What is it like to be someone's lover?

hello, First of all you dont have a right to get jealous or even one of you because you are not in the real relationships. Yes, you got the word "friends with benefits" well, both of you are not taking it seriously even you look like a boyfriend and girlfriend. I dont understand why you choose to be in that situation, but I respect it whatever your decision. Okay, so being a lovers are not that easy as what you are taking now. There are times that you quarrel for some reasons unlike in your situation you dont experience that. right? Lovers are seriously treated not just for fun, you care because you love not just because you have benefit.

I was in the whole situation before. I was under the impression that we are officially lovers because we have been dating each other exclusively, hold hands, sleeping together and do whatever a couple does. But I think it's kinda fake or what you call pseudo relationship. You are still open to the fact that you both have feelings for each other but at the same time you have the freedom to date other people. If you want to be committed to your relationship it is best to clarify things with him. Otherwise one or both of you may hurt in the future.

I think this relationship is just sort of lust between you guys what you are seeing is love and what your partner sees is lust, sorry for the offense but that's what i came to an conclusion from your discussion. Talking about your partner where he wants to peruse sleeping with others there is no love over here. If he loves you he wont had thought about sleeping with others, This brings up a situation where only filling physical needs arrive. Also there is no point in being jealous unless and until you guys are truly committed to each other. Also if you are thinking in a long term relationship then you guys can cal yourself boyfriend and girlfriend. Sorry for the unsupported response but that's what i feel.

For me the one who is calm to said so that when you married no big words to said and you not get hurt to the thing's you would quarrel.

I would never want to be in this situation. I am very possessive so I would never want my guy to share his amour with another. I would leave him and find a guy who really loves me and treat me well. Your guy treats you as if you are just another friend of his many friends. Meaning you are not so special to him than his other lovers. Why do you stay in this situation? It seems that you don't love hi either. Why waste your time with him? You could start looking for a real man who loves you more than himself and avoid some diseases that might be transfer to you by this guy who sleeping with many girls... who knows...

now you should just take this as a friendship.......its true that its great to be someone's lover but the boy hvnt express its feeling yet......... what you can do is escape from himfor few days.......and than se his reaction....if he loves you he ll speak his heart........so best of luck.

I remember one time when I was in the bank waiting for my sister. While waiting for her, I grab a magazine to read. I was able to spot an interesting topic which is they call it as "FB" f_buddy. I was so surprised that such things really happen and it's not rarely but very common to young professionals. There's no commitment, not boyfriend/girlfriend just sharing their common interest. In this is kind of relationship similar to yours is really hard because we're just a human beings and jealousy is a part of our life for those people we care and give our honest love. Sometimes it's hard to think for a better decision if you are enjoying so much in one's situation. A bit complicated if you would think but that's life. As many people say "enjoy life to the fullest...but the bottom is still do good to yourself.