Men, please understand women.
By tess_quinain
@tess_quinain (1149)
Philippines
August 10, 2011 3:36am CST
How many men understand women fully? They say women are fickle-minded, moody and indecisive. Well, I admit I am like that. Women are more expressive than men. We show more affection than men do. Women love hearing romantic words especialy the magic word.^^ But you what, what women would love to hear more?? Plans..future plans and how we are loved by our partner. For example: Do you love me? How much do you love me? I know men heard this for many times from women but it is just like that.^^
In my case, i fight my boyfriend many time because he never mention about our plans in the future. When will we get married, how many babies will we have and where will we live..things like that. He does have a plan but he just doesn't like talking about it many times just I do. Women are more sensitive than men. Hmmm...
Well, i don't know much about men. Will you please tell me more about men so that i can also understand them. In that way, we'll both understand each other and live life peacefully. ^^
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13 responses
@urbandekay (18278)
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10 Aug 11
Men and women are not so different, if you cut me, do I not bleed?
Men and women talk about the same things, but they talk about them in different ways, they use language differently.
Man: I am just going out
Woman: Where are you going?
M to the garage
W why?
M to get some petrol
W honestly, you are so hard to talk to
The man has misunderstood that the woman is using language for social grooming, much like apes do, picking nits from each other
The woman has misunderstood that man is using language to communicate action
Please forgive this rather factious example but I found it amusing.
Men please understand women
Women please understand men
all the best urban
@Doritoes (84)
• United States
11 Aug 11
Can not agree with you more. Both men and women should try to understand each other therefore balancing efforts. If only men tries to understand women, then it won't be fair. But it is easier said then done... I always expect my boyfriend to understand me, while I make no effort to try and understand him. :3
@urbandekay (18278)
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11 Aug 11
That is sad to hear but if you know you you don't put as much effort in you can change from now. You know how much better it will make your relationship
all the best urban
@wiguen (551)
• United States
12 Aug 11
i don't fully understand women, and no men can!!!! women are by nature very mysterious. i understand somewhat cause i keep my girlfriend for a year now, she is in love and happy with me. if any one understand women please let me know i will be you student hahaha.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 11
Men or women both need to understand each other. If women like to go into details men mostly just say the important things only. If women like to talk about future men tend to wprry more about the present because the present will determined the future. If women like to talk, even if there are some men who talkative they prone show it by action. What women prefer do men like to do it opposite. The difference between them make one complete relationship. That is just my opinion only..(^^)
@onlineside (81)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
just trust your partner look your partner if he really committed to you because if he is really love you , no need to worry you have confidence with him, He knows what to do and mostly the man don't like to appreciate the girl,and self centered behavior to.
@con909 (53)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
That what attract the opposite gender to each other because they cannot fully understand each other thus creating a sense of mystery. People want something that they usually understand, maybe some say that they do but naturally human nature tells us to for those that are mysterious.. :)
@con909 (53)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
That what attract the opposite gender to each other because they cannot fully understand each other thus creating a sense of mystery. People want something that they usually understand, maybe some say that they do but naturally human nature tells us to for those that are mysterious.. :)
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Oh my gosh. Everything you said are just right. I think men don't fully understand women no matter how much we express what we really want. My boyfriend told me I'm fickle and moody. I agree with him too. And you are right, we women are more expressive than them and we try to tell them what we want and everything we feel. But most of the time they misunderstand us or they don't understand us at all. I love hearing sweet words too, I love to be told I'm adored, I love my boy being sweet all the time. It hurts if he doesn't even mention our future or what are his plans for the both of us. It's true we are a lot more sensitive than them. I think I'm getting used to them now. I don't expect from my boyfriend anymore.
@Robben2009 (146)
• China
10 Aug 11
Yes you are right, women likes to hear sweet words, and they will be very happy if you give them a kiss before you leave for the company. Any way, as a couple, they should understand each other, repect each other and love each other.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Hi tess, you're definitely right, women are very sensitive and wants so much attention with her partner. I feel the same way too. But my boyfriend totally understand me when Im in my bad mood and always tickle me with a joke. Hes has future plans too which I think very adorable...
Don't worry so much about your boyfriend, he has plans too maybe he's just making sure of himself and still looking for the best timing to tell you..Just keep going 
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Definitely! Women should be understood by men.. But we should also let them know what we wanted to happen because we can't let them keep on guessing what we had in minds. Sometimes, women are just like that. I admit, I'm like that too. :D Whenever I feel something wrong, I just shut up and not say anything and when my boyfriend asks me what's wrong with me, I won't say anything. Hehehe.. But I'm trying to be very vocal these days so that he will know what I wanted to happen.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
First of all, I'll say it first. I'm a woman :P Here's my 2-cents :D
It's true that men needs to understand women well but at the same time, I think women should also bend their ways a little bit to understand men as well. Compromise. I know quite a number of female friends who always gets into lovers' tiff with their partners because of real trivial matters (like not frequently saying I love you or not mentioning the future, etc) but it might be because the partner is not yet ready to deal with such conversations. Compromise is a very important matter when you're in a relationship.
Another reason might be people (especially females) get too much expectations from their partners. It's better to lower your expectation in some areas in order not to get TOO disappointed if things don't work your way :)
That's it. Just compromise and lower your expectations. It might be a bit hard to do but it works wonders when you're in a relationship :)
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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10 Aug 11
Hi tess:)
I think you're right, man are sometimes just afraid or don't know how to bring those kind of topic, which every woman are dreaming to hear, It's just nice to hear from the man you love that he have plans for your future and what he think will be best for the two of you, well goodluck girl I hope that he will tell you soon what is his plans for both of you:)
@roll_likesushi (7)
• United States
10 Aug 11
I've noticed this too, thinking about the future tends to scare men. I think it's because it makes it seem more concrete, and almost makes it a commitment. I try to just make plans for the next few months, or at most a year. I'm not sure how serious your relationship is, but if it's nothing too serious, like engaged or something. I don't think you have anything to really worry about. :)
