Upsetting Email from my Dad

I think you two need to sit down as two grown adults and work this thing out. Daycare is costly, and perhaps your dad and you can find some kind of balance. He's probably confused and upset by this turn of events as you are, and the two of you just need to work it out. It may sound impossible, but believe me it's entirely possible if you're willing to work at it. Now is the best time to work out problems. Take some time to calm down first though. Try not to let your emotions get the better of you when you do have a chance to talk, you're not helping anyone doing that. You have to help yourself first, and as I said talk things through both calmly and rationally. It'll help you both out in the long-run.

I don't like this attitude. I have met people from that generation who also happen to have grandchildren and actually love taking care of them. He seems to be complaining about how you raise them (packing wrong food) but doesn't want to participate in their lives and help you out other than getting paid. Him being a grandparent and not a babysitter is a valid point but only to a certain extent. He's family and why should he be paid? Better you find a close friend (a godparent if you're of that persuasion?) who is willing to watch over them for free and out of the goodness of their own heart.

Well, the older people get, the weirder their attitude is to life. Maybe your dad only wants to see your kids for a couple of hours, playing with them and does not want to stay watch for hours till you come back from work. I understand that you need the kids being looked after during your works but sometimes parent sees it as being used for granted.

well i am not the person who actually let my future children to be watch by their grandparents and I also understand your situation that you are having a hard time taking care of your children. But the thing is I more understand your father, because i had a father too and he has a grandchildren which he loves them so much but sometimes he got angry because the children are sometimes behave so much which is out of control. You know he is getting older and I think he also needs rest. You should also remember that he is also been taking care of you since you were young. Aside from that you should be the one to take care of him give his needs also like vitamins, doctors check up, at least once in while. It's not all the time that you have your father to take care of your children, It's not all the time that you have depend on your father. You have to find a way to settle all this things up. As i said your father is getting older, he might have heart attack or serious illness someday and As people getting older their attitude changes. They are becoming hot tempered and becoming so angry at things which is not supposed to be. So don't be upset. Instead find a way to have your children a babysitter. Since you are working very hard on it I know it is expensive but if you work hard of it you will get them a baby sitter.