Is it good to fall in love with a friend’s girlfriend?

India
June 7, 2011 8:00am CST
The situation is not so good. Because I realize the present condition is worried for me. Because before some days I have realized this that I am in love with someone but problem is that she is girlfriend of my one very good friend. So sometimes I think it is not good because it can affect our friendship. So what can I do? I also told this to girl that it is not good and we should close this relationship. Because she is not my girlfriend. But she replied me that she doesn’t stop talking with me because she needs a very good friend. And she looking me and everything she shares with me. So now I am in critical condition. Can I continuing this relationship or close this. Please help me.
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7 responses
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 11
You only got one choice leave her. What if your friend found out about it? He will called you a traitor. You could only be with her when she is not your friend's girlfriend anymore. But it is not good to be the reason for their separation. If you think that it is more important to be with her than your friendship then you may continue your intention to be her boyfriend. If your friendship is much more valuable then stay out of it as now it is not a friendship anymore between you and that girl because you have feeling towards her.
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• India
8 Jun 11
Thanks for the response.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 11
Just put yourself in his shoes and know how is your feeling if your friend is going to take your girlfriend away from you. If you feel that it is not right then do not continue your relationship with her. Stay remain and strengthen your friendship is a better choice~
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@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
we fall in love not because we chose to, it just happens and that's why sometimes it is hard to understand the circumstances and the consequences when we do fall in love. falling in love with your friend's girlfriend obviously would create a lot of complexity to include trust, sincerity and betrayal, but then again the overwhelming presence of affection would somehow find its way.
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• India
8 Jun 11
thanks for the response...
@seobuzz (1120)
• India
8 Jun 11
Hello anurag I must say you are in very a weird situation. I may be too critical of you but you should listen to me very carefully.... First check if she 'really' loves you; if the answer is yes then it is your turn now.. Do you 'really' love her? If this time also the answer is positive (you should know better)then forget that she is your friend's girlfriend. And make her all yours. Because here the point is she is not happy with your friends. When you both love each other then where is the confusion man?
• India
8 Jun 11
Yes you say right. Anyways thanks for the response.
@julianmac (397)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 11
Hi anurag, I've heard people saying that the never sinking ship is the friendship. Sometimes we encounter problems that our siblings and even parents might not be able to help us out.But a friend is always there to lend a helping hand. This is my personal experience. So, don't let your friend think that you are stabbing him on his back by falling for his girl. I know love is a weird thing. Once your heart is hooked to someone its difficult to get over that person.However, I would choose friendship. Always follow your heart and I wish you all the best.
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• India
8 Jun 11
Thanks for the response.
@jaiyanz (84)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
I think that is not love it is "lust", because if you love your friends girlfriend is doesn't mean you need the intimacy or more than that. For me it is better to stop that stupid relationship than to continue it can cause a lot of trouble and effect to your friendship.
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• India
8 Jun 11
Thanks for the response.
@mansha (6301)
• India
7 Jun 11
She is obviously not reliable if she can cheat your friend she can cheat on you to. Its best to stay away from her and if your relationship with your friend is real good may be tell him too and tell him to sort it out with his girl friend so that your friendship with him doesn't suffer and you are not blamed for any of this. Its by hiding things you get caught in more tangles.
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• India
8 Jun 11
Thanking you. I am also think that it is not good and i should close this relationship.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
7 Jun 11
This is good to fall in love and to be in love. But if she is your friend’s girl friend, then don’t be in love with her. Reason is simple as you have told she is the girlfriend of your friend, and when she could not be of your friend then how she could be yours. And when the relation is based on deceive how you could thing that it will be at the end. So in my view atleast you must be with your friend and not with your girlfriend , I mean the former or existing girlfriend of your friend. Are both of you able to say in front of your friend that you are in love with each other…that is the answer.
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• India
7 Jun 11
I think you are right. Now i get my answer. anyways thanks for the response.