ending a relationship

United States
May 10, 2011 3:19am CST
a friend of mine is in relationship she said she hates conflicts and wants to leave the man she is with when he goes to the store in hopes she can ger her belongings later i told her thats the wrong way that she needs to confront him she lives in iowa i told her i would ask people here on my lot how and what to say to smooth things over when does tell him she said she does not love him any more the sparked has died and she is depressed and unhappy what adivice can I give her i am having problems thinking as i am having problems my self so if any one can help give me your suggestion
6 responses
@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
10 May 11
I left my ex so many times before the final time. He was devostated and all but I knew if I waitied and talked to him there would be a big fight. If she is the least bit afraid of him getting physical with her I would just leave. I would. Maybe it isn't the best way but better than getting thumped around. If, on the other hand, he is respectful of her then I would set down with him and tell him that you feel it best if you leave and tactfully give him the reasons why. Using 'I feel' statement are good. And not being accusatory or saying nasty things you will only be sorry for later is not good. Good luck to her.
• United States
10 May 11
thanks for the in put good advice
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
10 May 11
Hope it helps. I have 'been there done that'.
@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
10 May 11
Once you’ve certain that parting ways is the best solution, doing the actual break up can be pretty nerve racking, since people’s hearts are on the line.Make the obligation to be honest with yourself and the other person. The truth will set you free.
• United States
10 May 11
i will tell her that whats the best words to say
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
10 May 11
if a relationship has to end, end it right. one just dont leave. the partner ought to know why. who knows how telling could be beneficial for both of them; the other having a closure, and the other learning the mistakes.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 May 11
For me, i suggest that she should have a heart to heart talk with him first. She has to soften it though a bit, by saying that she really did love him so much, but she can't go on pretending that until now she do love him. That, it would hurt him more if they continue being together, with her so cold already, because her love is gone. It's better to hurt him now than to prolong the agony.
• United States
11 May 11
Well I have two ways to look at this. The right way of looking at this is that she will have to tell him that she is not in love with him and they should separate for awhile if not permanently. I think that's an easy way of letting him down. She should also say she isn't happy and is depressed. Now, the other way to look at this is, if she is scared of confrontation then she should just leave and grab her stuffwhile he is gone. This way is not the best way I would do the breakup at all, I think she should it the proper way anad tell him how she feels and that they should separate for awhile. I hope this helps. Keep me posted. :)
@wolfwise (100)
• Philippines
11 May 11
I don't really know the whole story but I think I prefer that she should talk things out with him. Not talking or sorting things out with him might generate issues in the future, like in case it comes to worse like he may call her every time and bother her or even stalking her. If she do decide do to confront him she should have somebody nearby just in case. But just as I have said I don't know the whole story so I made precautionary measure if a bad scenario comes out from this. And this is only my honest opinion hope this helps.