Friendship and Love

India
June 1, 2011 8:05pm CST
To which relationship you give more importance & priority in your life if you are supposed to choose any one in your life.. You have a best friend & you have a lover.. Due to some situational problem, You can choose only one in your life.. So what will be your choice?? No relationship is equal to friendship in this universe.. Love is a great feeling, we can't give up our love also.. Love in the sense, not a crush.. Its a true & divine love which you have... So, what's your decision in this case???
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• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Well, for me, I'd take my lover. Because a lover can also be your best friend. While not all best friends can be your lover. :)
• India
2 Jun 11
WOW... Beautiful. Lover can be a best friend where as best friend can't be a Lover.. So you won't give up your lover at any cost.. Majority of people states that in this discussion they are not ready to give up their love at any cost , and also everyone who says "love" haves a plenty of reasons behind their decision... Its a human nature & also its a practical that we are having life and we need a partner... So we are not ready to give up our love... Friendship is not a life, Friendship is also their in life.. So we are ready to give up our friendship... But love is really an effective pain...
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Love can be painful at times but it's a risk that you should be ready to take once you enter a relationship. In truth, I don't want to be in a situation wherein I have to choose between the two. Choosing one over the other is equally heartbreaking. :(
• India
3 Jun 11
Of course choosing one over the other is equally heart breaking and it should not happen to any one.. But i just posted this discussion to check the people mindset & views.. Like i thought, everyone's preference is love and love only.. I am not trying to blame anyone as selfish in this case.. We are human beings & we have emotions, pains, feelings.. In this critical position, it is really quite difficult to make decision.... But eventually love takes place i know that... I asked the same thing to my real life friends & some other people, But they said they give importance to Best friend and not to lover in this case.. I can analyze that they are lying.. But people here really genuine & straight.. Everyone accepts that they choose only love..
@chuyins123 (2118)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
There should not be a situation as this in life. I mean your love for a friend is entirely different from your love with your wife or girlfriend. There should be no point that we will be choosing between the two. But I guess this is hypothetical, so if I am going to choose between the two, it would be based on what matters to me most. And I guess if that happens, my wife should matter more than my friend. She's the one whom I promised that I should live together forever right? But again, I want to reiterate, it should be a rare case to choose between a lover and a friend. Their not comparable and there's no point choosing between the two, they're not mutually exclusive options.
• India
2 Jun 11
Lover & Best friend are treasure in human life.. Both are important to human's life.. It is not possible to live happily without having a best friend in life, You can share everything to your friend.. No hidings in friendship.. At the same time love gives you responsibilities, & fulfill your life because love ends with a marriage. Marriage only gives you a family man post. My question is, In case if you are supposed to give up any one in your life... What would it be??? So its not a pointless.. Well !!!! So you will give importance to your lover than best friend. Of course i agree with your reason which you mentioned that you promised your girlfriend that you'll be with her forever.. Thank you so much for sharing your view :)
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• Philippines
2 Jun 11
It's a pleasure to discuss things out here. Yes, I would choose the one whom I promised in front of GOD that I would live together as long as I breath. And that would be my wife (soon to be). Great post you got here balaji.
• India
2 Jun 11
a friend also has some limits,he must nt cros his limits.as we all agree it is all the time seen that a hubby or wife are nt bothered about their friendly relations,but in true life it effects much ,so try so make a distance with ur friend,
• India
2 Jun 11
So finally love is the most important one in our life... But once if we face the pain of Love, we wont even watch the movies like life story and all
2 Jun 11
if you think this relationship is the "one" for you.. i would take the relationship. yes, ok thats horrible to say about a friendship, and if it was just a fling, or a crush, id say take the friendship.. but the way i see it is, ok, so you pick the friend, and use are happy in your little friendship.. now what happens when your friend meets someone? falls inlove? gets married? starts a family..? where does that leave you? living in their spare room babysitting their children like a lonley old soul?.. so if you pass up your chance at YOUR own life, for your friend.. what happens when your friend gets their own life? and your left with nothing, except some stolen time with your friend? .. a true friend, as well, will never stand in your way, or walk away.. remember that!
• India
2 Jun 11
Friendship doesn't have any expectations.. If we have anything like that, its not a true friendship.. Why do you think that your friend also should be like you.. No need to stand in my way.. In case if my friend throw out of me from his heart, i don't worry and i'll be a friend for him still.. Because he only throws me... I don't..
@nikhilrj (10)
• India
2 Jun 11
I would have chosen my friend,if i had a situation like this.Time can wash away the emotional pain of a love and another person in your life can surely replace the one you have loved.But we can get only one true and divine friend in a lifetime.100 lovers can never replace a true friend.
• India
2 Jun 11
Love is a relationship which gives us an extreme level happiness in our life... But many possibilities are there it equally ends with sorrow.. Even in that situation also friendship only gives you shoulder and holds you when you are mentally stressed.. So you are ready to give up the Love than the friendship... Friendship doesn't gives us pain at any cost, but love does.. So you don't like to give pain to friendship between you & your friend by losing your friend... Nice :) Thank you so much :)
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
It's hard to choose between two people whom we love. But i am sure i will choose my love (bf) if he deserves to be the one. But if my best friend has all the proof to show that my bf doesn't deserve my love,then i will choose my bestfriend. I will weighed things accordingly or else i will lose both of my beloved. So,i will see the reason why i need to choose my boyfriend and i will also look at my best friend's side why i must choose her.
• India
2 Jun 11
Smart answer.. So you'll give importance to the person who deserves to be the one.. Most practical & Lateral thinking... :) Thank you so much :)
@digibux (23)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
for me i prefer to choose my lover because i know my best friend would understand me if i choose it and he thinks that i am happy on my decision he would supports me. i choose my lover because ill never know if i can feel that love again if i let him go and my lover is the only one i supposed to be with in my entire life and my love is sacred i couldn't easily find love in other person the way i feel on my lover. He is my life and i promise to myself that i would never regret to choose him because he puts meaning and color in my life compared to my best friend and my best friend knows before we became best of friends that i wouldn't choose him to my lover and he understands it i know its hard but he would accept it and be happy for us.
• India
2 Jun 11
Yes you couldn't find love in other person easily. Love is like a diary where as Friendship is like a Library.. We can have a lot of friends, and also we can be a friend to our friend forever even without seeing them until our last breath.. But love is not like that, Its more sensitive.. Thats the difference between friendship & love.. Now also we are ready to give up the friendship.. But we are not ready to give up love.. Friendship is always great and no relationship is equal to friendship..
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
If you are talking about between your husband or a wife and best friend. You should choose the one you have pledge to God that you will love for better or worst and till you will part. Because you are binded by God and let no one can break it. Whatever the situation is, you should be with your husband or wife. Your bestfriend has a different role in your life and she can understand that.
• India
2 Jun 11
Thanks for your point of view which you shared with me.. But i am not speaking about husband or wife & best friend... I speak about Lover & Best friend.. In marriage we are getting committed to a person and he/she is our life partner... But in love, you have decided a person whom you love is going to be your life partner, There is a difference between both.. That's why i asked about Love & Friendship... Before you getting married you can decide how your life should be.. But it is impossible to modify the decision which you made in your life once.. So please tell me Lover or Best friend????
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 11
I would choose love, since no friendship will last longer than your love one. My past experience was I have a good friend who are really close to me and we almost contact each other everyday but when she found out that her best friend likes me, she started to ignore me and from there on our friendship faded. It was really sad.