Never been in love! ü

@nelerkz (467)
Philippines
May 31, 2011 7:23am CST
In my 21 years of existence, I never tried to get fall in love with someone and I am afraid with it because plenty of my friends infatuated and ended up heartaches because of enough reasons. Last year, I said it to myself that I am prepared to be fall in love but as the time goes by, as I witnessed to my friends how crucial it is when you felt it, I contemplated that I am not yet ready with it. Do you think love needs preparation? As of now, I don't know what to do. Maybe it is a part of it. I think, waiting is the optimum way. I have to wait the right time and if it will happen I'll just face it with all my confidence when I fell in love. As long as I am aware the situation, consequences and difficulties. I will just apply my learnings when something will happen. I need your advice, Can you help me on how to deal with it in the future? thanks :D
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8 responses
@shengcruz (221)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Hi there! How are you? Do you feel alone or outcast because you haven't fallen in love yet? Actually, I am not in the right position to give you advices about love. I am not an expert of this topic. In fact, I used to be a stoic person. But hey, don't get me wrong, I am not a robot. I am a human being who happens to be a late bloomer! (lol) Way back in college, I get attracted to guys but I get easily discouraged too. I must be a perfectionist or something. So I ended up being single until I got my first job. By then I decided to get involved in a relationship. Just that it's too bad that it didn't work out. But anyway, my point is I never fear the gift of love. It must be the most magical experience one can ever have. So, don't hesitate. Go for the dive, and when you fall down and hit your head, don't give up! Try to jump again, maybe this time it will be heavenly because she's got the perfect wings for you. Good luck!
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Hello shengcruz, thank you for the well detailed telling of your experience as you shared it to me. Yes my friend, as what you had said, I do not hesitate for it. I will just go with the flow and I won't give up. God has always a good plan for us, there is always a right time for us and He brings us to the right path if we always pray. Keep praying and God bless to us.
@mysdianait (63950)
• Italy
31 May 11
Don't look for it or you won't see it! Don't plan for it or you will be disappointed! When it comes you will know but hold on tight to it because one gust of wind in the wrong direction and it could be gone, never to return Welcome to myLot!
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
31 May 11
Thanks for that words. It would help it also to me and thanks for welcoming me here. God bless to you. :)
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@mysdianait (63950)
• Italy
1 Jun 11
I really hope that those words will be helpful to you. Your turn to fall in love will come, just don't be in a hurry
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Hello nelerkz! Yes, I do agree with mysdianait! I think she's summed it up already. The answer to your question is just right in her post.
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• Indonesia
1 Jun 11
No, love don't need preparation because you never know when will you're falling in love, with who, on what kind situation, which...., how...., bla...bla...bla..., etc. When I was 17 yo, I thought I was ready to falling in love and mature enough to feel it.But in fact, I have to wait longer, I have my real first love on 19yo. So the conclution, ready or not, with preparation or not, you must be will falling in love. When will it be can't be predicted. And even you have strong preparation and feel ready enough, when you falling in love all those preparation is useless.Love is pure, unique and reflective, so it's always different with your preparation.Just let it flow, enjoy your single moment. you will feel it in right time
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Hi redvakaurvaki, Thank you for well said response and for sharing your story and ideas. I do agree with your statement. Thanks a lot, its a big help actually. Have a nice day :D
• Indonesia
3 Jun 11
I hope you'll in love soon :-)
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
He he he. very soon! :)
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
31 May 11
You don't prepare to fall in love, it happens when it happens!! Nobody plans t fall in love, it's just something that happens itself :) Don't worry you'll meet the one for you eventually. I have this friend too and he's 21 years old and has never been in love. So yeah you're not alone And welcome to mylot!! Hope you have a wonderful time here
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
31 May 11
Thank you thatgirl13, Yes you are also true, if it will happen, its just will happen at the right time. Yes, I am not alone with it. :) Thank you for welcoming me here. I really enjoyed commenting and writing my discussion as I express all my feelings here. It's such a big help. Thank you once again and God bless to you! :)
• South Korea
31 May 11
Yeah I love it here too. It hasn't been much since i joined, maybe a few months but I really love it here. I get to know new things and get to share what i know. So it's fun :) You have a great day and god bless you too!! See you around bye
@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
11 Nov 12
It's been a year now Nelerkz... so what happened? have you fallen in love? have successfully did it. I wish you did
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
Yes, it's been a year indeed, I cannot tell it for now because it's complicated.. what did I say? Laugh out Loud ! :)
@KrauseHome (32800)
• United States
3 Jun 11
Well many times I think people try to say they are in Love with someone just to be in the "Norm" when later they realize they are not. Some will even rush into marriage just to fit the status quo or because everyone else around them is doing it, and then regret their choice many times just a few months down the road. Personally Love is something that should never be taken lightly, and should be something that when you know, you know and there is no looking back. I feel that there is always someone for everyone, and you need to not rush Love until that special person comes along. Enjoy your life being Single and let the other come to play when it does.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
Hi KrauseHome, Thank you for that words that you threw. I agreed with your discourse, lets enjoy and embrace of being single and let the love will come soon. Love waits! God bless :)
@mixyly (20)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Nelerks you remind me of a friend of mine,just like you he never been in love.In fact, he's been in a 2 yrs. relationship but still he don't feel the same affection as what his partner felt. I can say that your life in this world is not that colorful and meaningful without the person that you can share your love with.Sometimes it's the hardest part when time don't allow both of you for each others,it's painful as it is but with the help of your friend and love ones you can make it. Loving is such a wonderful thing, try to find someone and learn to love her and I can say that you will never regret it. Have a nice day!
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Hi mixyly, thanks for that good words that you threw. Who is that your friend? I had also that kind of situation, same as you had mentioned which was two years of having the relationship but still it won't work for them. We are almost the same. With regards to my past, I also don't feel the essence of love to her, that's why I decided to cut off our relationship. I never regret my decision since that I confessed my real feeling and she will never ever expect it anymore in the future. I was wrong because I never told her as much as early that I don't have the feeling but at least now everything was done. I don't think that much! I'm looking forward to found someone what is meant for me through waiting. As of now, I am very much focus with my friends and family. Thank you once again for dropping your comments here! Have a good day. :)
• India
31 May 11
u'll always hear one of 2 things. 1) there's no love.. its a fake or 2) its all about love. wat it means is there are times u just hopelessly fall in love with someone else. and the odds of u being with THAT exact person is slim. if u do, and that person also loves u truly, u r in second part. otherwise u r first. even if u r together, u'll eventually grow apart.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Hi, magnafrost. Thanks for that. I don't think so, Maybe it's gonna be like that but I just don't know why this happening to me. But, it is an advantage for me because my problems will be lessen. Time will tell and I will just wait to the right person that would really captured my heart. As of now, I am very focus with my friends. Thank you once again and God bless to you! :)