He's Just Not Meant for Me
By miessy24
@miessy24 (235)
Philippines
July 8, 2011 8:18am CST
I had a suitor whom I eventually learn to like. Just when I was obvious to my liking in him, he had an affair with his former high school classmate. He confessed it to me and said he was still into me but his life was now complicated because of this "sideline" affair. I was trying to make him feel that I wasn't affected or anything. But of course I was really hurt and shared it to my best friend sister. She convinced me to tell him everything that I felt. The next day I sent him a text telling that I felt betrayed and so on. He then apologized without further explanation and I didn't respond. He is just a type of person who talk less...and likewise, I am just a passive type of person. The next few days I just knew that they are officially "on".
My dilemma is that, whether I have to ask him for an explanation for this?I was supposedly her "girl to be" had I figured it out earlier that I liked him too..but maybe I was really slow on this thing? Do you think I made the right choice of letting him go?
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7 responses
@nytrisco (567)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
For me, you made a right decision and you do not need any further explanations from him since he already confessed that he has an affair with someone before. I think you deserve a someone better than him. Just wait, God will give you the right guy for you. =)
@nytrisco (567)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
I'm still having some problems posting my pet's photo here and I really don't know why. I'll just post it to some photo sharing site and send you the link ok?
Just let him go, just think about it. If he really loves you, he will just come back to you or he will have some difficult time to adjust for a new relationship. I'm sorry, I know this is hard, I know what it feels, I too had some experience like that but it was the other way around.
Yep, just keep your faith in God.
@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
thanks nytrisco, where is your pet's picture?
anyways, thank you for the response. I can say that i would likely believe your opinion since you are a guy. It takes one to know one, as it is said. and thanks because you strengthen my faith in God. Truly, God has the best plan for each of us.
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
you certainly made the right choice to let him go and i salute you for that. sometimes, life is ironic, the one we like are already taken or they can't just be with us for some certain reason, and we felt hurt. but the moment we've move on, we will be just happy that we don't end up with them. you deserve someone better than a man who would court two woman at a time. you deserve someone who will love faithfully. don't feel bad about losing him, because it is never your lost. cheer up! life is beautiful, God is preparing someone better than him!
@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
Thanks for reinforcing me to stand on my decision made. You are right. Life is ironic and absurd. I can't do anything about its nature but to accept the truth. And the truth is to enjoy life's moment. when I have to be happy, then be happy. If I have to be sad, then be sad. It's part of life and that's what make life exciting and meaningful. And I cannot believe I can say things like this. I must have moved on. Iam just so glad.
(^_^)
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
You are right dear,maybe he is not meant for you.
If he really likes you,he should have done everything to have you.
But,he did not pursue anything and now he is into another relationship.
Just wait for the right guy,the one who don't have any sideline affair.
have a great weekend and welcome to mylot
@Cactus2010 (167)
• India
8 Jul 11
Let him go. Saying sorry is meaningless unless it is followed by action. Love is incomplete without respect for each other.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Hi, miessy!
I think, you just made the right decision to let him go. Perhaps, you must start looking for another man that truly deserves your attention, love and care. Don't waste time on a man who just ignores your feelings for him. You'll just get hurt in return if that's the case. Don't you worry, you'll be fine sooner. Just don't think about it every now and then. Tc. :)
@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Thanks for the response Jdex_143. Yeah you are right, I must not think about it for me to move on. There are other things in life that are worth my attention, interest, love and care- my family and friends. Everything will turn out well by God's grace. :)
@thetis74 (1525)
•
9 Jul 11
You absolutely made the right decision for letting him go. You will only get hurt if you allow the circumstances to let him into your life without him being sure as to which one is heavier on him. It is better to let go rather than getting hurt the worse int the long run. Don't worry, the hurt that you feel at the moment will help you become a stronger person. It is always true that there are some people who are not truly meant for us. And there could only be one person who is meant for you. And every time you lose a person who is not meant for you, that is as much learning and lessons learned as to knowing the right person for you the moment he comes to your life.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
We had the same situation few years ago and i let him go too. Don't worry about it too much.You don't really like him anyway.You're just jealous for his attention was taken away and someone stole it from you.Everyyhing will went well, you'll get over it. It's his lost and you'll find someone better than him. :)
