Life Takes us through many bad rocks before the path is smooth**
By Adeliza1220
@Adeliza1220 (877)
United States
August 13, 2011 1:40am CST
I am just in the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. I just came to realize that no matter what I have done to make my family work with the man I loved it turned out that I was just played as a fool the whole 10 years. Wow** not many words to be written when things are what you thought. My ex love of 10 years was living a double life for many months and I had this strong intuition but yet I could never prove it because men are all about proof. I tried to leave his side back in January and he begged to be given another chance to us as a family and well the truth is I should of left him on the floor like what he was just a sleezy dog that was selfish for only fufilling his needs.... wow why do we woman put up with all this? HMMM I admit that love can blind you from reality and that band was so stight around my eyes that regardless of his repeated mistakes I always believed in him as a person no matter what life had put in our paths. I am ashamed of what I have allowed to happen and honestly it just hurts that he not only committed treason to me but to our daughter. How dare he. Well everything has a reason and well that is life... sometimes it is not to understand why this happened.... the whole point is that I at least I know who I am and well I was at least up front and honest about what the reality was all I desired was for us to be a family. He destroyed that concept in total for our daughter... he tore her 3 year old heart and shattered it with his immature actions. If it was not for her I would not have seen what she was seeing... crazy. well life is tough... I do not understand why we were put through this we did not deserve all this.
4 responses
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
13 Aug 11
Life, my dear, is never smooth and the path is thorny and rough,full of pitfalls.Happiness in life is fleeting and very rare and sorrow is just around the corner,waiting to pounce on you.I am sorry that you are having to go through such pain due to the misdemeanors and misadventures of your unfaithful husband.I have read of many cases just like yours where the loving wife becomes a victim of her philandering husband and then rudely discovers that he has been cheating on her all along.Usually the discovery comes through someone else which makes it worse since the news of such happenings becomes a source of gossip.The worst thing is the effect it has on ones children since they are very sensitive and it can scar them for life.You have only two choices, one is to stay with him and suffer or to cut him off from your life completely,both easier said than done. I hope wisdom dawns on him before it is too late, or is it too late? Otherwise the best thing is to seperate permanently, painful as it might be,but you will be spared a thousand deaths and dying daily once and for all.My good wishes to you.
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@Adeliza1220 (877)
• United States
17 Feb 12
Life does at time become very bumpy but just as you when you are in a vehicle it is up to you to determine if you want to steer the car to the smooth paved road. I did indeed walk away and moved foward in my life and am greatful that I did it now instead of waiting for fourty years to pass and then do it. I was just devasted that he involved our 3 year old in adult issues and well it was a challenge but all is going perfectly well and everyone is in Peace. We are doing way better with out him and life has been great to both of us and I could not be any more greatful! Thank you for your words of wisdom!
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
18 Aug 11
I certainly understand the hardships you have been going through. Yes, indeed, we all do face hardships in the course of the life time. I keep saying to myself that there is always the light at the end of the tunnel, to keep a positive attitude as a way to overcome the hardships.
@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Aug 11
I am sorry to hear this has happened to you. I think that some women believe in their men and do not set boundaries and make it known to their man that such things will not be tolerated. And men think they will get away with it and that they are free to do as they please. Your poor three year old daughter will not know a family life and that is sad.
