a man, he is with someone else they have been together for about a year. I have known this man for over 10 years. I dont know how long he has known her for they have a little baby together now. You may think I am trying to ruin what they have but according to him they dont have much of anything. He tells me he loves me and that we do have a chance to be together again. He tells me he loves me he will always love me. He tells me that he never tells her he loves her anymore and I trust him. I love him but I want him but I dont want to ruin whatever he has with her. Sometimes I feel like I cant trust him but why shouldn't I? I mean if he isnt with me why should it matter what he does...
6 responses
Moesha99
@Moesha99 (38)
• Barbados
8 May 11
My advice is to follow your heart. Do whatever makes you happy, but remember the consequences of your actions.
tammy27
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
8 May 11
i dont see you as a home-wrecker or something, it's just that you're honest. im on nobody's side here, but if you ask me, the guy should decide who he like to be with. i he loves you more than his other girl, then perhaps he should be with you, and fix the other agenda (his other girl) fast and smooth. i think it's better if he'll make an action now that they have only 1 child (children is always a big thing to consider on things like these) rather than doing thing then they have more children (the split may have a bad effect on the children)
sweetloveforeve
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
8 May 11
sorry for your situation its really sad. anyway i think that you should just go and talk with him and tell that if he loves you really so why is he with the girl yet? its ok that they have a kid together but that doesnt mean that he has to be her boyfriend. if he loves you he should be with you and sure create the baby at same time but being with you. he should be only friends with her.
vexxus
@vexxus (712)
• Philippines
8 May 11
if you really love somebody you should love him no matter what it takes, i know a friend of mine, he has a baby with his girlfriend, but few months later he met a girl, his co-worker to be exact... you know what he did? he court the girl and they become lovers, of course his original girlfriend got mad, but he is determined to continue his affair to his co-worker. Until now they were together. Some negotiation has taken place, regarding to his ex-girlfriend's baby, he will support their child financially, and so he can be with his new girlfriend.
blogger01
@blogger01 (124)
• Philippines
8 May 11
The fact that they have a baby means the other girl has an ace. HE may tell you he loves you and wants to be with you but the communication between him and her will always be there because of the child. That doesn't take a quick decision. You must take time to think about it very carefully.
jmedina92
@jmedina92 (3)
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8 May 11
you should confront him and see what his true feelings are if you dont trust him.... and maybe you guys will ge somewhere