How long for you and your family come to a decision?

omg!!! actually i think before taking every single or small decision, but about 5 mins or 10 mins not more than that, when it comes to group decision then i go with others, because i don't like arguing.

I think the best way to deal with this kind of situation is for one to gain some and loose some. You can not have your way all the time. You need some maturity to handle challenging situation like this. You should not be a dictator that is forcing your interest on others. A relationship can only last the test of time if you loose some of your strong views to enable you accommodate the views of your spouse or girl friend. that is how the whole world goes.

For us, it depends. Sometimes when we're deciding on eating on restaurants, we stall and think for a while. It's because we're gonna spend money and money is important, I guess. But if we're just gonna eat at home it's always whatever. No one decides the specifics until we realize what's available. When it comes to other things, though, we let only one decide on something then work from there.

i think most of the time it is difficult to come to a decision when it involves people. hahaahhaha!!! i could relate. well, with my bf it takes forever in making a decision on what to eat, what to buy, and where to go for fun. it's almost always like that and i always teased him saying that he's like the girl in the relationship.

Yes, I can sympathize with you there. On quite a number of important things the jury is still out! We're trying to renovate the house to sell shortly. I've been renovating it for the past two years & from the beginning we couldn't agree on what was to be done, how it was to be done, to what extent it should be done nor how much should be spent on doing it. We can have all the sound, logical & sensible arguments we like, but in the end it's just met with a big flat "no!". My wife & I are both vegan - have been for many years already - maybe over ten years for both of us, so it's not too tricky to get lunch sorted out, but everything else can be quite frustrating! It's important though to value the process & a good way to do that is to have a good look at the results achieved. If it had been me on my own, it would never have been done in the first place, nor turned out as well as it did. It's also important to give each other the freedom to express themselves & their opinions. If you can't do this with each other, then it becomes even more difficult to express your opinions fearlessly in public. Patience, tolerance & love should be guiding principles in these cases. Things may become better much sooner than you expected. Hang in there.