how do we know if our officemate is a friend
By pahak627
@pahak627 (4558)
Philippines
August 15, 2011 10:46am CST
Our officemates are supposed to be the closest persons that we have in our life. Because we spend a minimum of 8 hours a day with them. With our family we spend only a few hours a day. But I observed that a few of them talked something bad behind our back. Good that I didn't mind them so Our relationship is harmonious except for some little misunderstanding.
5 responses
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 13
it takes time to know our officemate is a real friend or not. but yes, we have to be careful because sometimes a close friend can bite you. as my experience, I have a close friend in office. she looks so excited each time talk to me, so do I. for me she's more than friend, she's almost a sister. but someday, I was shock to know that she always talk bad thing about me behind to my supervisor. it's really disappoint me
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
ah, yeah.. your case is often occurred too. it's surprising that it was not occurred to other who envy us, but the close friend. may be it's about jealousy or she is type person who doesn't like her friend to be succeed in same position as yours. she doesn't like to see you happy and enjoy your work
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
I had also experienced that. I once considered a very close friend. I even tolerated some of her unacceptable manners. However, there was a time when she was interested with my position, actually we have the same positions and we are assigned in different divisions. She wanted me to be assigned in her division and she in mine. She even did what she could to have me out from my present office. She told my direct supervisor bad things against me. My supervisor did everything to discourage me to the extent that she said on my face that she didn't like me. She always reprimanded me of every error that I made, even typographical errors that people under me made, she reprimanded me.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
15 Aug 11
In any place, some people are always better than others. It is important that you understand the people and their basic nature and mingle with like minded people. It is not that they have to be your best friend or the closest. But they sure can be friends you can spend some time with.
I take some time to know someone before accepting them as my friend. I do not like interacting with everybody, but I interact with people only who I am comfortable talking to.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
Yes I agree with you sagnik42 and thanks for your response. I like your view of friendship. I also think that good friendship just develop in its own course.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
when i am new in a company i will observe people and other employee if they can be my friends or not,so the most office-mate that will talk to me or make a conversation for every time then that would be a good friend but its not the end of that if in will trust them so another time to observe again.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
Same here. I have two or three whom I am comfortable talking about my personal life. Only one of them comes to my house because it is she whom I am comfortable when she's at my house. Actually, I am not good at housekeeping and I am not comfortable if people not close to me come to my house. I only clean my house and am not particular with the settings. That is why I am ashamed if someone not close will visit.
@bnpraveen (172)
• India
15 Aug 11
hai pahak
man cannot live without gossips , so dont take it serious, your office mate may work with you for 8hrs just you behave like co staff, what iam saying dont believe anyone soon, it will take some time to find real friend, you may observe it in following days, every day will not remain same, one day will show you real friend of yours, so be friendly with every one but dont move closer, dont take personal dont believe sooner.....
have a great day friend
@Lovetoy38829 (36)
• United States
15 Aug 11
It is important to understand the difference between work comraderie and actual friendship. It is never a good idea to over-share in the workplace, no matter of good of a friend you think someone is. Keep it friendly, but keep it professional!
Gossipmongers THRIVE on juicy confrontation and office upset. Don't let them get you down. However, if you know (and can prove) that someone is spreading something malicious or potentially harmful about you or a co-worker, you might want to have a chat with your supervisor before it gets out of hand.
