I Want to Enjoy Life, But It's Hard Especially if You Have This Hatred...

Marikina, Philippines
August 29, 2011 11:31pm CST
There some women who called themselves as misandrist and I am afraid that I am one of them, even if I don't like it. How will I take away this negative feelings? I know its wrong even I said to myself that I do not want to hate men, but my heart would not lie. It's in my heart and I don't want to pretend -- how will I take away this negative feelings? I know its wrong -- totally wrong, but I just can't help myself
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@marguicha (92186)
• Chile
31 Aug 11
I am sorry you have these feelings. It must hurt you a lot and it keeps you from being happy. Why don´t you try to see men as human beings instead of checking at their gender? It´s more than something that is wrong as a whole, it is wrong for you because you don´t like to have these feelings. If they did not bother you, you would not be writing about them. Take care!
@maximax8 (27967)
• United Kingdom
30 Aug 11
I think you may have had a bad experience with a man in the past. Therefore it is best to try to believe some men are nice people. I think that it might help if you try to become friends with a few men. Then you could write down qualities that you like about them. A gentle, caring and thoughtful man would be the best one for you to get to know. A clever, interesting and fascinating man would also be fine for you to get to know. A charming man with similar interests to you would also be a great choice of friend for you. You should let each of these men you want to be friends. Then hopefully knowing these lovely men will re-build your confidence. Good luck.
• United States
30 Aug 11
Okay, let's talk about this. Have you had negative experiences with men? If you have, I know how you feel. I had a hatred for men once, and it was because of how many of them treated me like trash, and wouldn't treat me like a person. I was a bit bitter about men for a long time, but I knew that being this way wasn't going to get me anywhere. Why and how did I come to this conclusion? Well, I thought to myself one day that I had met a few men who weren't really all that bad, and that there had to be some good men out there, they can't all be that bad. Also, I didn't want to be lonely for the rest of my life. Yes, I can hold my own and take care of myself if I need to, but life really sucks when you don't have someone in it. I don't really need a man, I want one. One time, I screamed, "I am NEVER going to find a man!" My friend said to me, "Never say 'Never'!" One day, I met my current boyfriend, and I couldn't believe how nice he was, and I couldn't believe how he was different from other men. You have to let them find you. Don't go looking for them, let them find you. Don't be bitter about it. Be open minded, but have standards. Don't set the bar too high, but don't set the bar low either. Be a little realistic. You have to think of it this way, there are bad women out there, and there are bad men, there are good women and there are good men. You can't go through life completely hating men because it will eat you up inside.