How people changes

United States
July 27, 2011 9:00pm CST
My mother died when I was two years old.Since then I was brought up by my grandparents.My father was quite young then.He became so much depressed.From childwood I never felt the absence of my mother because my grandparents were so caring.I was very happy with their love.When I was eight years old my father got married again. Now I began to realise what actually mother means.She was so jealous of me that she never let me a single day without her scolding.But as my grandparents were like a shade over my head I never cared at her.At these situation my father sometimes protest against her attitude towwards me.But she remains the same.Her mental torture began to increase day by day.But I remain firm and continue my studies. Years passed my grandfather died.I was in college then.I gave tuitions to some students and began to earn some money.After finishing my studies i got a job.Then I got seperated from my father's family.But I had to stay in the same house with my grandmother. After some years I got married,but now suddenly the attitude of my mother changes.She is suddenly showing her love to my family.Though we stay very far from them.Sometimes I used to call my father to know how is he.She eagerly answers the calls and speaks as if she is very caring and loving to us. I know her attitude to us is completely fake.My father wants that I should talk with her polietly and forget about the past incidents. I do not know how to deal with such situation.My from core of her I completely hate her and I know she is the Lady who is so selfish and mean minded that she will unable to love anybody. Friends, I want to know your views.Tell me please without any hazitation.How can a person change?
2 responses
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
30 Jul 11
I was raised by my grandparents too. My parents divorced the remarried and had other children. It was tough because I always wondered if it was something about me that made them not want me. It took me a long time to realize that it wasn't me at all. The problem was theirs. My mother hasn't changed and doesn't care to be in contact with me. I tried for years but there was just so much that I could not deal with where she was concerned. I have been without family for many many years now. I don't know about that step mother of yours but I think that if a person really wants too..they can change. The thing is that as we get older..sometimes we see things in a different light. We are guilty when we think about things we did and said in the past. I don't know if that is the case with your situation..but she might be sorry for the way she treated you. If I were in your shoes...I don't know if I could giver her a chance either. It's hard when you have been hurt. All I can really say is to follow your heart and do whatever it is that completes you. After all...it's your life and happiness that is important..you have your own family now to think of.
• United States
30 Jul 11
I agree on your point that with our age our knowledge of thinking changes.But I think my dear , this is with some person.Some people remains firm till their last breath.They are made with such kind of metal that they are in the search of a situation where from they can take advantage.That will be anything , may be money , social status etc. So what I think is to keep in to keep in touch with them professionally not mentally.And be happy with my family.
@Jukona (23)
• Romania
28 Jul 11
maybe she finaly open her eyes and saw what a nice person you are with her... and maybe she realised how she treated you with such a bad attitude....persons change...it can be love you know after a long time :) or your father demanded to be polite with you...