Lover versus family

I know hard it is for you, I've been there. Parents usually feel that way to their daughter for they are afraid of losing you/they're afraid that bad happens in you. You just have to prove yourself to your parents, that you can handle yourself so well/finished a degree/or the guy is worth it. Also, talk to your parents wholeheartedly and tell them how you feel about being over protective. Ask God's guidance and everything will flow smoothly! :) Happy mylotting...

I think its parents nature to be worried and protect their children until they think they can do stuff alone.. but sometimes too much is not good too.. But I think if you really wanna marry somebody when that time comes, I think it is consider a little bit selfish if they wouldnt let you... (if this time your already finish studying and have your own job, because if not I understand why they are worried) I know its hard to talk to them about your love life however letting them know what you really feel will make easier maybe for both of you.. I remember before whenever theres a guy who wanna court me, my mom ask me not to meet him outside,etc..etc.. that I should let do him do the visit in our house...

I always stand by one phrase in my life, and that is "the one who makes me choose is the one who's going to lose". If my family said that I had to choose between them or my boyfriend then I would choose him. If it was him who was trying to make me choose between them, then I would choose my family every time without even having to think about it. That being said, my Mum is usually good at knowing who I do and don't suit, and she's never liked any of my boyfriends who have ended up treating me badly and breaking my heart; so I should probably listen to her and follow her advice more often.

if you already on a right age its up to you to decide, sometimes parents can't let their babies go even if we're old enough, but in time somehow they'll understand for sure even if you choose to go with your lover and get married.

Hello Ellebj, I would have to say that my answer would depend on hold old I would be. For example, if I am still in school and so forth; I would believe that my parents would be doing it for my good and out of concern. However, if I was old enough to make my decicisions, out of school and on my own or moving out then I would have to say that the decision would be mine. A lot of time parents, make decisions out of concern and their love and wanting to protect us but there are times that they make mistakes for those same reasons becasue they are not perfect. I would have to sit down with my parents and let them know how I felt. I have to be honest, as a child my father was very abusive (physically, emotionally, and mentally). I met my husband at the age of 16 (who is very active in church) we dated for two years and then married and have been ever since and had our first child six years later.(I knew God sent him to me due to a prayer I prayed at the age of 14 and the simple fact I told him I was to remain pure until I was married and he waited patiently.) Let me add, However, I did marry without my fathers permission because I knew he'd never approve because of his controlling behavior. (so that's something my sister and I had to did with) but I in no way would give anyone the impression to do as I did. I said all of that to say, the decision is such a great one to outweigh because it depends on the age, the parent's reason behind it and so forth.

I think i will not choose in both of them. If my family don't like the person that i love,i will not leave my partner. I will wait for the time that my family will like him and i know that time will come if my family really love me and if the situation is my partner don't like my family, i will tell him that if he don't like my family,it is like telling me that he also don't really love me.

I guess almost everybody pass-by with this situation like yours. I had the same experience as too. When I was young like you, my parents are over protective on me. I cannot go out alone. Having a relationship is a no no. At that time I thought they were just over reacting but now that I am already a parent, I can now understand that they are their to protect, as well as guide their children. I guess open communication with your parents about your relationship would help. If your in the right age already, got a college degree and is now earning, I guess it's time to talk to your parents and tell them that since you are now stable you want to have your own freedom also. I guess they will eventually understand you.

Hi.. If you want to go out with your lover and your parents doesn't approve for it, it might be that they don't trust your lover that much. Every mom and dad always want the very best for their child. Maybe they don't find your lover trust worthy. That's why.. I find your parents strict.. I think, the least thing you could do is to have them trust you so that they will let you do the things that you wanted to do. Ask for God's guidance also and remember that they want the best for you and they are doing such things to you because they love you.

That is a normal reactions for a parent. They are very protected with their children because they are always thinking on our future and us being safe. But when time comes that you wanted to be apart from them and to get married someday you should talk to them sincerely and heartily that time comes that you wanted to build your own happy family and of course with their support. Parents are overprotective at times but they are very understanding as well. Don't be afraid to open a topic and talk to them. Don't forget God is always with us all the time. Smile...