Can't Get over the "ex" even if you are already in a relationship...

@chiyosan (30206)
August 25, 2011 8:13am CST
Were you ever in this position? that even if you are already in a relationship.. you can't get over your 'ex"? I have this friend who is in a relationship right now, but she is worried, she can't get over the "ex" who hurt her and so she is somehow not letting herself freely love her boyfriend because of what she has experienced the past... do you have anything like this? thank you!!
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@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
30 Aug 11
she can love them both. besides, she's not yet taken right? i know someone who's even married and he still dating secretly with his ex. well, in this case, he's being unfaithful to his wife. but if they are not yet married, i guess if's just fine.
@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
I was already over my ex when I entered a new relationship. Although I admit that there are times that I still remember that person and I still cried for what happened. But it doesn't mean that I still love that person. This is a very difficult phase, to get over with your ex. I was able to overcome it with the help of my friends, family, God and with my will power.
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
Hi chiyosan! I have never been in this situation. With my past relationships, I have never been with a guy while I'm thinking of another guy. I think that would become dishonesty to the current boyfriend. I think it would be unfaithful to be in a relationship where you are in love with someone else. Your friend has two options, either she forget her ex and continue being in a relationship with her current boyfriend, or break up with her boyfriend and continue loving his ex. Because it's just unfair to the current bf if she continues to harbor feelings for her ex.
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
That's why its always not advisable to jump to another relationship soon as you end up with someone. The "moving on" factor of person defends solely on the person involved. While it is true that most "pain" will be eradicated by another love, it is also unjust and unfair for the new love. He/ she will fall in the category-"panakip butas".
• Canada
25 Aug 11
I am in that position right now. I can do things to keep my mind off of my ex temporarily, but as soon as I'm alone doing nothing, he's all I think about. I don't know if you can ever get over a true love.. But if you can accept the fact that it's over then it helps you to get on with your life.