Initiating A Discussion When We Don't Have Time To Respond Back...?!!

@AKRao24 (21618)
India
May 13, 2011 12:13pm CST
Dear Friends! Many a times though I get some ideas to stsrt a discussion, I think twice before posting it, for I get afraid if I can really respond / attend back to the members who are responding to my discussion! In fact many a times, (especially time like the present one which is very busy time of my professional activities) I hardly get time to respond back to the members who are responding to me! Some times I take few weeks to respond back. I feel really bad and guilty about it! I ask myself if a I doing right thing or not by attending them so late! So now a days I try to post a new discussion only when I think / feel that I can respond back to the responses I get from my friends to do justice to their responses! How about you do you take this factor into consideration before posting a new topic of discussion or yo just casually post a discussion and don't bother about responding back to the responses you get! Could you kindly give your opinion about this ! Your opinions will be highly appreciated! Thanks !
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13 responses
• United States
13 May 11
I do not initiate many discussions at all, but when I decide I will initiate one, I always factor the time. I honestly at times have come up with a topic and thought about the time first and have actually put it off for when I do. I am one to comment to each and every response so I definitely want to make sure I have the available time. I do understand that something can happen and a discussion is put on hold from commenting. That is quite understandable. I suppose the only time it is not good if it is always that way, then may be a member should consider their avail time first. However, the beauty of myLot is that it is never too late and as the old saying says better late then never.
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@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hello Dear hardworkinggurl! That is what I meant to say! I appreciate your views and your consideration for our fellow members! Since we can initiate discussion here on Mylot on any topic, there is no dearth of initiating a discussion! But the ting is after initiating the discussion are we in a position to respond back the responses we are getting for our discussions or not! Since you are a person, which I have observed many a times, who respond / comment back every time, you really can't initiate many discussions as it becomes practically impossible to attend all the responses! Yes some times because or some or other reasons we may likely keep some discussions on hold for commenting, which I also do, especially the one which requires lot of thinking and composing the rsponse, this is quite understandable! Yes, we can rspond any discussion at any time or comment on any response at this lovely forum of Mylot as you said, it is always better late then never! But then personally I feel there is a different joy and enjoyment if we get instant or some quick responses / comments to our discussions / responses! Thanks for the response! I enjoyed your response! All the best!
@jennyze (7045)
• Indonesia
16 May 11
I don't. I can always get back to them in days, weeks or ever months. I doubt if I can go away more than a week, still I would not re-consider for long to post a discussion and you shouldn't either. Knowing your posts and responses here, you are pretty active in this site, so you would not neglected your friend's responses for a long time.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
16 May 11
Hello Dear jennyze! You are right,since we know that our friends are waiting for our reply in the form of comments ,how can we neglect them for a long time! So it is always better to avoid initiating a discussion if we think that we can't do justice to the discussion by responding back to the responders in the form of comments! I know you are particular about the commenting and you are on of the active member on this forum , so naturally for people like you it is next to impossible to do so! Thanks for the response!
@jennyze (7045)
• Indonesia
18 May 11
I just can't loose. I hate more people who only post discussion after discussion without bothering to comment back of the responses. And the discussion posted are mostly a cut and paste of some news on the internet...
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
18 May 11
Yes Dear jennyze! You are very true! Such things , in fact it defeats the very purpose of discussion or interaction amongst the members! They simply initiate a discussion and go to the next one without paying any interest to the earlier one! I too feel very bad and some times disappointed and frustrated, not to get any comment on our efforts! Thanks !
@mysdianait (64282)
• Italy
13 May 11
It is for this very simple reason that I have only 469 started discussions in over 4 years since I joined myLot. Inever start a topic if I am not going to be able to comment to the responses (or if I am using my netbook like now which is slower and I make a lot of typos ). I would never enter a room, start a conversation and then leave if I did not have the time to answer to anyone who joined inand for me it is the same situation here. Right now the phone could ring and I would have to leave the computer and that would be unfair to those who responded, therefore I am flitting about from one topic to another and when there is time I will also catch up woth comments onsome of my own topics as there are still some that need attention
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hi Dear mysdianait! Yes, I can see you have just initiated 469 discussions out of total 18950 postings! I also have just initiated 307 discussions so far for the reason quoted above! In spite of taking all precautions and not to displease any one many a responses sometimes get unattended and I really feel bad about it! Using net book can be little inconvenient one to respond back quickly! Yes, it is not proper thing just to initiate a discussion and then not to look at it! This really frustrates me which is seen more now a days by the new members! Here basically we come to exchange the views and to discuss about a topic! But because of indifferent attitude the purposes totally getting defeated! I agree, and support your views that one should not stsrt any discussion if he/she doesn't have sufficient time to rspond back to the responses one gets for the discussion! Inspite of all our attempts to fulfill this some times one fails because of various other reasons which I would be discussing in some of my next responses! Thanks for responding!
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@mysdianait (64282)
• Italy
14 May 11
I enjoy being able to comment back immediately to those who respond and often this means that they will comment back again immediately causing chains of comments. Those can be a lot of fun!
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
15 May 11
Agreed dear mysdianait! For that purpose we need to have lot of time at our disposal! Piece meal won't serve the purpose then! Thanks !
@jugsjugs (13045)
15 May 11
Well, you are not the only person that can not keep up with all the responses that you get to all the discussions that you have started.I am awful for not being able to keep up as well.The other night i did reply to the people that had responded to a few of my discussions, but i also want to respond to other peoples discussions as well as do all my responses.I would not worry too much, as we are not all perfect that are on here, even if there are people that say that they are.Sometimes it can be a few months before i respond to discussions that i have started some have been over a year old and some of the people are no longer on here, who did respond to me.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
15 May 11
Hello Dear jugsjugs! Yes, I understand that I am not only the person who is unable to comment back to the responses on this forum1 there are many people like me ! but the thing is that in spite of this, I would like to comment back to as many responses as I can, as I think it is a minimum courtesy and ethical too! Here I am not talking about the perfection! It is just a feeling or desire of interacting with people! Yes like you I too have few responses which are yet to be commented and I will make sure now before initiating a new discussion I will try to comment back at least those responses which I got during this current year! Yes, it is never late in Mylot to comment on a response or to respond to a discussion, so it is always better late then never! Thanks for responding!
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
14 May 11
I made a discussion, when there is something I want to, or when I face problems, and need suggestions from members of MyLot. I always try to respond back, in response to my discussion.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
15 May 11
Hello Dear indahfth! I sincerely appreciate your efforts in reciprocating the responses you are getting for getting solutions for your problems here on this site! Mylot members are generous, kind hearted, matured and have lot of understanding! They come to any one's help if they find that he/she is having any trouble! Though physically there may not be interaction but their soothing words and reassurances makes one really happy and helps one to get out of the gloomy mood! Since this forum is having many types of people from all walks of life , with all ages and professions there are every chances that we get solution to our problem on this site without a fail! At least so far that is what I have observed here! Thanks for responding!
@umabharti (3976)
• India
14 May 11
hi, i would definetly see who are responding to my discussions and i would definelty like to continue that , means i keep in mind and do the answering as early as possible.I take this into consideration.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
15 May 11
Hello Dear Umabharati! I am really happy to know that you have consideration for others efforts and the feelings! Yes,by simply commenting on the responses we are getting for the discussion we have initiated, we are appreciating the person's effort which he/she has taken in responding to our discussion! Apart from this I think this is a minimum courtesy and ethical thing we can do here on this site! Since Mylot is a discussion forum where participation counts a lot, commenting and responding a topic plays a major role! To have a discussion or dialogue both the persons should interact actively which I think can be done, if we start taking interest and initiate the discussion either in the form of a comment to a response or a response to a discussion! Thanks for responding! All the best!
@GemmaR (8526)
14 May 11
Sometimes I post discussions just because I'm interested in seeing people's opinions about things, not really because I have any plan to respond. On some of my discussions I will respond to everyone as you can see if you look on my profile. I don't mind if I respond to discussions and don't get a response from the original poster. I often miss the email to say that somebody has commented on a response that I have left, so I just hope that nobody thinks I am rude for not responding straight away.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
15 May 11
Hello Dear GemmaR! Most of the times we initiate any discussions just to know the opinion of others on the topic! But having known the opinion if we reciprocate the response by a comment then I feel that the person who has taken efforts in replying or responding our response may become happy! At least I myself feel very happy if some member is commenting back on my response! Yes, dear GemmaR I am happy to know that you are commenting on every response in many of your initiated discussions as I have seen in your profile! Yes, if you are responding or commenting back on the basis of e - mail then there are every chances that you may miss a few e - mails because of which some discussions / responses may be left unattended! Fr me I never depend upon my e - mails , I visit the site and check personally each and every response I am getting for my initiated discussion and I try to comment as soon as possible! In fact many of our friends get to know about the nature and behaviour of ours after interacting few times and they can understand if there is any delay in commenting them back but I think there can be misunderstanding amongst the new members if we fail to comment on their discussion! This is very personal opinion of mine and may not be agreeable to every one! Thanks for responding !
• Philippines
14 May 11
I don't think you should respond to all comments. Sometimes you only post then return to see other people ideas on your post. It is not necessary that you have to reply to every post you start. Some people are already happy to share their ideas on the post.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hello Dear jphontiveros! First of all Welcome to Mylot! Dear friend I take this opportunity to inform you that Mylot is basically a discussion forum and participation is key to success here! Posting quality discussions and responses and interacting with each other makes this forum different from all other sites! By interacting you are not only creating your good will and expanding your friendship here, this is one of the way you can even have better earnings! Though it is not mandatory to comment all the responses! But it is minimum courtesy and ethical thing to do so! This forum is being in existence because of this gesture, which senior members are still following and that is the way they are helping this forum to flourish! By the way I am one f the senior member on this forum who is with this site right from its inception and I know how you can do best on this site! Responding the discussions and adding comments to the responses is one of the best way to have good public relations and also for making some good earnings! Thanks for responding! Wish you all the best and happy Mylotting!
@jordq7 (576)
• Philippines
14 May 11
Hi there AKRao24!!! Well to tell you the truth I don't actually make many discussions of my own becoz I don't have any ideas of what topics to posts.I only have few discussions of my own that I posts here in mylot and most of my activities here are only the responses I made to other's discussions. Well going back to your question, I think it will be better to create discussions of your own if you are sure that you can reply to the comments of others that gave some effort to respond on the topic you've just made.I think if you will let them wait for your respond for a long time it will be very rude and unethical.We should avoid making them feel that we left them hanging there and that we are not appreciating their efforts in responding.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hello Dear jordq! I think it also takes lot of imagination and efforts to respond to the discussions like initiating the one! yes here many a members feel that they don't have ideas to initiate a discussion and instead of initiating a discussion they are happy with responding to the discussions! I agree with your views regrading the responding back in the form of comments! If we don't rspond back then it would be really look rude and unethical and many a times members may end up with frustration and disappointment! they may develop a feeling of wasting their precious time which they have spent in responding to the discussion! Yes, we should definitely make them happy by appreciating their efforts for posting back a comment to them which i believe is their privilege and we should respect this aspect! That is the reason before initiating any discussion I see to it if I can respond back to the response I will get to my discussion! Thanks a lot for responding! All the best!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 May 11
It is a little bit heartless to do something like that. if you can't put the time and effort into a discussion , what is the point in the first place? it just leaves others with a feeling of wasted time.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hello Dear Sender! I fully agree with you! It is really heartless thing to neglect the responses we are getting to our initiated discussions! It is minimum courtesy that we should have in commenting back the responses! Yes, I agree that there is no point in just getting responses and leaving them just like that after reading them with out posting back the comments as it basically defeating the purpose of participation and discussion which is the main motto of this forum! This also leaves the members who are responding with so much of enthusiasm in it of frustration and disappointment and they may feel that they have simply wasted their time in responding to our discussion! Thanks for responding!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 May 11
I post it anyway, and I get back to it later. I never don't respond back at all....
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hello dawnald! Yes, I have seen many people are initiating their discussions and they are getting back later to comment back on the responses! I am happy to know that you never miss to comment back the responses you get! I feel this makes the members happy who take efforts to respond your discussion! Thanks for responding!
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
13 May 11
Hi Akrao, I think you are really very considerate. It's very nice of you to think of this way. You will not for the sake of some money, post some discussion on Mylot and then reply people in a few weeks. If you don't have the time, i think you did right by not starting a discussion until you think you have the time to reply. Otherwise, for people who are really interested in your discussion, they would be disappointed. However, you can record down what are your ideas to start a discussion and then post them when you have the time.
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hello Dear dream_ozn! Thanks for your compliment! I felt very happy to have your soothing comment! In fact as I have cleared many times on this forum, I am here to have some nice, quality and relaxing time there by which I can forget my day's stress and tensions! I never think in terms of earning as this forum is not very good for earnings! So basically I want to interact with people and spend my time in some constructive way! Since I expect that my initiated discussions should be responded back by the members and similarly when I expect that my responses should get commented back, it is natural thing for others to expect the same thing from me! It would be too unethical and bad mannerism if I don't respond back to the friends or the members who are responding me for the lack of time! So I take care that I should have ample of time at my disposal before I initiate a discussion so that I would do justice to my fellow mylotters by attending them! This as said by you saves many of them from getting disappointment! Yes, jotting down the ideas when they strike is a good suggestion and I think I should start doing this thing so that I may not brush my brain when I have time to initiate a discussion. By doing so I will be having a list of possible topics of discussions which I can initiate at any given time! Thanks for every thing! Enjoyed your response and also enjoyed commenting it back! Bye!
@Porcospino (19643)
• Denmark
13 May 11
I would never start a discussion if I knew that I would be away from the computer for several days or weeks. When I start a discussion I want to be able to read the responses and I want to be able to comment on them. I think that comments are a nice way to get know the other members better and I enjoy the interaction. Sometimes I am not able to comment on all of the responses right away, but then I continue next time I log into MyLot. If I get many responses it sometimes takes me several weeks to comment back, and I still have to some discussions where I didn't comment on all of the responses, but I am trying to catch up
@AKRao24 (21618)
• India
14 May 11
Hello Dear Porcospino! I appreciate your views ! If we are not in a position to attend the computer for few weeks then it is always better not to start any discussion as this may create some misunderstanding amongst the friends you have in this forum! Yes getting the responses and commenting back on them gives an immense satisfaction and frankly speaking this is one f the reason why I am basically on this forum! In fact I stay on a Stud Farm which is away from Town ship! We need to travel about 50 kilometers to go to a Mall or to a movie! Since I am a resident Vet I can't think of going now and then to the Town to have some change! I need to tackle with my labour who are more or less illiterate on day today basis which leaves me much tired! So after day's hectic work when I come to this forum, i have a feeling of meeting my friends here and discussing with them by pouring my heart to them in the form of discussions and responses! This makes me feel fresh! Yes, I can understand that commenting back to every response may not be practicable many a times, but if attempted promptly then you would be doing justice to the thirsty souls like us who eagerly await for a response or comment!Thanks for responding dear friend! I enjoyed your response and also commenting it back! Best of Luck!