Why did he hurt me so?
By gengeni
@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
July 23, 2011 8:32pm CST
I could have used my real friend today. But he was not there for me.
He has been employed rather than at times for me to be there with other matters.
Today I experienced something very bad and it has taken me to the ground under our feet. I could have used a strong shoulder. I could listen to me indeed is not so wild and even on the phone. It was really bad for me. He has not even taken time for me to get the correct time to listen.
He was busy with a buddy to clarify something. Then he has never met with another friend. And I drove to my best friend who stood with me side. Nevertheless, it is not the same. I needed his support to lean on his shoulder. When I got home after I was with my girlfriend and then he said he did not reply me. So I called him at home, but his sister told me that he and a couple buddies drink is gone. I am extremely disappointed by it. For when I need him he is not there.
I do not know whether this with us may go further.
He had promised me something that was very important. But he has repeatedly broken. I was done so because it was no small thing. I have not spoken to him let alone written, but eventually I was soft and then gave him back to his written text. We had then spoken and I have forgiven him like so many times. And now he disappointed me that again. Right now at this difficult time.
What should I do. I love him very much, but disappointed over and over again so as to be not what I wanted. He is 22 and behaves towards me as selfish.
I just do not continue. How can anyone be so selfish? I thought that a partnership is there for one another there. But he probably thinks differently.
What would you do in such a case?
How would you react? I do not continue.
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6 responses
@free_man (7330)
• United States
24 Jul 11
Hi Gengeni. If a man won't stand for you while you are not yet married he will never stand for you. Sounds to me like this guy don't love you as much as you love him. Sounds to me like he is acting like a child not a man. When you are with someone then you should stand at their side in the good bad and the ugly! If they can't stand with you when you are in need how can you expect them to be when it is really serious plain fact you can't. And believe me they won't be there when you really need them to be. Move on sweetie God has someone out there just for you but it isn't this one believe me it sounds like this person is selfish and isn't grown enough to take care of his needs much less anyone else needs! Pray about it and ask God to show you the right path and believe me God will show you what you need in your life my friend! Keep the faith and God will guide you through these troubled times! Good luck and God bless!
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 11
Is a relationship designed to be a recipient of the donor and the other is?
One of the fools and the other freedom has always swallows everything?
From my perspective, this is not a partnership in which one passes through at the expense of others "thing "....
There are certainly plenty of others who are much more interesting that you love her!
Do not be so small!
@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 11
Ouch, does not sound as if you had the message, which you pulled the floor, made ??a midge to elephants.
I find much that will be there in a relationship for one another. He had the "clear" with his buddy and your can come to you or call you, so you can express yourself and he can at least give comfort.
But as I see it as my prescribing: go have a drink with friends, rather than the partner is to stand aside clearly a no go and shows disinterest.
@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 11
Ouch, does not sound as if you had the message, which you pulled the floor, made ??a midge to elephants.
I find much that will be there in a relationship for one another. He had the "clear" with his buddy and your can come to you or call you, so you can express yourself and he can at least give comfort.
But as I see it as my prescribing: go have a drink with friends, rather than the partner is to stand aside clearly a no go and shows disinterest.
@dayangsumbi2010 (1724)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 11
sounds stupid. but this relationship has no sense. you'll think you sure you give yourself more than you get back. that's not right. it should be balanced. find another one better. know the situation itself. and unfortunately it has no sense.
if he is not there for you, but you always back him. if he does not recognize how much you need him in some situations. it does not make sense to disappoint themselves ...
sry but I'm not a better rat.
remain hard and do what for yourself what it is you yourself is ultimately more important to you. you're doing so only broken ....
