Marriage destroyed by cosmetic surgery

@toniganzon (53206)
Philippines
July 24, 2011 11:42pm CST
For 20 years they struggled to earn a lot of money but they were both happy. They loved each other very much and they didn't care much about their physical appearance. She was a simple woman he loved dearly despite and inspite of her imperfect looks. As the years went by they had much money they could spend in the world, wife notices how ugly she looked. One time the husband came home from a business trip surprised to see his wife's new breasts. He struggled to make love to her as he was scared the breasts would burst or something. He's not used to this and he was opposed to it. One cosmetic surgery lead to another and they slowly drifted apart. He didn't know her anymore and she's no longer the woman he used to love. He didn't care about the wrinkles nor her imperfect figure. He found her very shallow and they finally divorced. Lesson i learned from this story. Men don't like fakes. When they love, they love someone with natural beauty. So why do we have to resort to those cosmetic surgery. Let's just grow old gracefully with our partner.
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
25 Jul 11
My husband would be the opposite, I would think. He's all the time wondering why I don't get a prosthesis for my left eye, and said a few times that he'd like for me to have a face-lift. If we had a lot of money, he would support me going for plastic surgery to get myself more beautiful for his tastes/desires. I admit that I wish I looked better, but not sure if I would actually go through with plastic surgery, except to get excess skin from my 2 pregnancies cut off, but that's just about it.
@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Would your husband ask you to have a boob job as well?
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
26 Jul 11
No, his issue is that he just likes his women skinny, plus he doesn't fully accept the fact that I'm physically disabled and that I don't look normal.
@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I'm sorry but i'm a bit troubled by what you said that he doesn't fully accept the fact that you're physically disabled and you don't look normal. But he married you.
@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Having those cosmetic surgeries, would really alienate the wife from his husband. It wasn't the same woman anymore that he married and maybe there's this feeling that why does she have to do those things to herself, when i love her the way she is. The husband is already afraid of her wife, because he may not have her heart anymore, but would one day long for a younger husband. She wasn't the woman he married anymore, so he divorced her.
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@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
True. He said he would rather have her spend the money on charity rather on her own self. She became a totally different woman. I don't blame the husband for leaving her but somehow i felt bad that he didn't try to stop her from changing. I wish he tried to at least stop her.
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@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I think the husband has prevented her wife from doing the surgeries. But the woman maybe is persistent, given so much money to spare. Hence, the husband divorced her. Sometimes, we have to listen to our husband. It's them we are pleasing. Don't we?
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Jul 11
Hi Toni I think it is not only the men who dont like fakes. Even the women folk will not like fakes. Okay, that is not with the story but still. I think in any relationship, what is most important is truth and honesty. And with that a willingness and a sense of acceptance of the other person as is - if we want changes in the other person, I dont think that is love. It becomes something selfish. The cosmetic surgeries are good for some like models, filmstars who have not much of family thing with them. All they care is about their looks. I remember your post when you mentioned - you change your avatar every month to show the world you are getting older. That I think is honesty and really something that we all should be happy to live with.
@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I agree. I am a hypocrite if i won't admit that i too long to be beautiful, though not perfectly beautiful because i believe there is no such thing. But to go under the knife for beauty is something that i never imagined i would do. I would resorts to natural skin care but i won't stop myself from totally getting wrinkled. At the right age i think having a line on my face is something that i would be proud of. For me, that would be a symbol of what i have accomplished in life. Thank you Sid and i've missed you. I have read your post by the way so i know why you were missing for quite sometime. Hope you have settled in in your new home. Nice to have you back.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Jul 11
Ah thanks dear Toni. We are to shift to the new place on 31st of this month and so it is just about 6-7 days more and then I will be back amidst my friends here.
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello Toni! Very Good Post! After reading the conclusion of this story, I will have to but agree with the story. It is very true that fake things repulse many people. We should always feel thankful to the great God that we have been given such a wonderful organs/body and every million and trillion of currency cannot replace the ‘original’ organs. We should accept our partners as they are because unnatural organs implanted through cosmetic surgery will always remain fake, they just cannot take place of original organs
@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
True. I cannot imagine touching my husband with implants on his butts! Sorry for my words but i'm just being honest!
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
I can well understand your point.
• Sri Lanka
26 Jul 11
Very good lesson for everybody. All the things in this world are in a impermanent nature. Everything dying day by day even though we try to hide this impermanent things with fake permanent but eventually we will get mislead by our own actions.
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@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
True.
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Lovers are blind. They can accept imperfections, hence nobody's perfect anyway. If you truly love someone then physical beauty is just a small aspect, inner beauty is much more important. Perhaps the man in your story feels like his wife is now becoming a stranger. Her attitude might have been affected as well by her changed of appearance.
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@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Exactly! She became a stranger to him and he doesn't know her anymore!
@shaggin (37313)
• United States
25 Jul 11
I think it is horrible that just because she had costmetic surgery that he divorced her. It doesnt matter what her appearance is or if she changes her apperance he should still love her for who she is. While he doesnt want to make love to her I'm sure now someone else will want to and he is the one missing out.
@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I think with her change of appearance, her personality followed. She became more selfish and unmindful of others. She became superficial and that's not the woman he used to love.
@shaggin (37313)
• United States
27 Jul 11
Oh I see so it wasent a matter of her looks that he couldnt put up with it was how much her attitude and behavior changed once she got all that plastic surgery. I dont think my attitude would change at all I would just feel better about myself. I would still be the same way I am now. Just because I got plastic surgery and became beautiful doesnt mean I would be in love with myself and treat others differently. I dont have the money to get plastic surgery anyway lol.
@rameshchow (5284)
• India
25 Jul 11
Character is more important than children, after getting two children no one cares about beauty.