my brother's angry mood is somehow contagious..

Philippines
July 28, 2011 2:23am CST
I always asked myself, as to why my brother is always mad. As everytime he doing something, he always shouts and talked to us in a loud voice. And when he speaks to me, he always scream. It is very seldom that he spoke to me in a moderate way. Due to this reason, we always end up in a bad mood. Hence, my mood turns-up mad. As his angry mood is somehow contagious. I do always noticed that attitude from my brother. As in, no matter how good my day is, the moment he speaks to me, my day will suddenly ruin. I really dont know what is happening to him. As there were times, I asked him if he has a problem so we can discus, but, he always tell me, nothing.
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8 responses
29 Jul 11
what kind of work does your bother have? does he have a gf or wife? if it is all about his job maybe his job is just too stressful and he is experiencing burnouts or maybe he has problems with his partner, just give him space and time to cope and try to understand him. if that is still his attitude before, i think he has anger problems and try to ask him to seek for a psychologist. they help manage anger,fear,stress..etc. problems. hope it helps.=)
@naija4real (1293)
29 Jul 11
Every human being has a plus and a minus. There is the good side and the bad side. I think your brother mood is not strange. It is just that you just have to accomodate all this weakness and get along especially since you can not change him.
28 Jul 11
that's normal because when someone is mad at us for no reason the tendency is we snap back if they said something that we think is offensive. but if your brother is like that maybe it's better if you stay away from him for the moment, or if he always like that to you just ignore his ill temper and maybe somehow if he realize what he is doing to you and remembered that you are not snapping back , it will make him also realize that he is wrong, then in the long run maybe treat you a little better.
• United Arab Emirates
28 Jul 11
It may depend on a lot of things. Is he married or not yet? I heard from others that it is proven scientifically that married men who engage in withdrawals can result to swing moods. But such act should not be an excuse for others to be affected. He should be aware and be responsible about his mood swings.
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
Are you living together with your brothers family? or your own family? You can talk to your brother about it and tell him (without shouting)so that it will not stir any anger, to stop shouting at you since you are not deaf to hear him. Ask him why he always needs to shout at you, are you in the forest like Tarzan to summon his animal friends . Anyway, just tell him that shouting may never be good especially if he is never irritated at you. He will also age a lot when he is angry. So don't ever imitate what your brother is doing.
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
Just tell your brother that He is not a baby anymore that you will have to pacify him whenever he doesnt feel good. Tell him that he has to channel his frustration to other things aside from shouting to you.. hmmnn..
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
Do you think it is a defense mechanism? You see, there are people who behaves that way as a cover up of insecurity, inferiority and pressure. Men most likely act that way because it is their way to show superiority. More so, they are not emotional person that's why they release their tension by shouting for no reason. Of course, it can be contagious because you feel as if you are the reason of such angst and anger. The only thing you can do is breath and ignore.
@SIMPLYD (84830)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
No matter how many times your brother says there's no problem with you, it's obvious that he has. He wouldn't be acting like that to you , if he has nothing against you. Analyze the situation in your house carefully. He might be jealous of you in relation to your status in the family, or with your parents. If there is then try to change it , and make him feel that everybody is treated equally.