once loved and now hate
By GraceChen03
@GraceChen03 (73)
China
6 responses
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
18 Jul 11
I don't think that the marriage is the problem, but with the marriage you start to live with the other person and then you are going to find defects that you didn't know before getting married. With the cohabitation, persons tend to find some habits from the other really annoying and then the fights will begin. The relationship will fades.
And this is not the fault of the marriage.
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@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
marriage is not that terrible. Maybe they have just misunderstanding. Or maybe they where not true to their selves when they still like bf/gf stage.
And maybe they never put up a good and better foundation in there relationships. There are so many factors why some marriage are broken and i think the couple has its answers why. :-)
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@Cactus2010 (167)
• India
19 Jul 11
Marriage is not terrible. It is just that many couples don't adjust with the reality. They tend to have too much expectation from other which he/she may not be able to fulfill. Actually a person is a package having some qualities you like and some don't but you have to accept him/her in totality. You can't be choosy about that and can not impose your will that the person has to change himself/herself according to your preference. When couple do not exhibit this kind of maturity they end up with separation or a life of desperation.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Yeah.. I have also thought of this also. I am thinking, is there only sweet beginnings and no happy endings? These point of time, I've noticed that there are a lot of broken marriages. Does love fade away when you live together as husband and wife for a long time? Can't love grow as time goes by? I hope I won't end up like the others when I'll get married. It's just too painful for me. :(
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
18 Jul 11
I still believe in marriage and I think that is possible the love to grow with the time and with the cohabitation. But, for that happen, the both wife and husband need to have patience and understand the other defects.
The problem is that nowadays no one have more patience to build the relationship.
I really hope that this doesn't happen when I get married too.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
18 Jul 11
I guess that maybe some couples get married too fast, so, they think that everything is perfect. But, with the time, they are going to see that the other person is not that perfect at all. With friends is the same thing.
