Are the parents always right?

United States
June 16, 2011 10:28pm CST
i have come to believe that my parents aren't always right, and that I do not always need to listen to them. I think that once kids are a bit older, they should take notice of what they really feel. Sometimes it's not a matter of whether or not their parents are right, but if their parents accept them for who they are. There will be a point where the parents have no legal right to tell their children what to do, once they move out. If they constantly chastise their kid to the point where the kid has to be dishonest with them, they ruin the relationship.
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@sfleric (83)
• China
17 Jun 11
Exactly you get the key point of the relationship between parents and children. Most time, it is not the most important whether parents are always right. What does really matter is how parents respect their children, especially when children grow up and are capable of making some decisions. The thoughts of kids may be immature and not thorough. However if they don't go through some mistakes and some ups and downs, how can they be responsible for their future as a parent. How could they tell their kids what to do. So I think sometimes parents should leave some freedom of expressing personal opinion and making some choices to kids and allow them making mistakes. That's an inevitable phase during their growth.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
That makes the parents agree to there children, specially teenagers, the have many immaturity on there decision making, and in this case, parents should always right, am i correct?
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
But it doesn't mean though that as children would loose our respect to our parents..and hey! our PARENTS? they are still human and can make mistakes right??:)
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Yup, respect must always given to our parents, because they deserve it. Parent's also came from childhood so they must know the feeling to be child or teenager, and must balance there mind set to what the feelings of there children's and the thing's that the want to there child.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
17 Jun 11
Parents are human and it is impossible for them to always be right. just like bosses arn't always right. And believe it or not, I have found working all these years, even the customer isn't always right. Noe with that being said, I don't know how much you mean when you say older, but I do agree with you on one thing: Once they move out, they should not think thehy should still tell you what to do. But If you are 22 or 23, you might want to listen to them. They have so much more years than you and they might see you making the same mistakes they made when they were your age. and also, I don't care how old you are, if you are still living with them, they do still have the right to tell you what to do, because you are living in their house. But yeah, I don't care who you are, how much education you have, no one is ever always right. But some people like to think they are,
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Absolutely, i really like what you said that even how educated you are, you never always right all the time. Sometimes even the smartest person in the world made a mistake also in many ways, and we had to respect every person's decision, because in there mind, they are correct, and when you think you are correct, you must be right in own view, as long as you never hurt your parent with your decision.
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
17 Jun 11
Developing in today's society, always saying that parents are always right, because parents have a lot of experience, and as a child should be obedient to parents. But, today, many children who have left, what has become a habit. Now, many children who feel more righteous than their parents, because they thought their parents thought, was the ancient mind.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Not exactly, as children grow and become teenagers they had their instinct of being dependent, maybe not financially but with there decision sometimes.
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
yah most of the time. i've got to realized that because most of the time im stubborn. but of course as we grew older we are getting the capability to distinguish right from wrong!!=))
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Yup your right, being capable of identifying what right from wrong give us reason of sometimes not following our parents. And parents must understand that thing, because that might help there children to be a wise decision maker in the future.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
No. I strongly disagree with the notion that parents are always right. Not all parents definitely know their children. Like in my case, I don't think that my mother know me by heart. That's why I don't listen with her advises. I usually do what I wanted to do. But it doesn't mean that I disobey her all the time. Though we have a good relationship, I still don't agree that parents are always right.
@blueblink (246)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
My friend, we still need to follow our parents in one way or another. We must consider that we are here because of them. But is also believe that parents are not always right. If we have reach certain age and we can decide on our own we can stand on our decision, but still we must consider the decision of our parents. If we have prove them that we can stand on our own, they will respect our decision. Happy lotting
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
17 Jun 11
NO THEY ARE NOT! So not just to sound like some crazy teen :) but still now (not a teen or child :P ) they try to control my life . They do what they think is best for you not that its right . :)
• Mexico
18 Jun 11
hi there, why not? parents are always right!!, well it might not be true, but its the best way for the young to learn something, any way the truth nobody knows it almost every single one of us think different, so whatever its right for me its not always the same with you or even worse for kids, also we need to know that kids today are so silly enough to know whats better for them, as the experience has guide us, if we just think little bit about our own life back in our time when we were kids, we can find many things that were wrong, form very simple t o complicated situations, i think what kids most do is to listen carefully and obey parents once they are adults can decide whats best for them.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
I might agree with you. Not all the times they know what's right or wrong to us. And perhaps as we grow up we should know how to decide with own own, because not at all times we had parents deciding on what to do to our own lives. For me, parents also must considered that when there children came to the time that they had there own decision they must be supportive, because they must train us to be success on our own. If we failed for what we decided, that's life, learn from it and try not to be a failure next time.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
but we still have to follow our parents whether right or wrong.... until we reach the age of our debut.... after our debut.... the world is we have the right to control on our own.... no need to follow our parents any more... but sometimes we need their advice also....
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
for me yes!parents always right because where i am now,was because of my parents.I was finished my college and have a good job because of them.They were times they become strict to us but it was for our own good,we know our parents are not perfect but all the good things, to have a good future, finished our studies, to have a stable job, all these things that our parents wanted us to be.... We cannot blame that there were some parents done something wrong with there children.
• United States
17 Jun 11
I don't know how old you are, but I was young once and I thought I knew everything too. I thought my parents were way behind the times. I thought my parents were way too overbearing too. Now I am older than they were then. When you are old enough to live on your own you need to live your independence if you want to. After saying that, you need to also be adult enough to take care of yourself and your finances without asking your parents for any help. It is disrespectful to parents to have the attitude that they don't know what time it is. I would agree with you if your parents were bad parents that would have you do bad things like cheating and other dishonest things. But if your parents have good intentions and would not steer you wrong then you shouldn't disrespect them. Most of the time young people screw up their lives and then ask their parents to bail them out. I'm speaking as a parent and as a young person ...because I have been both. Believe me when I say what goes around comes around. You will likely have the same things said about you one day. The clock is ticking...
@kguyn1 (5)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Sometimes as parents we are trying to be a guiding point in your lives and we sometimes have trouble speaking your language. You must understand that in order to be good parents, we cannot always be your friend and it takes give and take from both the parent and the child. Just try and remember the next time that you have an argument with your parents that the relationship requires some understanding on your part as well.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
17 Jun 11
I don't think parents are always right. Sometimes our parents didn't get the best teaching either. Also if our parents do not know the whole story and every detail of our life they are not the best to make the decision. Only we know ourselves fully and can know what is right for us. Sometimes it takes us being wrong to find out also.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Well no one is really right all of the time. At least I know that my parents, there were sometimes where I knew they were in the wrong, but I had to go along with what they were saying, since I was under their roof. Really when you think about it, there are times where it doesn't matter how wrong parents are. Now when my parents were wrong as I get older, I was more able to call them out on their wrongness, albeit in a gentle manner. Granted, I don't want to say my parents were always wrong, because that was never really the case ever. Often times, when they were right, they were right. And other times, no one was right. There are no winners sometimes. Still in the end, when you think about it, no one is really completely ever right or always ever wrong. There are times where people are going to be able not handle being wrong sometimes. Of course, those who have power over people, whether it be parents of children at home or bosses at work or teachers at school, it doesn't matter how wrong they are, they are really always right a lot of the time. There are going to be a lot of people who are going to be wrong for various reasons, but it is just something that we are going to really need to let go. Still parents are not always right and neither is anyone else for that matter.
@ritzz07 (788)
• India
17 Jun 11
hi lilbabycatapillar i do belive in what do you however maximum time they are correct becouse they are elder than us and their experience is greater than us so i do always follow my parents what they suggest me....and nothing is bad in it if you like their suggession follow it and if dont leave it but dont hurt them.....
@sniglet (113)
17 Jun 11
Parents are 100% giving right advises to the way of living in the society,like that i believe.My parents are inspiration to me.They are very hard workers,they are always think about me. i love my parents
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
not all the time :)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
My opinion in this would be, not all PARENTS are always right..why? because in the first place, parents were given to us by GOD to nurture us from the time that we are born after that, time comes that we will be on our mature stage that we are given the chance to prove to ourselves that we can stand up to our decisions in life. It means that it is YOU that is responsible whatever risks or chances you take. parents CAN NEVER DICTATE or should I say SHOULD NEVER DICTATE what the their children want in life. That is why a lot of rebellious acts from the kids are happening within the family because PARENTS DO MEDDLE and DICTATES their kids on what to do in life. As a parent myself to a 13years old daughter and 12 years old son and a 3 years old toddler, me and my husband, we see too it that we are there to guide them and not to DICTATE what would be their ambition in life. It is a tough job for parents not to DICTATE their kids (believe me!)but it takes open communication (open forum as what my husband calls it!)to master it.