Not Showy With His Feelings

Philippines
August 10, 2011 10:47pm CST
My boyfriend is not showy with his feelings. I know he loves me but he does not express it that much physically or even through words and actions. I think he is the type of person that is shy to show his true feelings. What I can I do to make him more open when it comes to his feelings towards me?
5 responses
• United States
11 Aug 11
It depends, your boyfriend could be the type of guy that doesn't get very showy with his feelings, or he's just shy, or he doesn't like to be affectionate in public. My dad is awful at showing his feelings and practically the only thing he does is hold my mom's hand, even in public. He's not ashamed, it's just the way he is, he's not emotional at all. My boyfriend on the other hand will always hold my hand in public, wrap his arm around me, or kiss the top of my head. It all depends on the type of person he is. If he's just not really one to display his feelings and put them into actions, I'm not sure there's much you can do to change that. The only thing would be to sit and talk with him to find out how he really feels and maybe he doesn't realize that his lack of expression bothers you a little.
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
I am also the type of person who does not want to show my feelings towards my love one in public. I would like to spend out intimate moments behind closed doors. But sometimes, even though my boyfriend and I are not within the reach of the public eye, he still has difficulties in expressing his feelings towards me especially in conversations.
• United States
11 Aug 11
I don't really mind showing my feelings in public and neither does my boyfriend. I think if you're truly in love then you can basically shout it out to the whole world. We do small, cute things in public just like holding hands, walking with our arms around each other, and just quick little kisses. Maybe your boyfriend never really grew up with a family that openly told each other their feelings and now he has a hard time communicating them to you. Try nicely asking him about it or tell him how it makes you feel, or directly ask him the way he feels about you if you're comfortable doing that.
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
My boyfriend and I doesn't want to display public affection. But if were alone in a place we're sweet to each other and we do all the stuff that lovers do. Maybe your boyfriend just doesn't want others to see, there are guys like that. Have you two been alone together? Because if he's like that regardless of where you're in then maybe he has a problem. You should talk to him.
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
We have spent a lot of times together and we do stuff that lovers do. But most of the time, I feel that he is still holding back his feelings for me. He seem to feel a little shy to express his feelings for me through actions and most of all through verbal conversations.
@Ladybugs (404)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
Hello there. I think guys are different with each other when it comes to relationships. Us, girls, want to feel really loved and wanted. We want to feel appreciated. Don't worry because you are not alone. I also feel that way sometimes. Sometimes, because of my loved one's insufficient expression of his love to me, I sometimes ask him if he really loves me. I wanted him to be a little bit showy. I wanted to feel that I am also loved by him through his words or actions that might be seen by other people. I could also feel that he really loves me when we are with each other. I mean maybe when we are alone in a place. On the other hand, I also wanted to feel his love by means of being proud of me. He could tell the wold that I am her girl friend. To tell me that I'm the only one he loves and he won't exchange me with anything or anyone. Just like you, I am also a bit bothered or I want more of him when he doesn't seem to be doing the things I am expecting him to do. If he might not be saying the sweetest words I wanted to hear from him. Maybe you just be patient and maybe try to open up with him. Just be sweet to him every time. Do the things that could make him love you more. Whisper sweet words to him Let him feel that he is important and really being loved by you. Have special bonding moments together. Then, by doing so, he would also develop himself. Maybe, he could learn to express himself. his feelings towards you. Maybe, also suggest him. Tell him that you also wanted to hear how he feels. Talk to him. Smile when you are talking. Captivate him. When you are walking or going somewhere, maybe do some gestures. Like try to hold his hand while you are crossing the street. Maybe he is just shy. There's nothing wrong because you are boyfriends and girlfriends. Sometimes, caress his hair or back. There's nothing wrong. It's a loving gesture. Then, maybe he would also be expressive in his actions. Just feel free and be cool. Enjoy being together.
@anneshirley (1517)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
From my point of view, it is not because he is not showy with his feelings but because you are expecting more from him. Why don't you try stop thinking about the things he does not do and start seeing things he does for you? In this manner, you can enjoy you sweet moments together. If he is not showing too much affection in public, then be thankful because he is respecting you. You do have your sweet moments in private so savor it and enjoy it! If you think this way, then there's no need looking at his shortcomings and you will enjoy the company of each other even more.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
12 Aug 11
i guess he just cannot express his feelings because first, he works under your supervision. he should attain more to his work instead of your relationship as sweethearts. one more thing, you meet each and everyday so the feeling of excitement diminishes.