Why people want to discuss over personal feelings?

India
July 26, 2011 1:31pm CST
I've seen many of my friends that wants to discuss their personal feelings with many of others. Even they also that at any point of time they will make fun of that & even they are not trustworthy. I don't like this criteria & I also don't share all my personal feelings & problems to anyone. Do you?
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@Awinds (2475)
• United States
26 Jul 11
Why not discuss personal problems and feelings on the internet? It's "safer." To discuss these things with your family or real life friends is more "dangerous." You might be afraid of what they will think or you might not be at liberty to expose all the details of the problem either out of embarrassment. What our close friends and family think of us is important: we probably won't so easily let on that we made a horrible mistake or got ourselves in a terrible situation. We may not want to admit that we have this radical feeling about something, lest we lower ourselves in the eyes of those we love. On the internet it is different. It is rare for someone to know your real full name or your exact location. For example, on myLot we use usernames and the only location information usually given is country. That is not nearly enough to solidly identify a person. This gives a feeling of safety, of anonymity. People can discuss personal issues in as much detail as they want. As long as names and locations are not mentioned, the other parties will have no idea who exactly the person is. This allows a person to rant or discuss in depth without fear of those close to them finding out. It is a way to get support with less risk. That's my theory, anyway.
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• India
27 Jul 11
Ya! I also want to share my personal problems & feeling mostly over internet only. I also think this is a very best way to share & get help. On internet nobody knows nobody & want to help as a good friend feelings. I like this idea very much. As we talk our problem with friends or colleagues then their is mostly chances that he/she will become traitor a spread all your hard feelings which you don't want. I really hate those persons & don't respect them.
@Awinds (2475)
• United States
27 Jul 11
There is nothing worse than a back stabber friend to make the hard times worse - I agree with you a 110% on that one!
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
People like to discuss other people's feelings or business or whatever because mainly it makes them feel better about themselves. Most of the time you'll find people talking about the negative aspects of other people's lives. This fact just makes my stomach squirm. I never would wanna hangout with people like these but in the workplace there are a lot of these. I have no choice but to hangout with them and smile at their pathetic remarks of other people.
• India
27 Jul 11
I really hate that stomach's chronic pain. Oh god... :P How anyone can talk about a person whole day & on every meet. No matters whether male or female. Sometimes male also talk like female & take the part of gossips. lolzz :D They become female at that time because as I experienced females has inbuilt features of gossips but now a days males also. :D :D what to say now you can also understand ;)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Yeah, you said it. I never liked hanging out with those type of people but, at work, I really have to or I'll get singled out.
• India
29 Jul 11
Yeah! live single is far better to live with back stabbers. However, at work we need someone's company but its not compulsory to share feelings with them. People at working places are not simple as they are looking they want each & information about workers for continuing their gossips. :P
@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
27 Jul 11
I think that it is very important to have at least some people in your life that you are able to share your personal thoughts and feelings with. I don't agree that you necessarily need to share your problems with the entire world, but you do need someone that you are able to open up to and be honest with - sharing your problems with another person seems to make them a whole lot lighter to carry! You should try it sometime, with a friend that you truly trust and know you can rely on.
• India
27 Jul 11
Yes bouncybug, you are right. Everyone need someone to discuss something but that person is trustworthy or not, to know this it take much more time. After you got your result you can go on restlessly.
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I only tell my personal feelings to the person I trust. With this, my burdens were lighten because I shared it with a friend. And maybe she/he can help me with how I feel.
• India
27 Jul 11
it is very good sweetmae27. You should beware that the person to whom you are sharing feelings is real trustworthy or its just showing in front of you. I experienced this thing that why I shared with you also don't get me otherwise.
• Canada
27 Jul 11
I used to keep everything to myself, mainly. Then I got used to relying on people. Now i'm trying to get back into my headspace of not sharing too much. Just the right amount with people. It makes me feel too naked.
@koperty3 (1877)
27 Jul 11
Sometimes I do share my opinion about personal life but only with people I really trust. I know from experience that I you have this urge to talk to someone about your personal life it shouldn't be someone from your family or person who you know for short time. You know people like to talk specially members of the same family :)
• India
27 Jul 11
Talking & gossips for same family members mainly occurs in joint family. I joint families all members have different way of thinking & that's the reason why gossips starts & end with fight with seperation.
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
I think theres nothing wrong sharing your thoughts and feelings through internet specially on mylot..but I dont really wanna discuss my personal problems through Facebook.. I am away to my family and I dont really have friends I can talk to.. and sometimes I think theres really a need to express what I really feel, plus I am not good in voicing out how I feel, and writing it is easier for me..
• India
27 Jul 11
Yeah! Sharing feelings over facebook is like putting your hand in a dark snake hole. Many heads, many minds & lots of gossip over same topic. :P Its ok. Many of people don't talk about their feelings even I don't do. If you wish you can take me as a friend I don't mind but only if you don't discuss about gamers. You know.. :D ;)
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
26 Jul 11
I will only share my personal problems with someone I feel I can trust, and if I don't think I can I won't tell them. Either that, or I'll be sure I don't care what they do, if I do tell them. I am a pretty private person in a lot of ways, but in others I am a completely open book.
• India
27 Jul 11
That's the best way to keep your things private. I also don't share my private feeling but most think that I'm like a open book. :P I also don't easily trust anybody whether I should do or not. My life my feelings. ;)
@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
26 Jul 11
I'm not too open to disclose all my personal feelings. But it's not easy to live all alone, sometimes you need to share what you feel, you need advice or help. Most of the times for me it's difficult to discuss personal things with close friends or relatives. I do it easier in places like myLot where even friends are not part of your real life..
• India
27 Jul 11
Living alone with unshared feelings is not that difficult as shared feelings are revealed by your own friend, isn't true? I like to discuss only on internet not with traitors now. They are really Bu!!$hit.
• India
26 Jul 11
Every person in this world is dependent to anyone another. If you got any trouble or some worst personal feelings then you just need to make it share with someother. It will mainly make you avoid some of the burden you will feel on your shoulders. It always help to reduce the tension you got in there.
• India
26 Jul 11
I know that & I only do with that person to which I can trust. Many of my friends discuss with untrusted personalities & they will start to tease them. Then is it compulsory to share anything with anyone?