guy's behavior as they drink liqours

Philippines
June 18, 2011 1:12pm CST
I am not fond of drinking alcoholic liquors. I drink with some occasions. I don't know what's with the alcoholic liquors that can cause emotions down to others, make crazy, and for some help you to forget the things that happen. There's that guy that a friend of mine who's been dating for a couple of months. The guy is so caring and all good or shall I say one of the best guy that a girl could love to have....IF he is not drunk. The guy is an alcoholic guy like he can drink most--- everyday if there is someone who will accompany for drinking session. The guy I guess is somewhat in love with my friend since almost 24 hours of the day he need to monitor or if there is a drinking session with his friends he will let my friend to come. The concern is if the guy is drunk already, there are times that he tend to forget the things that happens, the things he will do---like being so stupid with his doings that will make a girl embarrass because sometimes he can't control how he acts. My question now: Do you think my friend need to forget the guy?knowing for the fact that my friend is inlove with the guy now. or do you think my friend needs to accept the weakness of the guy?
3 responses
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
18 Jun 11
People who drink behave in erratic way -- this is the rule of the day. People drink because they were trained when they were young or they learnt from their friends. They enjoy the dizzy feeling. Your friends BF misbehaving after drinking is routine. Your friend should decide based on considerations -- is the guy she loves deserves her love - is he working-= is he wealthy - will he change. My recommendation will be to forget about him and get to marry some other guy who will not be a drunkard like this guy. I am sure she will not listen-=-her love will make her think that that guy will die if she is not going to be with him-- all false expectations. Some girl still love drunkards because they are thinking that they cannot get a better fellow than this guy and they want to change this fellow. This can never happen. Drunkards/addicts never reform themselves. Yes. your friend should forget him and look for better things in life.
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
19 Jun 11
In the matter of love suggestions given by outsiders will carry less effect. She has to decide by herself. In these difficult days even person who do not drink and are good in work find it difficult to stay in work, earn money. Addicts may find it extremely tough to manage work, family.
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
@ ravisivan: I know for the fact that the only thing that can decide for their selves are them. We just hope and pray that the thing that they are needing for the moment is some suggestions in order for us not to see them suffer in the near future. But we should take considerations that we cannot decide their decisions.
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
19 Jun 11
I believe one should never ever drink liquors as it is very bad for our health and yes its a very bad habit also and a lot of people loose their control after drinking and end up doing wrong things.
• India
20 Jun 11
Yes one shot of liquors is not harmful but it is useful but the point is a person who is addicted to such things will always drink more and therefore this is the problem and then he will end up doing something crazy.
@marcmm (1806)
• Malaysia
19 Jun 11
As a drinker myself, I think I am the most suitable person to answer you. Okay, how stupid a guy can be when he drunk? Nobody can really know. And it only happen when the guys drunk. Most of the time when I'm drunk I just excuse myself and go to bed because I cannot even open my eyes anymore. My question to your friends. What behaviour he do when he drunks that embarrase her? Did he talk nonsense? Did he go out naked or wearing woman clothes? If she feel she is embarrase, tell him. Don't keep it up. Don't expect guy will know how the woman feel because they will never know unless they are told. And my advice for your friends, never tell a guy to stop drinking. I know I didn't like it. Not even if my wife tells me. Once, a long time ago, I really like this girl. I've known her for a long time and very fond with her. But one things make me step back to move forward. She tells me she never like guy that drink. So, full stop. And that is how guys will react if they are told to stop drinking.
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
I got a different idea when I read your response. Now, you helped me to realized that it is not nice to let the guy stop drinking knowing for the fact they doesn't that way. I don't really know what is the meaning of love but I think if you love the person it is not a requirement that your partner needs to change but all you need to do is to embrace his strengths and so as his weaknesses. In that way I think... guys can be able to think and realize not to hurt a woman anymore. :D