Mother in law and Daughter in law

@sriroshan (2586)
India
May 9, 2011 12:16pm CST
Mother in law and daughter in law always fight on small small issues that happen in the kitchen or in the house. Both are thinking they are right in their own way but without thinking that such fight may spoil their relationship and not only this even their children will not respect them. So it is always better for the daughter in law to take the back step and be cool I am sure everything will be OK.
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@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
I think it will be better if the daughter in law will just cool down if her mother in law is having argument on her,She must do that for the better of their relationship. Sometimes mother in law just want to improve the skills of her daughter in law when it comes in house works so she always saying what she think is right.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
12 May 11
Yes, that's always the case for mother and daughter in law. Both sides like to find fault with each other even though nobody's at fault. It's a standard practice from the olden days till now, and it has never changed one bit. I'm glad that i'm on good terms with my bf's mom, but i don't know if that will changed if she's my mother in law then. I've always respected her, and i know what she wants. I hope to do my role well, to prevent such a situation from happening.
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
10 May 11
Hi sriroshan, Well maybe their are jealous with each other. They won't fight for nothing there must be something wrong with them. even the reason of their fight is small issues , i think there fight is not just for that issue, they maybe have their own hidden hatred with each other in the past.. Almost mother and daughter in law are fighting because they are not agree with each others decision.. they are not contented with each other policy and rules in the house especially when the daughter lives in the house together with the mother. They will not agree in many things, in the house decision and activity. There must have someone who will make them understand that they are now a one family and must have a peace with each other.. They must do all things for the betterment of each other. We can't say that the daughter in law will be the one to step back, even the mother in law is the one who is wrong. ALso we can't say that the mother in law will step back because the daughter in law is right. They must figure out by their own self that they must be the first to forgive and they must forget. The fighting will not be only between then, some people from their sides might be affected by this fight. They must agree to each og them decision and they must have respect with each other.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
10 May 11
Hi. sriroshan. Well, I am never the one to start any beef or make any drama towards my mother-in-law. But, if she decides to step out of her line with me, then I will have to put her back in her place in line. I will respect her at the same time as I am giving her my feedback. I will not let her talk to me any kind of way. Just like she wants to be treated with respect, I do too. So, it works both ways. I will be cool just as long as she stays cool with me. I used to take all kinds of mess from my mil. But, not anymore. I will not tolerate her mistreating me while I sit there without saying anything back to her. Now, I have gotten stronger and I will express my feelings to her like an adult. I will not let her get away with hurting me anymore.
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
10 May 11
We live with our in-laws and will always be because they have no other companion in their big house except us. Sometimes, it couldn't be avoided that a rift will erupt between me and my mother-in-law. She is as opinionated as me and in those areas we would sometimes disagree. But in order to maintain the harmonious relationship, i choose to just be silent after saying my opinion , when she insist on what she thinks is right. I respect her, so i don't want us to quarrel.
• United States
10 May 11
What? Why? Why should the daughter-in-law be the one to back down? How would children loose respect for them for not agreeing or even fighting? None of that makes any sense at all. A daughter-in-law has EVERY right to stand up for herself, most especially in her own house and when it comes to her own life. I for one utterly detest my mother-in-law and I outright refuse to have anything to do with her ever again.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
9 May 11
I never fought with my mother in law. I respect her like my real mom. Without her my husband won't be my husband..so,i have and must respect her.
@inertia4 (26901)
• United States
9 May 11
Sometimes Mother in laws and daughter in laws could be a fatal mixture. I know my ex did not get along with my mother. Women are very competitive people, especially when it comes to sharing the same kitchen. They also do not see eye to eye when it comes to their children and grad children. But there are those daughter in laws that get along wonderfully with their mother in laws. That is a perfect fit. That is one sign that the man found the right woman.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
9 May 11
This can always be a strained relationship. So many things can be said and taken the wrong way. Marrying into a family is not always as easy as it looks. a lot of changes come your way. As along as you make a conscious effort, they can be good changes for your life. the mother and daughter in law relationship doesn't have to be a hardship. it can also be a sense of comfort and joy if you let it be.
@katieh (151)
9 May 11
I've never fought with my mother in law. Not even once. Having my own house and my own kitchen probably has something to do with that.