how do you get mad/angry?

@biach17 (196)
Philippines
August 15, 2011 8:37pm CST
My friends and my husband know that i am angry or mad when i am quiet. When im mad .. i do not say a word. i will just sit down in the corner and shut up my long mouth. Maybe being angry and how do you deliver it is different from each person. They just complain "how would i know, what is the problem when you just keep quiet? Being quiet will help the situation or it will just makes it worst? I keep quiet when i am angry because i dont want to say any bad words that i will regret and getting loud when angry is just a waste of my energy. Dont you agree?!
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hardworkinggurl
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Aug 11
Oh yes I am the same and those very close to me know when something is wrong with me as I too tend to be very silent. I feel it is my way of coping with things is to simply just stay quiet and try and think things through in my own mind. There are those that feel good after outwardly discussing their issues, I am the opposite as I feel that when I outwardly discuss it leave me feeling more angry and more depressed, so I prefer to stay nice and quiet.
biach17
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
We are just the same. Is that a bad issue or a good one? My hubby does not like that attitude of me.
hardworkinggurl
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Aug 11
My ex-husband hated it and called it a bad attitude. My boyfriend of almost 8 years, understands me well and allows me to get through it.
biach17
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
When someone loves you truly they understand you. Lucky you!
nurseclare
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
WOW! You sound so great on how to control your temper , I wish to have that personality too for when I'm angry I totally BURST OUT and be LOUD which I totally HATE about myself. I wish to control that..How did you do that?Being quiet when you're totally mad. You're right being angry and getting loud is just a waist of energy, I will keep that on mind.. I wish t apply that too..
biach17
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
My husband is opposite of me. When he gets angry he likes to slam the door or to throw everything he sees....But now he manages to learn because im trying to say to him that now we have kids we should be calmed though it is effin hard. I always trying to be loud when getting angry but in the end i get tired. I feel breathless. How i wish i could do that sometimes. Yes, always remember that it will just waste your energy,time. also waste of effort. When you know in the end of the story, he/she will say sorry... ;) especially when it is not your fault. When i care about someone and i get angry with them, i managed to shut my mouth just to say nothing that i might regret.
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nurseclare
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Noted biach, I'll keep that on mind..Thanks
igatiful_badass
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
Me too! I also scared to say bad words. I rather keep it to myself until it will fade. And while i am quite i will also evaluate myself on what make it triggers to anger. Then until i resolve it on my own then forget things coz life has to go on and i don't take it too much personal, its just another trial of my personality.
biach17
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
I think being quiet when angry is not a flaws. Maybe some of the people is having a hard time with it because they will not resolve a problem if they do not know.
xcyper2084
@xcyper2084 (152)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
I also keep quiet when I am mad for the meantime because I don't want to say something that I will regret at the end. But within a day I will speak up what's on my mind and talk about what happen and what causes my anger. I want to talk about the problem after I had analyze it and also I want to have a closure in every problem I don't want also that the person will figure out what's really happened.
biach17
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
I will just say my problem if someone insists. I do keep quiet because when i burst out i tend to cry out loud because of what the hurt i am feeling. Which is a turn off i guess.
veedee13
@veedee13 (242)
• United States
16 Aug 11
I yell and bang stuff when i'm mad and also lock myself in my room and put the radio on really loud.i get pissed easily especially when i am in abad mood.
biach17
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
I do that listening to hard rock music it feels like the music is eating my anger... THough im not used to banging stuff....but it is great to hear that you know how to ease your anger.
pibi713
@pibi713 (187)
• China
16 Aug 11
You are right, we will say some words that we shouldn't we are furious. Those words may hurt the one you really care about too much. That will become a hinderance in your relationship. Be rational when you are angry.
biach17
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
Getting angry is hard. You might do something that is useless inside of a relationship. So better be quiet than to be regretful in the end.
Maida
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
i hate it when i get mad so i rarely get mad. hehehe.. i get upset or disappointed but not mad. for me it's a sin.. usually if i'm irritated, i say it affront if the person keeps on irritating me. but sometimes i just leave and say nothing about it. i don't make a big deal out of someone's undesirable character. it's theirs so let it be but for sure am not gonna be around the circle most of the time.
henkiprananda
@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 11
when i angry i just shut up my mouth, same like you. then i go to back and punch something. when i angry, i just let all go. it more better than you say all bad word, cause that make situation more bad, and the problem can't clearly.
koperty3
@koperty3 (1876)
•
16 Aug 11
My partner told me that my character is similar to the volcano. I can be quiet long time no matter what challenges I have but there is one day that I have enough and there is eruption of my anger. I think he is right. I'm patient but when enough is enough I can be very unpleasant.
flowerfest08
@flowerfest08 (1677)
•
16 Aug 11
hi:) When I'm mad I closed myself on my room, I don't want to talk to anybody so when I'm like that they just Ignore me because they already know that I'm angry, because just like you I don't want to do or say something bad that could worsen the situation and I also don't want to say something that I would regret in the end because usually when we are angry we can say things that shouldn't be said then regret it after.