My partner is not answering on a Saturday night all nite... and im freaking out!

Australia
May 8, 2011 9:06am CST
What would you be thinking or doing if your partner wasn't taking your calls? would you think that it was harmless first off or are you someone who is jealous strait away and the longer he doesn't answer for the more it eats at you and you start coming up with all the worst cases scenarios in your head that you hope isnt true? I am very Jealous by nature, i am living away from my partner and he lives with a friend who is always partying and going from one girl to the next. I get so nervous when i cant get intouch with him, am i over reacting i have been trying to call for the last few hours heaps of times and im starting to go crazy!! Some advice would be great your opinion on the question and your advice for how you would calm yourself down or distract your thought pattern so it isn't so hard to handle the waitng? Thanks in advance, I would really appreciate someone amazings genuis solution to my problem..
7 responses
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
9 May 11
For me be calm and prayed to Jehovah First then ask your self you would be good in her even if she do in you get the reason maybe the cellphone no battery that's why she didn't answer you.
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• Australia
9 May 11
The phone rang... a wh0le lot. but its ok its sorted now!!
@sushil86 (27)
• India
9 May 11
see this is really not a perfect situation.i am also very jealous.specially when your partner is partying with someone else not picking your calls.if this happens with me i could have done something bad.but i suggest you to not do any such type of things.just talk to your partner.ask for his strange behaviour.may be you people can come out with a solution....or move on...
• Australia
9 May 11
we have been trying to work through troubles and things had been going pretty good for us, i think coz he was out drinking with his friends the night before i got worried for no reason. I know he loves me.
• United States
8 May 11
It would be hard for me or anyone to jump to a conclusion because it would not be fair to opinionated as I do not know what your relationship is like. If this is not a continual pattern where he does not pick up your calls maybe something has happened, in which I hope not. Maybe he did not charge his phone if it is a cell. Maybe got in late and is resting. Being in a long distance relationship for me would not work because either I would panic and or jump to conclusions. Because this is your relationship and someone you care about I would not like to jump to conclusions. Give him time today and see if he calls you back. It could be a reasonable reason. I do hope all goes well and not any negativity. If there is no valid reason perhaps speak to your partner and let your partner know how this makes you feel. Please be well and I do hope all is just a misunderstanding or valid reason. Coming here to discuss is a good way to vent as it is not good to bottle in your feelings.
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• Australia
9 May 11
Yes it is defineately because of past experiences with him, and problems in our relationship that i am feeling this way... it's just gut wrenching at the time!! I don't want to jump to conclusions, but i have been betrayed before and it was just out of the ordinary so i was worried. Its ok tho he says he was sleeping andi am not there to say otherwise so i have to believe what he says for both of our sake, where there is no trust there is no love.
• United States
9 May 11
I would probably think the same. I have quite the imagination so something like that would make it run wild. But at the same time, if you tend to be jealous you might be smothering them too... they might just want a break. Maybe they feel sick. Or maybe they fell asleep. If it is something innocent and they see 100 missed calls from you... it looks bad on you. I'd just wait and see what they say. I'd really stress on giving the benefit of the doubt. Because if it wasn't something bad... you have pushed them away.
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• Australia
9 May 11
hahaha thanks, your right but i still rang so many times! Im happy again now! he rang me to wish me goodnight tonight!
• United States
9 May 11
I dont like jealousy, i dont get jealous, if my partner didn't pick my call, then i beleive may be she is not with her phone, i trust her, love comes with trust. Trust is all you need
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• Australia
9 May 11
That sounds amazing! I wish i could have that with my partner again! Trust takes forever to build seconds to loose and a life time to get back!
@katieh (151)
8 May 11
If I wasn't living there, I'd just assume he had gone out somewhere. Would you expect him to stay in every night just in case you decided to call? Or to tell you if he was going to be out for the day? I'd be concerned if I couldn't get in touch with my partner who I hormally lived with. But I think it's perfectly normal for someone who you don't live with to have a life of their own.
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• Australia
9 May 11
Yes thats right but i also think that you have a partner you should be apart of their lives we have lived together in the past but have had some difficulties and hard times... so we have been on again now for awhile and planning on moving in together, its just out of routine... and it was his mobile(cell) phone and it is usually on.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
8 May 11
im little miss jealous. hehehe but i always try and control myself. i just think that before screaming or something i should just be calm, think of nothing negative as much as possible. perhaps he just needs a little space, or he wants to enjoy his Saturday night. i do understand that it's not at all times that i should know his whereabouts, after all he's not a kid anymore. but surely i cant erase tha fact that im a girlfriend and i am da** worried. when Sunday morning comes, perhaps we can both talk about last night's agenda and try to make things clear.. :)
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• Australia
9 May 11
He told me that fell asleep at 7:30 because he was so tired, i know he had been working all week and was partying and drinkoing the night before that.. when i wasn't jealous because he was with friends of his i have met before and know that it is generally harmless when they get together. Yes i hate that it is usually only ever the girlfriend who gets ignored and everyone else calls are taken?? I still however love him, and hope that he was just asleep and i was being my own version of lil miss jealous!! But glad to hear from you Tammy !