My Friend is a MISTRESS!

@xien2xien (1382)
Philippines
June 21, 2011 8:06pm CST
I'm finally taking love seriously as of today, i have my man where i belong and to whom i'm in love with, but as i look back at those times when i was into playing games, i used to have a boyfriend who had a wife too, i've experienced it already so now i'm in a traumatic situation when i found out that my friend is a mistress, here's the story... When my friend and this guy met a year ago, this man told her that he and his wife were already separated, so he's been living a single life, then this man and my friend fall in love with each other, it's a normal thing for a once married man to fall in love again, they have a relationship for 7months, but then the last time i've heard was this man and his wife came back with each other and at this moment they were again living together, i tried to talk with my friend i tried to tell her my stories before, and it was hard being her because she really loved this man, upto this point she still have a relationship with this man, she accepted the fact that he's living with his wife again. i was really disappointed but my friend told me that she was happier with him than letting him go, plus this man can't let her go also, what's the point of reconciliating with his wife but still can't let my friend go please share your views mylotters
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whengcat
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Actually, my sister is a mistress. She had 2 kids with that man, at first me and my brother hated her. We hated her so much and at the same time pitied her. But then we realized that it is where she's happy, specially with her kids so we let her be.
gingerberrie
@gingerberrie (191)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Your friend will be having a hard time to understand that good thing you wanted to happen for her. It's really hard to inject good advises to a friend if she's enjoying the goodness of paradise. Her eyes are closed and contented with the happiness that she having at the moment. She will only realize and listen to you when the right time will come. In that time she will need all your advice and will need a friend to lean on. For now, always include her in your prayer for enlightenment. God Bless!!!
jennyze
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
22 Jun 11
The guy wants to have the best of both of them, that's for sure, and your friend will get hurt in the end, cause he would still choose his wife over your friend. Well you told your friend everything you know about this kind of a relationship, so it is really up to your friend to decide. As a friend, you had done your best to convince her, now you only need to support her for whatever decision she made and be there when everything falls apart.
Jellrey
@axlrate7 (1398)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Everything's become so selfish, never letting go each other even though they know that they are living in lie. This has to stop before it become worst, in every situation that I see before like this never become happy in the end... they have to let go each other.
Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
22 Jun 11
Hi xien, You friend need to understand or you need to make her understand that this man is taking advantage of her.He doesn't lover her but making fool of her playing game with her & his wife. She should accept it that till his wife is there in his life he is not going to accept her.How early she understands it will be better to repent afterwards.But i think she needs your support she may be very depresses & may be feeling alone your support i think will be able to get rid of this man.
hadawaymine1
@hadawaymine1 (2)
• United States
22 Jun 11
Well it seems that it really depends on what that friend's views are. There are so many times that I have looked into other cultures that seem to be accepting to this sort of behavior. It seems that we as a socity seem to define what is needed to be an acceptable relationship. If this was Greece during the times of the ancients this would not even be a second thought in your mind towards your friend. My thoughts are you are happy the way you are, and she is a big girl you eighter accept her or move onyourself. :)
kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
22 Jun 11
You friend just too naive. Maybe this man just playing game with both of them. Since he separated with his wife before, and he was falling in love with your friend, why would he try to reconnect with his wife again? He shouldn't do that, and he should tell the truth and fact to your friend and his ex - wife. That is absolutely unfair to your friend.
Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
It would be very difficult to convince your friend as of this moment to let go of that man because she's in a very happy situation. The fact that she's a mistress doesn't affect her at all. Only she alone can help herself realize her own faults and let go at the right time. I am a christian and in this situation, when talking is not enough for the friend to realize that what she's doing is a sin, we just pray for her soul. In time, God will open her eyes and little by little she will realize. So i think the best option here is to pray for your friend, if you believe in God.