He doesn't Listen!!

United States
May 24, 2011 8:37am CST
My husband started to say something this morning he said I don't understand you are working here all day and and I said and what? I tried to tell him that it takes a long time to get paid doing what I do here I have joined several paid to click sites and other sites like article writing and I tried to explain it to him and I thought he was listening to me obioulsy not!!! I told him I will go back to woork and he said no we need a car, what is the deal? I am trying and I tried to explain to him it takes a long time!! I can't stand it when he gets that way and didn't listen to me when I thought he was! We fought over who was going to quit first so I did then he told me I didn't tell you to quit your job well if you know the whole story in other words yes he did! And he told me not to go back until I got a car? I am so mad at him!! Do you ever get mad when you tell someone something and come to find out later they weren't even listening to you?
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8 responses
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
25 May 11
It really ticks me off, too. Nothing like having to repeat yourself because people aren't listening.
• United States
25 May 11
Yea it makes me so angry because not only will he not listen he won't give me the chance to show him!
• United States
24 May 11
My boyfriend in the beginning was this way, so I began to speak about something and when I could see in his facial expressions that he was not listening I would stop midstream and say, FORGET it, you are not listening anyways. So whenever he would ask me about something I know I already discussed with him, I would say to him I WILL not repeat myself because you do not listen anyways. Long and behold I can't tell you that no matter what I have to say he puts his full attention to listen. I know your situation is a bit different but the only way around it, is that next time, because there will be a next time again, he asks about your online earning activities you simply say, do you really want to know or is this another one of the situations where you will actually not be listening. Say no more, let him ask and if he does not appear to be directing his full attention, say forget it, you are not listening anyways. See if this helps.
• United States
24 May 11
Okay thanks I will try that!! I have also told him to come and take a look at what I do to see how long it takes to get paid but he always tells me tomorrow and he never does it always finds some excuse like show i'm another time I'm tired. But I will try this! Thanks!!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
24 May 11
Nobody likes to feel that they are wasting their breath and their time. that's what it can seem like when someone is not listening to you when you speak. We aren't showing respect when we don't listen. It can be very irritating to the one who needs listened to.
• United States
24 May 11
i AGREE!!!
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Yeah, a lot of time! i don't know why one should pretend to listen where in fact his/her mind is preoccupied with something else, and usually that's one issue in every relationship which can cause misunderstanding.
• United States
24 May 11
It could be but I have told him a million times that it takes for ever to get paid at home !
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Personally I can relate with this frustration. Especially when it is over $$. Many times it can be the same way in our household between my husband and I, and it can be frustrating. Due to many of the Health issues I am going thru at this time things are rough and hard to sometimes get by, and it seems like overall money is never coming in as quick as you would like. And many times for us there is the expense since I cannot drive, and not supposed to do much walking of me getting to work and then it costs extra Gas, etc. because of the hrs. I work. All we can do is Pray and believe and Trust god and know everything is going to be alright.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
25 May 11
Well it can be preatty irritating. I get upset for sure! I heard a study once, I don't know if it's true but did said that women can have more than 3 things in their minds at the same time, so while we jump subjects men can't follow as they concentrate in one thing at a time. As we were in caves taking care of the kids and they were hunting, so they developed great concentration, and that's also why men don't loose it in crises, they separate emotion and racionalize better... Seems about right. I know maaaaany women complain about the guy do not listen to everything. My hubby sometimes don't remember what I said...hehehe.
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
25 May 11
Hello jahernandezrivas, Is your husband ok? I mean if or not he is under stress or anxiety. The relation between you otherwise looks nice. Specially you. He asked you to quit the job and you happily obliged. This is more an issue of a car. Go and take one. If you have no money enough to buy right now Banks are offering loans and you can avail them and solve the trivial looking problem. And if there is anything besides this I do not know.
• China
25 May 11
Hi,Jahernandezrivas. Hope you may not mad now,first,take a deep breath,then,calm down. People often have the same situation,when they get angry with each other,what the other person say then will ignore of their own accord. The best way to make their listening to us is to be calm down as soon as pssiple,then we can talk heart to heart . But maybe you husband was in bad mood then,so he lose his temper on you ,and din't listen to you ,I believe that you two will find a dood way to deal with it . Wish you happy.