To stay or to go...

@cjfoust (614)
United States
September 3, 2011 9:08pm CST
How do you know when to stay or when to go? For example, if a couple has been married for six years and have an eight month old child and the husband cheats, should the wife stay or go? Of course he comes crying and apologizing once the wife finds out about the affair. The woman is also married, is only 22, and has a child three months older than your own. The cheating went on for three months. He came home every night except for one weekend in which they took a nice trip to the beach. What would you do?
8 responses
@Simon1223 (902)
• China
5 Sep 11
If I were that wife, I would figure out the reasons why my husband made such a terrible mistake. I would rethink whether I did something wrong which should partly responsible for his mistake. If the answer was definite and my husband promised to cut off the relationship between that woman and him thoroughly, I would give him an opportunity to prove his promise, which was also an opportunity for myself. But if he could not keep his promise, there would be no more opportunities.
@dimple71 (25)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
maybe if you are not a muslim its to hard in our part as a wife that we "many". I have to confront my husband and let him choose. Maybe at first its to hard but you don't have peace of mind thinking that your partner is sleeping another woman. Attention maybe devided. What will you say to your child if he is w/ the other woman?How will you explain to your child? It will create a psychological impact to the child.
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
4 Sep 11
I have been a similar situation, and I left with my son. No one deserves to be cheated on, especially when kids are involved because it makes the situation even harder to deal with. It isn't just taking the couple and tearing them apart it is taking a whole family and tearing them apart.
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
4 Sep 11
I have been a similar situation, and I left with my son. No one deserves to be cheated on, especially when kids are involved because it makes the situation even harder to deal with. It isn't just taking the couple and tearing them apart it is taking a whole family and tearing them apart.
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
If it's the first time that the husband cheats,then maybe the wife can still forgive the husband and give him a chance for the sake of their child.When the husband will continue his cheating then it's better for the wife to ask for a divorce and live separately than to live a miserable life with him.
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
Then he was not sincere about the word he said about being sorry since he did it again when he went away on that weekend. Sorry to hear that but it is up for you to decide now if ever but just pray for your husband that God would change his heart. Check yourself also what have you done that might have caused this, have you lacked something? did you do anything that might end up your hubby committing adultery? if not then just cry it all out to God so that your marriage may still be save if not then settle your relationship with God first.
• China
4 Sep 11
I feel sorry for your puzzle. Dont be so despair about your situation .I think you should ask yourself ,do you trust him anymore, do you need him anymore, does he deserve your belief. And you should have a self-examination, be sure you have fullfill your responsibility as a wife. I hope you can calm down. Wish you everything OK.
@Judy890 (1633)
• United States
4 Sep 11
If I was in that woman's situation I would leave no one deserves to be cheated on it hurts peoples feelings its shows no respect for your partner of course they come crying after the woman threatens to leave them he should've thought twice before cheating on her.