Demoralizing work environment: Should I resign or should I suck it up and stay?

@oreo11 (18)
Guam
August 31, 2011 4:01am CST
I am currently working at a clinic for almost two years, and all I can say is I am not happy at all. When I applied there, I thought it would be a nice place to work. My patients will be children, I LOVE CHILDREN! and I'll get to work with people in the same profession and in the same age bracket. I was really excited. But when I started working there, I've noticed that my co workers had a lot of drama among themselves. I mean, there's drama everywhere you go, but this one was just too much for a staff of 10 people. I came from a multi billion company where people get paid by commission, so everyone's like a shark trying to get every transaction they can and reach their monthly goal, and that causes drama, but not as much as I witnessed in the clinic. Anyways, I got to taste some of that drama. There would be times when my co workers wont talk to me unless it about work for about 2 weeks, and then talk to me again as if nothing happened. Sometimes, they give me an attitude while I ask them a question about work or respond sarcastically and laugh at me when I make a mistake. There are also times that they just leave me by myself at the clinic when they all go out together for lunch without asking me to go with them. Not to think I'm special for me to think that its just me, but its actually demoralizing and lately they make me feel like I'm stupid. And if you think that's bad, wait till you hear about my boss. I was starting to get the hang of the work load, when I needed to check with the insurance about a procedure they cover, and my boss was right in front of me, she couldn't hear the other person on the other line, and when she thought I said something wrong she punched me hard on the arm and grabbed the phone from my hand. I was so mad, and when she heard that what I told her in the first place was right, and I did not say anything wrong, she didn't even bother to apologize. Sometimes she'll slap my hand, pinch me on my side, and when I make a mistake she'll tell everyone at work and laugh at me. It's a very stressful environment, I never experienced this in my previous work, especially while I was pregnant. So what my lotters, should I quit or should I swallow my pride and stay???
3 responses
@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
31 Aug 11
It depends on what is impirtant (impt) to you right now. Is having a regular paycheck at the end of the mth impt to you? Or is maintaining your sanity and health more impt? If you plan to quit, I think it will be wise to ensure that you have adequate funds to cover your expenses (and your family's expenses if you are the sole breadwinner) for at least several mths while you look for another job. Since you mentioned that you are pregnant, I think it may be advisable for you to quit your job (provided you have enough funds) for the sake of your own health (physical and emotional/mental health) and for the sake of your unborn baby. A mother's mood can affect her unborn child.
@oreo11 (18)
• Guam
31 Aug 11
I already gave birth, but honestly, I don't want to go back there anymore. :( No the girls are trying to be nice since I had the baby. But when I got sick during my pregnancy they never checked on me or asked how I was, and then when I go to the clinic to get checked they ask me when I'm coming back, or if I can't handle it just be a stay at home mom... I already spoke with our manager and she agrees there have been too much drama about petty stuff. They get mad at me that I haven't finished 3 weeks worth of filing, they never thought that I was sick for 3 weeks. When they found out I was seeing a specialist for my condition, they gave me this look and asked "why?". It really been stressful since I started working there. I'm actually thinking about going back to my old job in Sales, but my boyfriend says if I go back then how am I going to pursue my career in the medical field.
• Singapore
1 Sep 11
Is it not possible for you to work in another clinic since I suppose you really want a career switch? It's stressful to work in a demoralising work environment with lots of drama. Personally, I don't like that kind of environment. What do you plan to do now? Stay on or leave? Good luck to you, whether you choose to leave or stay put.
• Philippines
31 Aug 11
people who stay in a job they're not happy with often die early deaths. find something that makes you happy. if you found it and it can pay the bills, stick with it and live longer
@oreo11 (18)
• Guam
31 Aug 11
I'm happy here at home. That's why I'm trying to look for a job I can do from home. Maybe I'll try to do the freelancing job. I did want to become a writer.
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
31 Aug 11
Sometimes, we have to weigh things. If it's not yet practical to leave just hang on in there. But if you feel like you have bodily reactions each time you wake up and go to the office, then I guess, it's time that you need to rethink. In the end, you have to ask if it's psychologically healthy for you to stay. Monetary needs may give us a reason, but when it's our body saying no, then do not hesitate to leave.
@oreo11 (18)
• Guam
31 Aug 11
i think that's why I suddenly got sick during my 3rd trimester. I just didn't want to handle all the bull at work. That's why I am looking for a job online. Cause I dont have anyone to watch my baby if I go back to work.