Dealing with the death of your mom.

United States
June 5, 2011 6:05pm CST
I am a 31 year old women and i lost my mom a couple of months ago. It has been so hard for me to deal with this. I didn't get any sleep for two months. this was the worst experience of my life. As time is going on i'm starting to deal with it better. I still find myself breaking down and crying. Will the crying ever stop? I miss her so much.I wish i did more with her i wish i got a chance to see her before she died but i didn't. Love your mom while she is here. Live everyday with her as if it is your last. The time you have with her is very special.
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7 responses
• United States
6 Jun 11
Sorry for you loss. The crying stops eventually but there will be times that you will want to cry or depressed like on Mother's Day and her Birthday. I lost my mom when i was 15. I so wish I had my mom around to teach me to cook like she did and to see my daughter. I agree to spend everyday with your parents like it's the last. When i hear of people saying they hate their mother or is mean to their mother it makes me mad. I say to myself they are lucky to have their mother around that i would give anything to have my mother back. I'm 46 now there are times when i'm alone I think about my mom and tears still swell up in my eyes. I wasn't there when my mom passed either. My dad thought it was best to go home with my sister who was about 3 hrs away.
• United States
7 Jun 11
that is so true. this pass mother's day was the first without her. I visit her grave for the first time since she passed and it was hurt breaking all over again. I miss her so much. I though she would be with me forever.Ugh:( getting emotional!
• United States
7 Jun 11
We all think or wish our parents will be around forever especially as kids. My friend's mom passed about 3 yrs ago and she still has her moments.
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
hi! I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you'll get through this and recover eventually. Mothers are really special to us. I really agree with you.I hope you did have a wonderful time with your mom.
• United States
6 Jun 11
Thanks for your kind words. Moms are very very special.Spend time with your as if it is your very last. Tell her that you love her everyday!
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
My siblings and I are blessed to have our old dear mother with us. She's now 80 years old and still the best mother in the world. There are times, she acts differently but the wit and the wisdom are still there. She is still beautiful despite those wrinkles and age spot in her "mestiza" skin.We takes times in taking care of her (she has the old family house) every day as we pay visit. What we miss is her cooking. Yes, it is hard to cope when her time comes but as of now, we are making the best of the time when she's still with us.
• United States
6 Jun 11
That is such a blessing. One your mom living to the age of 80. And for you and your siblings to have the pleasure of having her there in your lives. Continue to spend as much time with her while you have her.She is very special!
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Hi Mrsbean, I am sorry for your lost. I know what are your feelings right now. I have also felt that way when I lost my father at the age to 24 and three later at the of 27 ( i am now 28 yrs old) I have lost my mother. It is really hard to mend the wound cause by the loss. Fortunately for me, I have my wife to comfort me whenever I feel sad. And also my mother-in-law and father-in-law are very supportive of me that I feel the my parents live in them. The time will eventually come that you will learn to accept the fact that your mother is now gone. And it will also help you to forget the pain cause by this passing if you will try to focus your self into something that will make you busy. Or you could also try focusing on giving attention and/or care to your love ones that are still living. At times, it is also normal that you will cry whenever you miss your mother. So you should not be sad and just remember the things that you do together when she was still alive. God bless
• United States
6 Jun 11
I'm also sorry for your lost. My husband was also there for me during this difficult time. He new the right word to say to comfort me. He also lost his mom many years before i ever meet him. He was put in my life for many different reason's. I do believe the passing of my mom was one of them. Because if it wasn't for prayer and my husband i don't think i could make it through this.
@jameygc (453)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Hello Mrsbean: Is very sad to hear that your mom passed away. I can't imagine the pain you are feeling at this moment. I love my mom so much and we are so close, that I don't see how would be my life without her. Unfortunately I know that anything I tell you is going o make you feel better. Only the time will be able to heal your pain. Meanwhile try to maintain the time the most busy you can. Try new things and soon you will be able to remember but your pain is going to be less.
• United States
6 Jun 11
I never knew that i could feel pain like that. I'm happy to here that you and your mom are close. Live each moment with her as if it is your very last. I thought my mom would be with me forever. Reality hit me hard that day. I love my mom but i now know i should have spend more time with her and i should have told her i loved her more often.
• United States
5 Jun 11
Hi mrsbean and a warm welcome to myLot! I am sorry to hear of your mothers passing and my sincerest condolences. It will take time to alleviate the sadness and the time can vary. Do continue to remind yourself that she would want for you to be happy. It is okay to cry and perhaps you will cry for sometime and or always but it does get better. Remind yourself of all the wonderful happy moments you and she shared and yes they will cause you to cry but at some point they will be happy tears. Continue to keep her loving memory alive in your heart and this will be of great comfort. Best of luck and wishing you well.
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
After I have lost my Dad when I was just turning 18 years old I have keep in mind that I would take care of my Mom the best way I can. I have been doing just that. At first when she told me that she will be re-marrying I was mad at her but after thinking about it for quite sometime I decided to do the adult thing and let her go with this. I find myself depending the two of them during the very first face to face encounter with both the kids from the previous marriage. I do not agree with all of her endeavors but I love her enough to give my support through the years. I want to leave a good example to my daughter of how I love the woman who give me life.