A lover and relative.

@thetis74 (1525)
July 21, 2011 11:54pm CST
I had this friend when I was in college. She once came to me and worried about her situation with her boyfriend whom they both have the same family names. I didn't get enough details at that time since she was really worrying about it a lot, but she said she just found out that their families came from both the same town where they both came from. And she said that they are possibly related and she wouldn't want to give him up neither would he because they have also already loved each other intimately. She was almost crying and she looked really worried serious when she used to be the noisy and jolly type. What do say about this?
3 responses
• United States
22 Jul 11
Chances are, they are far away in relation enough that they would not have a problem if they were to have children. Depending on where you live, they could possibly still get married, too. I know here in my state in the US, people can marry their first cousins. So there's a good chance that they would not have much of a problem at all. There might be a problem with other people, but if they truly love each other, they might do what they want to anyway. She'll figure it out, hopefully she will be happy either way.
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@thetis74 (1525)
22 Jul 11
I think she didn't exactly worry about their being relatives. I understood that what she was so worried about is that their respective families would criticize and object. I could see that it didn't matter to her-that all she believes in is their love for each other.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
22 Jul 11
Hi Thetis, This is tough situation, but no one can be blamed for. Sometimes I would say my hubby, he is my all, like lover, like a father, like a brother and everything. So as long as your friend and his beloved are strong, they no need to worry of what the fate played between them, they can keep going the life they chosen.Cheers!
@thetis74 (1525)
22 Jul 11
She was only obviously worried about what people and families might think and that they might object. She really loves her and I don't think she ever had the thought of giving up their relationship.
@tryurbest (115)
• China
22 Jul 11
Your friend should inspect whether she and her boyfriend are relatives. In the same town with the same family names does not mean they are very close relative,nether means they can not get married. If they have fallen in love and also been relatives,they had better not have child.
@thetis74 (1525)
22 Jul 11
I understood that she checked that was why she so concerned and so worried.