would you blame your relative if they deceived you?

@asliah (11148)
Philippines
May 27, 2011 11:25am CST
in my previous discussion about issuing receipt and about the lot bought with my mom my relative was involve here.and she is first cousin of my father,my mom actually bought the lot because our relative told my parents that no one owned that,so my mom bought it without issuing receipt,and now there is someone who reclaimed it.my mom asked our relative again about the lot and she told that lot is owned by someone since 1997,how come that they already know that since she was the one who told us that no one owned that lot.actually we blamed our relative because on what he did to us,she deceived us and scam the money of my mom.its really hard to trust anyone even our relatives this day. what would you feel if this happen to you?will you blame them?why?
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10 responses
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
28 May 11
Hi. asliah. I think that I would not trust my relatives anymore after that. I mean, it is wrong for this relative to deceive your mother. I will still love my family members, but I will not trust them anymore. It would be hard for me to trust them again after this. Trust just does not come by that easily.
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
28 May 11
I would definitely be upset with this relative, especially if the information given was to totally deceive or scam you out of your hard-earned money. Many people do awful things to each other to take what they own, but when a relative deliberately set out to scam another relative, that is shameful. On the other hand, if someone tried to sell me something as large as a lot, I don't think I would just take there word that no one owned it, someone always owns a lot. I would have taken the time to investigate the ownership before forking over one dime of my money to anyone. I don't know what legal actions you can take against your relative, and even if you do take legal action will you have s chance at winning your case and getting back your money.
• Philippines
28 May 11
Of course I'll blame them. If anyone especially those person I trust most Deceive and Betrayed me. I'll probably be mad and put the blame on them.
@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
28 May 11
i remembered that receipt issue you have there for i responded in that discussion. when i read that one i know the person your mom payed to is someone she knew, someone who is close that is why she gave the money without any proof. if this happens to me i will make sure that, that cousin of mine will pay. for he knows that my mother gave money for the lot. it is okay if he will pay slowly small amounts but i will make sure that he will pay. i will never stop reminding him that he needs to pay.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
28 May 11
Sorry about this asliah. So,it's your relative who deceived your mom-so bad. Now i understand why your mom never asked for any receipt since she trusted that relative-but this relative of yours is too bad. Then,count this as a lesson,thu it's really a hard lesson wasting all the money that your parents earned. That's really bad experienced. anyway,happy weekend asliah
• United States
28 May 11
I would most definitely blame my family member. You can't trust a lot of people these days, not even family. The economy is bad and anyone will do anything for money. Even though anyone will argue and say that your mom should've gotten a receipt, you put that trust in your family member. It was clearly told to you that the lot was not owned and your mom and you believed it, because who would think that your family would deceive you. Go to court, prove she lied and told you the lot was not owned by ordering a lie detector test, and get the money back. And advice for the future, get a receipt no matter what.
@arshan18 (51)
• Philippines
27 May 11
i would also blame anyone whose been trying to deceived me. in your position, i know it's quite hard to accept that it's been your relative who had deceived you. it's your mom's money. it's from her hardwork and then suddenly you will just knew that the money had been scammed by your relative. it just adds to the burden that was felt by your mother and also by your family. nowadays, it's hard to trust anyone. anyone will do anything just to earn or gain money though it's evil.
@MAllen400 (830)
27 May 11
You have to be so careful mixing business with family dont you. If it wa my family I think I would be so very upset and find it hard to forgive them. I hope that when I had calmed down I would ask them why they thought so low of me that they did that to me. Please there are a lot of good people out there so treat the family member with contempt they deserve.
• Philippines
27 May 11
The trickiest relationships to maintain is between your romantic interest and your family. Somehow somewhere you're going to mess it up. Sometimes, more badly than you intended or predicted. I think that your mother is going to have to walk a very thin line between blood relationships and one's interests. In your story, I think that your mom's cousin intend to deceive her so he could gain some cash. If that happened in my family, I'm pretty sure there's gonna be a bloodbath (my mom's not exactly the person you want to mess up with and everybody in the family knows it) somewhere in between yelling, broken plates and furniture. I guess everybody takes advantage of anyone these days, even blood relatives and kin. There's no more honor or kinship - it's just everything to gain a few bucks. I hope that won't happen to me in the future becuase I won't play the blame game, I'll just raise a holy war and I probably won't care who's side is winning as long as somebody gets hurt (I am, in a sense, my mother's daughter). I won' blame your mother if she does raise holy hell, she lost a substantial amount of money over nothing. I won't blame them because it just wastes a lot a time - everybody knows who the guilty party is and who is the victim - it's just the matter of picking sides and who will win in the end.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
27 May 11
I would blame anyone if they tried to deceive and betray me. Loyalty and trust would be far from the picture. Only because it was a relative would i be quicker to forgive what had happened. It doesn't excuse the deception. It just puts it into more perspective.