Oh Honey, I Am So Tired, Can I Take A Leave Now?

hi neil, I understand your feelings But being a father and husband you must be strong I know you can talk about this with wifey woman complain when they are tired of everything but for sure you and wifey can fix this matter There are times in my life I am tired of being a daughter,friend and sister for many reasons but I just can't stop because I know God created me in this way with good purpose on them. hugs to ate pat and zay happy mylotting

Oh... oh... oh, my, Neil. Please pardon me but I feel exactly the same way your wifey does... It isn't funny at all. The feeling of getting tired of doing the same things over and over again and yet it seems endless that no matter how often we do it,we still keep on doing it until finally we give up doing it.. Or if we ever shall give up... As you knew already my situation, it is not easy taking care of the kids who are more often than not could really be a handful and even if we love them so much,sometimes, they are too much for us. That alone can be physically draining. Not to mention the different chores inside the house, laundry, dishwashing, housecleaning, etc. I used to wonder why some women who got married lost their youthful glows. Now, it is no longer a puzzle for me because I have a first hand experience about it. I think I aged 10 x more my actual age! THe toils are really getting into my nerves that sometimes I really wish I'll just evaporate and go elsewhere where no one can follow me and have a minute of peace and quiet. It is not that we don't love our family but for the life of me, WE ALSO NEED A BREAK. But, Neil, despite of our own complaints, you don't have to deprive yourself from telling your wife what's going on with you. We still do welcome our husband complaining about almost every little things. You know we will try to give you , our husbands, a bit of comfort if you need to and only if we still can. Now, don't take it against us if we say "Hon, can we just call it a night for now and let's deal with it tomorrow? I promise to give you a rub. " Point is, if you shut up and keep things to yourself, you are not giving us the chance to be with you and letting you feel that we care no matter how busy we are with the kids and the chores. Besides, a wife is a wife and a mother has to do what a mother has to do because we love the family of which we belong to.

I am sure we all feel like this from time to time. I had guardianship of my granddaughter for a dozen years up to about five years ago. She was troubled and there were days I was so stressed out I didn't think I could do it anymore. She would wait until I would fall asleep and then she would run off. It was not fun. I think that young kids need to be taught to clean up after themselves and do as they are told to do.

hello neil, HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA..... Sorry my dear brother I can't help to laugh. You know this scenario is not new anymore...there are many wifey and husband around having same problem like this. Now this reminds me when I also complain to my husband and then I told him... "I WANT TO RESIGN AS A MOTHER AND WIFE" Guess what?...oh yeah...he just laughed at me and then said, "get the calculator please" Calculator? with my eyes as big as full moon...hehehe He replied calmly and still laughing "YES! CALCULATOR"...We need to compute how long you've been with the service as a mother and wife so you can have your separation pay.. nyahahahahahaha....... now...who wants to have a calculator and compute their resignation pay....I can let you borrow my calculator,and this is scientific one...hahahahahaa... good day my dear brother...give my hugs to my little naughty kiddo there. (*_*) sis, jaiho®

I feel sorry that you have to keep everything inside. When couples have children somehow the relationship change. Do you still have time getting romantic with your wife or even just whisper sweet nothings to her? Does she still have time for making herself beautiful? Do you still go out on a date just the two of you without the kids? I am a housewife as well but i don't do the household chores because i have househelp from day one that i got married. My husband and i sometimes have lunch or dinner just the two of us and our son stays with the nanny. I think we are lucky that we are living comfortably so i never wished for a day off or got tired with my family.

Hello Neildc, This is normal behavior of wifes as my wife also will always complain like she gets tired of seeing kids,i did not buy good vegetables,i don't look after kids etc etc but i never thought of taking leave from it as i know this is normal and one who get frustrated does it in frustration.Also like you i don't speak much and listen to her complaints always.And sometimes when i am not in a mood to listen i say to her dear i have a head ache today then she will sit quietly.

llos to me that you could step in and help out at home you helped get the kids now ya need to help train them . and you could tel her some troubles your haveing whats with holding back you are to share things to keep marriage on track not take a vacation from your duties!

You sound so sad Neil. Everyone is taking you for granted...the older kids, the younger kids and even your wife. That's just not fair. Your wife needs to teach her kids to obey and respect. Make those younger kids clean up when they finish making a mess. Tell your wife your troubles and stop holding it all in. You cannot go on this way my friend.

It sounds like your wife needs help around the house. Maybe she needs to complain because she doesn't know how to ask you for help. My husband gets mad when I complain about things, but at the same time, if he would help a little more with the stuff around the house, I would not have to complain. It is important to keep communication lines open between you and your wife.

Hi Neil, all the time, although I only a husband, he is wose the five kids put together, lol! and a women's work is never done, she has to do it weather she feels like it or not, there should be a public holiday for all women, lol! big hugs.

Time to turn you both on to tapping.com for release of stress. Each day stress comes at us like a hive of bees, stinging where ever it can reach. So why not use some simple methods to arm yourself and your wife against this. Tapping is simple, it's proven to be a great relief of stress and it's free. What more can you ask?

Getting tired is part of having a family. Time will come when you will get to look back at this moment and laugh at it. You are blessed to have a family. whenever you get tired of the work and responsibilities just think how blessed you are and imagine how some people live their entire lives alone. I am still single and I don't know if I will ever get married. I'm happy though so you dont need to feel sorry for me You and your wife will get over this phase. Zay will eventually grow older and will learn how to clean his room. and knowing how good a person you are, i will pray that you will eventually catch a break, land a better paying job and be able to get a maid or a really advanced washing machine

I sometimes do and I think it's normal for us people to be tired sometimes of the situation. I guess your wife needs to unwind so she can release all her stress inside. All of us have problems to deal with and we can't just stop and rest. Maybe, she's just really tired but it doesn't mean she cares less. She's just human.

My mom always complained before and my dad did not keep quiet at all. So they quarreled with each other. But when time goes on and I have already worked for months , they almost never quarrel. So just be easy and things will get better.

There are days. We all have them. Years from now you will probably look back and think of these as the good old days!

We all need to complain and so you should have a way to vent as well. I think what your wife needs is a day away from the children and responsibilities of home, something that can relax her and then when she comes back she'll feel more calm and maybe even miss the kids and the house work. You yourself need a bit of a vacation, a little stroll around town or something to relax yourself after work. A journal to keep your thoughts in, aggravations at work or home, something to release the stressed mood. An outlet is always good. I hope things improve for you. We all have those times when we feel nothing is going right, and we don't have the opportunity to complain, or are tired of the complaints of home etc.

It comes down to comunication~~~Dont yell!.. dont scream.. ~just talk quietly about your feelings to your partner ...let eachother know what your FEEling. Same with the kids....and the most important thing is to be organized and well rested. been there done that!

Hi Neildc, There are times in life when we get tired of doing something but miss it so much when we stop doing it. Having a family is the most difficult thing in the world but it's the most joyous of all. I believe things will be easier when there is a healthy communication between husbands and wives and things will seems to be easier even when you go through the most difficult everyday tasks. Me and my partner go out once in a while for a date and there are times too when he has to go on his own with his friends and me with my friends. Work and family can be so stressful at times that's why we communicate a lot and even when we argue but we already learned how to compromise and at the end of the day, life turns out to be more beautiful than it was yesterday. :)

Hi ,neildc . Apprently , you seem tired of being a father in a familiy a little bit . Since i have not been married yet ,it is a little ridiculous for me to tell you that i totally understand you .I can imagine how hard it is to breed kids for that i have been a kid .I got to say ,that is life ,maybe not as good as you dream about ,maybe not as wonderful as you think ,but here it lies .Compared to the families in Africa,in which people may be starving for a couple of days,you should feel good if not happy. You can feed your family at least . What do you say ?

I can very well understand how you feel. With an ever complaining wife, i think as the husband you chose to just keep silent of whatever complains you may have so that it will not add up to your wife's concern. Right? But that should not be the case. Both of you should be able to express whatever they feel. That way, they can talk too , of how to deal with them and thresh out whatever problems that there is. Your wife may be always complaining, but when you tell her your pains, she will listen and would do something about it. Try it.