When I'm gone, will you take out all the photographs ? :(

in my family, when we lose a loved one we carry the good memories by keeping the photographs and the stories they used to share with us so that the next generations can still remember them even if they will no longer see or be with them. we give the clothes to whoever wants them in the family, if not we give everything to charity. for other personal things, we let the closest relative to decide if ever there isn't a will left. my aunt who passed away in 2006 had a great collection of books. her closest older sister, gave them to the grandchildren who like reading and books... with a promise to care for them as they meant something to my aunt, and also to promise to share with their siblings if they get interested in books also. when we lose that special someone we love because of a break-up... well i will choose to just keep the good memories. i won't burn any photographs, but i won't make any effort to save them. it's a process of letting go. when we lose a friend, i will just remember the friendship. my mind has a will of its own, programmed to remember only the good stuff and like a defense mechanism... filter out the bad. not trying to be sentimental or anything... but i need not have any material memento to remember you by. i will keep your love of music.

You appear to me a night bird rather a 24x7 bird, who is always on line. You see it is a private issue that whether one wants to keep the photographs etc. of his/her near one, when s/he is gone. I have not heard the song, however, it conveys the personal feelings of the lyricist.

Hello Jaiho, :) You know, no matter how many bad things i told about my ex, i still love her, but i have grown over it. I do love her still, but i can't have her back into my life. She thought she loved me but she didn't, she admitted this to me few days back. I was feeling overwhelmed one day that i messaged her, told her i was sorry for all the things i said to her in anger and that the thought of her still made me cry, there is not a day when i don't think about her, but since she doesn't love and since she thought it was a mistake she proposed in the first place, she told me she didn't know what she was doing, i guess the feeling inside her faded away. She only liked me because i gave myself to her, but when someone else came into her life she actually felt attracted to him. And from then on she began to react to me differently. I was very hurt that time Jaiho. A mixed feeling of anger and sorrow. The worst thing is that i could not do anything about it because she didn't love me. So i had to just let her go. Anyways even she is single now, away from all of this as even she is fed up of this relationship and all. She said she is sorry and said she regrets each day for bringing so much pain in my life. Her sorry isn't going to heal anything what i have been through. But anyways.. I am completely over it now, and i am glad i got out of it, because what is the use if she doesn't love me. I just can not live with someone i love and who doesn't love me back. Now i am single, and actually i am a proud single because she made me feel how important i am, and i have begun to like myself even more. Because i never gave up my love. Makes me feel good about myself. No worries at all, i know God has kept a very beautiful girl for my future. Lol.. I am sorry i got off the topic completely. I actually wanted to say, that i still carry things my ex gave me, reminds me of her. I respect our two years of relationship and i am not going to disrespect her decision because it isn't her fault. I am over it, and i am going to get someone who is actually going to love me. I am not going to throw away our photographs or any thing we i find of value. :-)

Hmm... probably mostly photographs and memories.... (now, doesn't that sound like a song, too? =P ) And also maybe something engraved with a name (like a ring). And I don't really know what else. =P

what will i keep...? well, i can keep you car! =D hehehe.. i'll also keep.........never mind! =D

I just finished reading P.S. I love you (I know i've been too late in reading it). The main character's late husband instructs her to rid herself of all his stuff so that she'll not be reminded of his absence every second and depress herself and that she'll be able to move on with life with a bit more ease. So maybe it's good for loved ones to take the photographs and shelf them in boxes so that they don't get into some serious depression because of their loss

i am actually singing the song while responding! i think it is not right to put away the things that make us remember our departed loved ones. well, if it is a case of heartaches, that could be understandable.

Mom and Dad were both gone in 1994 and 1995 respectively. The photographs they had before were all drifted away during a storm. But I have one picture of my Dad, an only photo that I am keeping for years already and Mom's favorite blouse is still with me.

Hi Jaiho: I think it's good to keep a few things that will make you remember this special person. But the most important is that you keep the memories in your heart. We have to go on after losing someone and continue with our lives so we have to make some changes in our house: This doesn't mean that we want to forget this special person is just that we have to accept these situations as part of life. ALVARO

Hi jai di Good that neither I have a printed photgraph here nor do I have any ring. So that doesnt matter or apply to me when I die ok ok. seriously, I know that I will remain in the hearts or even memories of a few whom I know even when I am gone (so what if for good or bad reasons, or for a short or long time) but what is important here is that I will remain for a while. When that happens, I think I should not think about what they would do with my pics or rings if they had any of them. For me, I would try to preserve these for life... some are really sweet and loving... I remember mentioning the few pics that I have from 1980's of my grandparents and me

In my experience with the loss of those close to me, I feel that keeping the person alive in my heart and mind are more important than things that remind me. When one shares a life with someone, everything is a reminder of that person. Sitting down to dinner, watching TV, taking walks etc... My mom for example is alive within me and present when I cook. The recipes I use for the most part were learned from her. The photo thing may seem a bit insensitive to remove, but how am I going to let someone new into my life if I have my late spouse's photo all over the house? And how will I move on with my life if I always wear my wedding ring. I might wear it on a necklace or hang it somewhere where I can see it every day to remind me of the many years of happiness. But I would probably not wear it on my finger daily. As you say, one thinks constantly of the loved one because he/she is locked inside one's memory and there will always be an emptiness in one's heart.