Have you ever thought of tired for being good or nice?
May 26, 2011 10:29am CST
Have you ever thought that you are already tired of being humble, generous, patient and other good traits that you have given to other people? When it is about too much you really tend not to be humble anymore because it won't do any good to you but people are just keeping their pride to the highest level to the extent that you are being offended? In my own experience I have to admit the fact of tired for being good or nice because some people are abusing it to the extent that they are testing your patience. Sometimes I have this feeling that it doesn't change the fact when you are humble to a person while they are putting you down or keeping their pride. Just like the two friends of my boyfriend they were so overwhelmed to the highest level to the extent that they have a feeling of floating on air when I have projected my humility towards them or even stoop down to their level. I told my boyfriend that I am just regretting of what I have done to his friends and that is too much. But my boyfriend told me that he is proud of me for being level headed that he can describe me as matured woman with sense for what I did. He admitted it to me that unlike his two friends they are really immature and non sense at all because they still want to remain in lowest level as possible. Otherwise they really lack manliness. The other man who is now married is actually flirting with his officemate by the time that his wife was still pregnant to their youngest child. Another example here was that I am having regrets that I became too much humble to my former boss to the extent that I asked for his forgiveness but then he just nagged me like hell. Now I won't tolerate it and I need to fight what is really right.
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
I have always tried to be true to myself and this means being a kind and gentle soul! I don't like offending or hurting other people this is just not in my nature. There are those people in this world that are quite happy to tread on the toes of others and laugh it off and well, I don't have any time for these types of people, they are just a waste of space in my view. I think it's important to always be nice and respectful towards other people. I still believe in the saying that what goes around comes around. If someone has offended or insulted you then it's virtually a guarantee that they will experience some of the same somewhere down the line, they will reap what they sow! That's quite a situation that you describe though and it sounds quite difficult for you. It also sounds as though you are doing your level best though and that is to be admired. Yes, you are right! You should fight for what is right within reason. Good luck. You sound as though are doing ok though! Andrew
26 May 11
yes.Sometime i have think about that because I have bad experience when my dear friends stab back on me. I'm really hurt and by the time i know it, they try to avoid me. So, I'm alone until I find new friends which is more sincere than them.
12 Jun 11
hi, yes, sometimes i thinking of that way,sometimes because of being so nice at the end i will be the one to sacrifice,just like what i had experienced in my last job,i had a friend that was really lacked of money,and because i have so kind of heart,i lend money to him,but afterwards he never paid that to me.
• Pasay, Philippines
31 Aug 11
That has been my problem too with my former boss that is my friend at the same time who was not about to pay for my salary but just because I gave him a threat that I am going to send a demand letter then he was forced to pay me. But look at it, do I need to be harshed or offend someone else to get what I need? That is a big disappointment. Good thing your friend is not my friend because I am totally harshed when asking my money back.