What should i do with this relationship?

@totor_53 (223)
Philippines
August 26, 2011 6:57pm CST
Good day! I am currently in a relationship but i think that our relationship is not that healthy because we still kept it in secret for if we are to find out that we are having an affair for sure one of us would have to quit the job. Also as for me, i still do not possess enough love to compensate her love to me. What should i do? Should i keep holding into this relationship or should i just lower it down to friendship at the mean time?
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6 responses
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
affair? so one of you is married? if thats the case, then you should end it. i cannot tell right away what should be done as the whole situation seem too vague for me. but one thing will surely help you out here- communicate with your partner. should you decide to leave, talk it out with her, no matter how hard it can get.
27 Aug 11
yes that's true. communication is very important in every relationship and that is one way to make your relationship more healthy. and you should give and take.
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
try to talk to her in that situation. Ask God for his guidance. I hope you guys can fix this up and if you're not happy anymore then leave.
27 Aug 11
in every relationship both of you should open with each other and never keep secrets. if your partner is not true to you well for me you should ask for space and give your self time to think the best decision for you and your relationship. and if you already know the answer just make sure that eventually you will not regret. and the decision you will choose will make you happier and contented in life.
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
27 Aug 11
well i don't know. any relationship that stays a secret too long is certainly unhealthy for several reasons. anyway this is actually pretty complicated. i am usually good at giving relationship advice but this time i am not so sure...sorry
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
i think if you can see yourself with this girl in the future, then it is advisable to get out of the relationship soon to avoid further complication and certain hurt feeling. you will also be sparing the other person of the same hurt. the longer it goes, the deeper it becomes, the more and stronger hurt both of you will get, i imagine. friendship seems to be a very good option.
@SydneyJ (903)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Well do you have kids or are you married? If so then you should probably try counciling and try working everything out but if not there's a big chance you two aren't right for each other and you should go your seperate ways.