How can you forgive someone who hurts you badly?

Philippines
June 11, 2011 10:27am CST
It's hard to do. Forgiveness is not an easy work specially when you're hurt too much. Can you say sorry immidately to the one who hurts you? For me I can't do that right after your war, but maybe after few days I can forgive and ask sorry even if I am not the one who made the mistake. How about you?
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8 responses
• Malaysia
12 Jun 11
Everyone made mistakes before. Even you right? Just forgive and forget! Do you want him/her to feel guilty forever in his/her entire life? It will affect his/her life even more if you don't forgive him/her or something terrible will happen. I know most of them just apologize and do it all over again.They never learn from their mistakes.Don't forgive those jerks!
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
For me, we must forgive even if they are an idiot or whatever as long as they ask forgiveness.
@kimLJT (30)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
ABSOLUTELY NO but the time goes on YOU WILL ^_^ as just think also those HAPPY MOMENTS not just those bad one ^^
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Yes, you are right. Sometimes if we use scale and weigh the happy moments versus the bad ones maybe there's difference. What if the bad ones the heaviest? its your choice... but the very important here is to forgive.
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
Sometimes I need to forgive to lighten my feelings. I get sick when there is heaviness inside because of hurt and grudge. It's easy to say nice things about forginess but sometimes when you are in a situation, you really find hard to forgive someone. You can only do it when you pray to God and ask forginess. If God can forgive you then why can't you forgive your fellow.
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
yes you are very right. God can forgive so why can't we? That's true that if we are in the situation, it's really hard to forgvie specially if you still hurt. But prayer is the best way to make it easy. Thanks for the nice response
@xannex (254)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
I was treated badly once during my highschool. Well before we graduated, we had an open forum for our class. The guy said sorry to me. I cried that time when he said that. I was even infront of the class because I'm one of the forerunners of the open forum activity. Everytime I think about what I did that time now, it pisses me off and I would feel embarassed and thinks "Arggg! Why did I do that!?!" Well, we sometimes would see each other and act like acquantances. I did forgive him but I never really forget about it.
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
Maybe it's true that the pain wound was healed but the scars is still there. We can forgive but we can't forget I agree. Thanks for the response
@wongchoiyee (7342)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 11
Yes I do initiate the actions but lately I have been thinking people take advantage when you do that.
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Really...
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
29 Jun 11
I won't say "sorry" if I am the one that is wronged the other person has to be mature enough to ask forgiveness just as I have to be mature enough to ask forgiveness if I wrong someone sometimes if I like someone so much, or when I am deeply in love I will do anything to keep the friendship or relationship going because I used to believe love is unconditional but now I don't do that anymore if the other person doesn't reciprocate, then there is no friendship or relationship because it is true love is unconditional which means I also have to love myself unconditionally If I let other people take advantage of my kindness, that's not doing myself any good :)
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
12 Jun 11
It really takes time. Time heals as what others say. Let the time pass by then have your reconciliation. Many things are easier said than done. But look at the little kids, they fight and cry and boxing, and after that, they are friends again as if nothing happens. That is why Jesus said, the kingdom of heaven are for little children because they don't hold grudges.
@kimLJT (30)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
YEAH it's really hard to immediately forgive the person that's really hurts you so much but also think of the times that you are both very happy not just that sort of a break up (hurt thing) so that you could forgive him/her ^_^.