You Gotta Understand, I'm Not Gonna Hold Your Hand

Philippines
July 30, 2011 9:11pm CST
If you haven't read my previous discussion, it's about this officemate who brings all the mindgames into to my table, engaging me to play it with her. She backstabs, lies, and now she keeps on lying some more. She tried exchanging schedules with me since I we both thought I'll be getting a 3pm shift and she'll be getting the 7pm shift. We both wanted each other's schedule so the swap wasn't an issue with me. Although as it turned out, I got the 6pm shift and she got the 7pm shift next month. This means I don't have to swap anymore and she's at a loss. But I thought this will cut her plasticity out already, but no, she still went with me til her stop home. Now I don't understand what she's playing next. She's still being nice so this means she's setting me up for another game but this time I don't know what she's up to. I'm figuring my way in the dark right now. My only option is to keep playing (coz somehow it excites me) and see where this leads me. She's even sharing some information about herself. I just can't imagine me getting close to this person, I wouldn't wanna introduce this person to my circle of friends. LOL
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
Maybe she like you. A woman will never act like that,or shows too much closeness or consideration without any other intention or motive...unless she is your best friend ever before. Well,you knew very well more than we knew it. You can even sense it,I am sure aint? have a good day always jaiho®
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
I don't think it's love. She back stabs me so that means she doesn't like me, that's it.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
I don't think it's love. She back stabs me so that means she doesn't like me, that's it.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
Maybe she's genuinely attracted with you. Or maybe she just want someone to accompany her until she reached home? If you're so convinced that she's a liar, hypocrite, backstabber, manipulative beeyotch, then, no matter what she does, you won't fall into her game (or charms?). But who knows, love works in a mysterious way.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Geez, it's not love. I can assure you that. If ever it is, I will find it extremely disgusting.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Just saying.
• Philippines
1 Aug 11
Sounds like a freak. Anyways, it seems like you're enjoying the game, so by all means go ahead and continue. Eventually you'll get tired of it and brush her off. Have you tried asking her what she wants really? Sometimes that can get tiring. I know I would get tired of something like that eventually.
@Amorgi (10)
31 Jul 11
It sounds to me your developing a weird hate and absolutely hate relationship. If it were me I'd play her games but be cautious which I assume you are and have a trump card in your pocket always for when she thinks shes got you. Also try and project out the possible variables of outcomes and situations that are logical to her personal disposition. I've done this before its interesting to say the least, and you may not wanna introduce her to your circle now but that very well may change in the future along with circumstance.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Well, I don't wanna develop any hate coz it will only cloud perfect judgment. It's better to see things clearly than to include emotions with the problem.
@free_man (7337)
• United States
31 Jul 11
Hi Frontvisions. I don't know if I would let this person know too much about myself. Sounds like my sister in law my husbands brothers wife. She is a liar and a back stabber. I wouldn't keep trusting this person she can lead you down primrose lane and straight into her hell. Beware of her my friend from how you talk about this person sounds like she is trouble. Trust in the brain that God gave you and know when to back away safely!
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
I know when to back out. This is not the instance where I back out ever. Yep, she is indeed trouble. In fact, someone from the office also confided with me that she is indeed not the best person to hang out with.
@thetis74 (1525)
31 Jul 11
Your office must really be an uncomfortable place to be in. I hope this woman will not stress you out. Haha. I'm sure you can handle it and you'll get used to her plasticity. But just be careful with her motives because people can sometimes be really deceiving.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Yep, my office is not the best place you wanna be in. You'd rather be in a marketplace than be in that rut. It's like everyone is playing mind games with everyone.
• Australia
31 Jul 11
I hope that your workplace troubles ease soon.. I havn't read the discussion that you are reffering to and am not quite sure how the heading fits in with the conversation anymore so i might have to check it out. I don't like back stabbers and wouldn't want to introduce them into my circle of friends either.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Oh, the title means, whatever happens to you, don't hook me in coz I don't wanna be a part of any of this. She was kind of reeling me in to her personal troubles. Yeah, people need help but she was kind of demanding it, not the right way to ask for help.