Choosing the right person for you

@acey76 (1278)
Philippines
July 11, 2011 7:48pm CST
I remember this text message sent to me by a friend of mine and here it goes: What If your in a situation where in you have your present LOVE and then your ex-lover comes back saying he/she's sorry for everything and asking for another chance.Who would you choose your present lover that you don't wan't to get hurt, or your ex-lover that you found out that you still love HIM/HER? So what's your answer guys?
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@RJlady1 (144)
• United States
12 Jul 11
The person is an "ex" for a reason. Why would anybody want to keep going through the same pain over and over again? If I'm being treated well by my present partner, there is no way I would be tempted to go back to someone who made me unhappy in the past.
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
hi, actually this kind of situation is happening to me now,and my ex really asked for a forgiveness,and i did,i still love my ex but i love also my present then the only thing that i can do is to ask God to give a sign where should i choose to both of them,and God gave that to me and i gave my ex a chance to show his courage.
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
The main reason why it's called an Ex is because he's a thing of the past and that you've moved on. Going back to that person means your going backwards which is not a good thing. But then all's fair in love and war so everything goes, let the heart decide, what's important is you're prepared to face the consequences.
@cathzuya (187)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
i would choose the ex IF i do love him much compare to the present. but first, it depends on whatever reason why we had a separate lives from the fist place.
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
If ever I would encounter a situation like this, I think, if I'm happy with my present lover and he takes care of me much better than the past, I won't go back to my ex-lover. I already had my time to get out of the relationship, why should I go back when I already found another man who loves me.
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I think he should have to past a test first. First thing to do is let him court gain, even when the girl has a current BF, she is not breaking the rules anyway. That is to see if he is that patient for you. That is a way for the girl to weigh things too, a lot of things to consider here, hard to decide actually.
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
WEll that depends. I have to weigh things first. I have to know his reason why he came back? And also know better the present. So things thousand times and also i ask guidance from up above.
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Hi acey! For me, it would be "let bygones be bygones". I may still love the ex but the present is more important. I mean, I wouldn't be with my present lover if I didn't love him, too. And besides, it wouldn't be easy to get back with someone who have clearly done something before (since he's saying sorry), things will be complicated and I wouldn't want any complications in life. And I think it would be better to live in the present than in the past.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Well, whoever loves me best and treat me well! It just really depends on my heart whom it will choose to love! Whoever it is, I'll make sure I'll be happy!
@nikramos (701)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
whoever of these two guys treat me better, is more loving, more understanding, more of everything, more willing to go the extra mile to prove his worth, then he deserves the chance. BUT if you are ultimately secure with the present guy, in all aspects, then there's no need to consider the ex.