That girl is a monster!!

June 30, 2011 6:36am CST
A friend of mine has completely went off the rails! She broke up with her long term partner, a year ago, and since then,shes went mental. Drinking all the time, partying all the time, getting into fights, making enemies, and yet still going back to the same places for more.. it's really upsetting to watch. Shes telling me now that she hates where she lives, and she hates the girls shes moved in with, but i know why she moved in with them in the first place, it's because they were partiers like her.. i just dont know what to do with her.. she says that her partner breaking up with her has ruined her life.. how do i tell her its actually her doing that to herself!?
5 responses
@alharra (508)
• United States
1 Jul 11
You just tell her that her own actions are the problem. I am not known for my tact and have lost many friends because of it. But I always thought a friend was the one person you could count on to tell you when you are screwing up. Just tell her she is screwing up- give her specific examples- and offer to help her get her life back together. That is the best thing you can do for her. Unless of course you want to lose her completely.
1 Jul 11
i don't want to loose her completely, i'm just scared for the way shes been getting on. i spent a lot of time turning my life around and i dont want her to drag me down eiether xx
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Sad to say, yes, that it's her , who is ruining herself. She cannot accept the breakup with her partner, so she tries to drown herself in partying and doing things that could actually destruct herself. She has gotten herself to into wrong company of friends. Maybe as you friend you can help her. Counsel her and talk to her heart to heart. Let her pour out all her heartaches to you and just listen to her intently. When she has finished, advise her of what better things to do. Tell her that she should clean up her acts and first of all, find another place to live , away from those destructive friends. Counsel her if you can. Maybe if you are religious yourself, you can go with her to prayer meetings. That will slowly open up her eyes,
1 Jul 11
no, neither of us are religious and i do let her talk to me.. i'm sort of at a loss, shes ended up getting barred from one of the bars shes been partying at so maybe that will slow her down a little!x
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
For me be careful may today's are not good person because the devil is living in this earth.
1 Jul 11
yeah, i know.. alot of people are bad people..
@aisha209 (45)
• United States
1 Jul 11
You should just come out and tell her. You really can not beat around the bush and make it sound good. because you know what is going on and you see it. tell her face to face.
1 Jul 11
yeah, i think the cruel to be kind option is my only one!
@toniganzon (51675)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
I think it's time to slap her to wake her up. This kind of people are blind and deaf to advice at this very moment. She needs time but you have to watch over her not doing any crazy things. Don't get tired reminding her that life is still beautiful and she's got friends to care for her. Life doesn't end when your partner lives you, in fact you should say thank you because God is reserving you for a much better partner. Try telling her that and let's see how she would react. If she where my friend i would really tell her how stupid she is. I've done that before and happy that my friend of mine woke up from her reverie.
30 Jun 11
god is reserving her for a much better partner! i like that!!!