Dilema-my mother or my love?

It is a thing of in-laws. My mother in law didnt liked me at first too. but thank God she didnt tell my husband to leave me at that time. The first time my husband told her he has a girlfriend and will be marrying, she did told him though she'll find another lady prettier and richer and other things only to not let him marry me. But we married. You are married now, and the relationship and the marriage is in your hands. I know its difficult for you to be caught in between two ladies you love. Maybe it's only new. It's not you who can solve this but your wife. She has to find ways to let your mom love her. Do you live in the same house? Tell your wife to cook for her good food, or sometimes clean the house. Make your mom tea, things that can make your mom soft and love her. tell your wife to treat your mom like her own mom... I hope everything goes well. Just don't leave your wife. Keep yourself in between, but at the end of the day, dont forget to tell your wife you love her, and everything will be fine.

hi, This is really a difficult situation for you, I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately I do not know exactly why your mother does not like your wife, there may be a reason that a wedge for your mother. Remember: heaven on mother's feet. Besides, I'm sure you love your wife, I hope your wife continues to be a wife who solehah and always be patient. Hopefully God gives instructions for your mother. Prevailing wisdom of yourself for this case, do not hurt any one, looking for solutions and the right time to unite them. I am sure, you'll soon be out of the situation. Allah be with you.

Personally why would you choose to leave your wife just because your Mom does not like her? If you Love your wife, you should tell your Mom you Love her, and that should be what matters most is your Love and happiness. She should respect you and your choice, unless there are things going on in your marriage that are not good that she knows about. But to just want you to leave her for no real reason, your Love for your wife should be all that matters.

Your mother does not have complete right on your life anymore. But your wife does. So you should give more importance to her. Your mother is going through the jealousy phase. She cannot stand another woman in her son's life. This is something that most women deal with. You should treat it as a natural thing. But don't break off your marriage just for her sake. This is how you will have to feel guilty all your life.

Like you said to another myLotter, your mom have tendency to depression, so, maybe she's feeling alone after you got married. So, she thinks that if you leave your wife, she's going to have you again. But, you need to show your mother that you are going to be there for her too. Also, you said that your wife is quiet, so, maybe your mother doesn't know her really well. Your wife likes your mother? Try to talk to her to make more interactions with your mother, so, she can feel that she can be friend with her daughter-in-law too.