he is not my boyfirend, means we're not official
By Maychii
@Maychii (21)
Philippines
August 18, 2011 2:37am CST
hmm.. it's been almost 3 months since i moved to another city for the reason that Ill be spending my college here.. I just stayed in a boarding house and paid the rent every month. There Ive met a guy and we became friends at the beginning but it was then that we've already exchanged hugs and kisses.. thus I realized that we're physically attracted to each other.. but the problem is, he is not my boyfirend, means we're not official. . it's quite complicated.. What should I do? He just admitted recently that he already had a long distance relationship with a girl before we met..
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4 responses
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Hi maychii, why did you allow the kiss and hugs? He must court you before that happens but it's done we don't have to worry now. The significant thing is that nothing happens really deeper than a kiss. I think the best thing to do is you must control yourself from falling for him because he has girlfriend. It's very wrong to be a third party. I hope you could stop how you feel. The decision is all yours now. Decide wisely. 
@Maychii (21)
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
me myself doesn't know why did I allow him to kiss me and hug me... as of now, Im trying my best not to fall for him.. i tried to avoid him but it's quite hard, it felt like the guy kept stealing glances on my way.. and i missed him easily.. wahhh!! i don't know what to do now..
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
just protect yourself from being hurt. Don;t let him fool you. He must clear up with his long distance before he starts a new affair with you. Because it might be thrown against you someday. What if you'll have relationship with him and you got a long distance too then you find out he's falling for someone else then how would you feel about that? 
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
Really? I think, he is just into you because of lust. He doesn't truly love you. If I were you, I will stop communicating to him and stop seeing him as early as possible.
But if he decided to just break up with his girlfriend, then I guess, it would be okay for the both of you to continue your relationship. If not, just stop. You'll just get hurt in the end.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
He admitted he had a long distance relationship before? It means that one was over and he's ready to start a new one. Are you ready to have an official thing with him?
If you are then what's stopping you?
@shrijsr (574)
• Bangalore, India
18 Aug 11
Hello maychii,
You have already into exchanging hugs and kisses means it won't take any longer for you to move further when you are physically attracted to each other. Still you havent spoken or become official about anything, so you should take a break and first think for yourself whether you could take it to any further or not. After that, you need to have an open talk with the person and get to know what he thinks about things. And when the guy has spoken to you about his past relationship, means, that the guy has shared his past with you, about a relationship, which indicates that the guy might have thought about taking your relationship further. Try and figure out what could be done.
All The Best!
